Mental SH

[Synyster Shadows]

Anybody else do this? I tend to put myself down a lot (don't know why) and my head's now wired in this mindset of being worthless. I don't cut (though I have on one or two really bad occasions had the urge to do so) but I do this mental self-harming. I met the girl of my dreams (and it turns out she likes me back) and then it stopped for a while but now it's back again. Suggestions to stop it, pretty much permanently? I don't know what's going on with my head.

[Desuetude]

Yeah I'm pretty down on myself, I don't consider there to be anything positive about me but the only ways to bring your self confidence up is to think positively. How about you keep a book and every evening you write one thing that happened during the day/about yourself that you thought was good. Maybe you liked your hair that morning or you did well in maths or you made yourself a great sandwhich. No matter how small just write everything positive about yourself. Over time the list will gradually grow and you'll see that the list of things that are good about yourself outweigh the bad things. You could even get other people to write what they like about you and look back over the things you and others have written when you're being hard on yourself.

You need to accept yourself and build up your self-esteem before you can let anyone else be in your life. Maybe confide in this girl you like and tell her about what you're feeling if you're comfortable enough. Having support can sometimes make it a whole lot easier. Don't give up, it'll take time to see yourself in a completely new light but eventually, hopefully it'll be worth it.

[LouBerry]

I do it too, and it's probably worse than physical SH, really.

Unfortunately, you'll probably have to find your own way out. You think differently than anyone else, so what works for me, probably won't work for you. One thing the might help though, is surround yourself with positive people. If you are hanging out with a bunch of, the glass is half empty all the time, people, it'll only bring you down.

[Synyster Shadows]

How about you keep a book and every evening you write one thing that happened during the day/about yourself that you thought was good. Over time the list will gradually grow and you'll see that the list of things that are good about yourself outweigh the bad things. You could even get other people to write what they like about you and look back over the things you and others have written when you're being hard on yourself.

You need to accept yourself and build up your self-esteem before you can let anyone else be in your life. Maybe confide in this girl you like and tell her about what you're feeling if you're comfortable enough.

Thanks for the ideas, Nikki. I recently took a class at a local college (part of an educational program taught by students) and one of the courses was how to get happier. The writing was a suggestion they had and they gave each of us little journals to write our thoughts and whatever in. I think that'll help me...

[Desuetude]

Thanks for the ideas, Nikki. I recently took a class at a local college (part of an educational program taught by students) and one of the courses was how to get happier. The writing was a suggestion they had and they gave each of us little journals to write our thoughts and whatever in. I think that'll help me...
It's good to get all your thoughts out so they're not all kept inside you. I think it's worth giving it a try, keep persevering at it and hopefully over time you'll start to see an improvement in your mood.

[Dannibabi]

I've been doing this for years. Although there was always plenty of people to do it for me if I got tired of doing it to myself....

[ksdnfkfr]

Counseling and therapy is what helped me.
I learned why I was thinking bad things about
myself and how do deal with those thoughts.
And it is still an ongoing process.

[Synyster Shadows]

Update: things are a lot better now. There's still a bit of an urge but it's very insignificant. It came about from combination of journaling and talking to my girlfriend - basically just letting it all out. For anyone that still does it, let this be a reminder that things will get better if you try. :)