Cheating on girlfriend

[Diamondstar]

Hi, I have a girlfriend that I have been going out with for a while, and we have sex occasionally. But recently I had sex with one of my female friends, and I feel really guilty about it. My girlfriend made me promise never to cheat on her, since her previous boyfriend did and that if I did she'd dump me. While I am in love with my girlfriend and more romantically attracted to them, I am more sexually attracted to this other friend and I think i might grow to love them if I tried. what Should I do? :(

[Syvelocin]

I think you'd probably already know the answer: you've got a decision to make.

The sooner you tell your girlfriend, the less will go to shit. Can't promise you it won't go to shit anyway because you betrayed her trust, but the sooner you come out about it, the more likely she'll be to forgive you. You've got to weigh your priorities. You love this girl, present tense. Why just toss her when it's still good? If you didn't love her, that's a completely different story. But when you're in love, as you claim, that's a powerful statement there. You should know it's very petty to throw something like that away for sex if that's truly how you feel about your girlfriend. Again, it depends on your priorities.

[highschool]

you need to tell her what you did and build from there.

[Cece14]

Tell her, cuz she will start to hear rumors

[Cygnus]

Yeah… you cheat on her, best to tell her and break up, having two girlfriends is never a good thing, and if you think the thing with her other friend will develop to love then you sure as hell should break up, you can't love two at a time when it comes to this situation.

[Plasma]

If you're having doubts about her now, chances are they will only increase later on. Might as well spare her a little heartbreak

[Waleedbt]

Let her know, i dont understand how you cheat on her but still say you love her.

[hoboliz]

It's not that you had sex that will hurt her. It's that you betrayed her. You have to tell her what you did if you're actually serious about loving her. Then have a serious talk about why you cheated. Monogamy isn't for everyone, and maybe she'll understand. Or she'll punch you in the face and tell everyone you have a small penis. It could go either way.

[Jevon]

Well it sounds like you fucked up...breaking your promise will probably make her lose trust in you so good luck if you end up telling her

[Beltway]

Just break up this will become a power struggle you should tell her what happened so she doesn't find out herself.

[mrpieface2]

I would tell her. No one likes a liar. Am I right?

[Melodic]

I would tell her, but before that you need to decide which one you love more. It's not gonna be easy but it also will prevent future drama between the two girls.

[jesusogpaign]

Yeah, it's not gonna be pretty either way, but you gotta tell her. YOU made the mistake here. YOU fucked up. Now you gotta own up to it. It'll hurt her, probably end your relationship, but if you really love her (which is debatable because you cheated) you'll tell her now, because it'll hurt her more to hear it from someone else much later

[Gabo0307]

if you you cant decide between the two girls chose the second one cause if you loved the
first one you wouldn't have fallen for the second one

[Seemyheart]

You should just tell her. you made the mistake by cheating, now you gotta own up to it. it's gonna be hard to tell the truth to the girl you supposedly love, but that guilt will never go away if you don't tell her.
Sexual attraction isnt the only thing, let alone the most important thing. gotta have a deeper connection, not just for sex. if the girl you cheated with, has a deeper connection, maybe you should try with her... but if it's for sex, that's, in a way, using her. just think about your motives.. either way, you might lose your gf, or the other girl, or both.. its a hard situation

[Cassius]

I think you'd probably already know the answer: you've got a decision to make.

The sooner you tell your girlfriend, the less will go to shit. Can't promise you it won't go to shit anyway because you betrayed her trust, but the sooner you come out about it, the more likely she'll be to forgive you. You've got to weigh your priorities. You love this girl, present tense. Why just toss her when it's still good? If you didn't love her, that's a completely different story. But when you're in love, as you claim, that's a powerful statement there. You should know it's very petty to throw something like that away for sex if that's truly how you feel about your girlfriend. Again, it depends on your priorities.

Amen! I agree. Also stop having intercourse.

[LouBerry]

Hi, I have a girlfriend that I have been going out with for a while, and we have sex occasionally. But recently I had sex with one of my female friends, and I feel really guilty about it. My girlfriend made me promise never to cheat on her, since her previous boyfriend did and that if I did she'd dump me. While I am in love with my girlfriend and more romantically attracted to them, I am more sexually attracted to this other friend and I think i might grow to love them if I tried. what Should I do? :(

How about this, you don't deserve either girl. You need to be honest with your girlfriend, because she deserves way better than that shit. And, if you like the other girl, then you should talk to her about all this, if she doesn't already know. But honestly, you just need to sit out on dating until you can grow the fuck up.

[dreamofdante]

Hi, I have a girlfriend that I have been going out with for a while, and we have sex occasionally. But recently I had sex with one of my female friends, and I feel really guilty about it. My girlfriend made me promise never to cheat on her, since her previous boyfriend did and that if I did she'd dump me. While I am in love with my girlfriend and more romantically attracted to them, I am more sexually attracted to this other friend and I think i might grow to love them if I tried. what Should I do? :(

I really don't want to come off like an asshole here but I'm sorry. Cheating really pisses me off no matter what intentions you had. Your girlfriend should be your one and only. ONE and ONLY. If you can't handle that, then don't date anyone. Just fuck around like you clearly want to do. It's selfish and to add insult to injury you know she got cheated on before. Where was your conscience? If I was in your shoes, I'd be happy just to have a loving girlfriend that is willing to sleep with me. I've never even kissed a girl. You need to appreciate what you have more, man. Honestly, I don't care if you lose both but you need to come out and be honest if you want to redeem yourself in any way. You tell your girlfriend what you did and if you care, apologize. If she dumps you then so be it. She has more than enough right to do so. This is my advice. If I came off like a dick, then it's because I hate it when people cheat. It's selfish and careless.

[Myxox]

You need to break up with your GF if you want to be with the other girl.