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ZelenHimihal
November 17th, 2013, 06:28 PM
Hi guys.New to the forums here
Let me tell you some things about me first before i begin with the actual story i have to share with you.
Im from a small country in Europe, Im 17 and im defienetly not a guy you would see as someone who could get depressed easily.
I do lots of sports, Im a boxer and I go to the gym often too, I have a high social status in school, nobody bullies me, nobody hates me or stuff like that.
Im also one of the guys (not to brag just wanna point this) who gets the girls, one of those jackasses who doesnt really care about them a lot, someone who used to think he will never love a girl passionately.
Well this all changed when i logged in a site called Omegle where you chat with total strangers.
Met a girl there, she was 18, she was like really nice person to talk to, we really had fun chatting, so I asked here for her facebook and she gave it to me.Luckily for me she was a real beauty - incredible girl.But didnt really like her at first since she lives far from me, in another town, so I knew a relationship wouldnt be a good idea...but time passed and we fell inlove.
Well I did, and back then I think she did too.She came to my city and we actually hooked up..Then I started to love her...A LOT.We started talking on the phone everyday, chatting everyday, sending messages every day and not soon after we actually decide to have a relationship together.So i started visting her ever 3-4 weeks in her city and we really had it going, we did argue a lot, but we would always apologise to each other and continue the relationship.
I became madly inlove, something I didnt think that existed...I thought she was too, maybe she was, maybe she still is...
But 2 weeks ago we had a fight where i kinda had fault but she also did.
However I decided that i would be the one to apologise so when I tried to, she didnt respond to me on skype..I started calling her and after 3 calls she only send me a text message "Let me sleep" And i really got mad and broke up with her.Since then she hasnt talked to me and Im really depressed that its over...Cannot get over it, Pretty sure thats one of my big loves if not the biggest Ill ever have.But I love myself the most.I wont talk to her, she needs to apologise...however its killing me inside that we arent together...My friends tell me that if Im the one to apologise again, I would look pathetic..Im not pathetic.
Please help me...Please... im drinking pills to feel good, I dont want this...you have to help me.
Thank you if you read that!

Conqueror of Hearts
November 19th, 2013, 10:14 AM
Give her a few days space, apologize again, mean it, and don't tell you that you love yourself the most, because you sound like an ass when you say that. If you really, truly, madly, deeply love her as you said you do, then you'll do anything to get her back. Apologize 100 more times till it's not too late.

gracie135
November 19th, 2013, 02:38 PM
It's not pathetic to apologize. When a guy hurts you and he refuses to acknowledge it or apologize for it, it just makes him look like a jerk and hurts even more. I know how you feel, though, when you say you feel like you couldn't love anyone more deeply. It's tough. I think it's sweet that you love her so much, and if you really want her in your life, you need to talk to her again. Just kindly tell her that you feel like she needs to apologize too, but that you're really sorry and are willing to forgive her for whatever the fight was about. That she means a lot to you and that you really care about her.

ZelenHimihal
November 19th, 2013, 05:43 PM
Ty for your responses guys.
Yes I really do madly love her, pretty much losing here would mean to me losing myself in a strange kind of way.
I will not let anyone be with her except for me.
So i decided i will talk to her again...I asked her if its over.
She told me that I broke up with her and its dumb to give questions like that.
So i said im sorry for that and I didnt mean it.But she told me to move on.
I cant move on.I just cant.
I dont wanna let her go...She told me she will chat me up again to tell me why we should not continue with this relationship, so im waiting for that, but I have no hope and again Im not eating anything and I feel terrible...maybe i should see a psychaitrist but I really dont want people to know about my depression.

LouBerry
November 19th, 2013, 05:48 PM
Ty for your responses guys.
Yes I really do madly love her, pretty much losing here would mean to me losing myself in a strange kind of way.
I will not let anyone be with her except for me.
So i decided i will talk to her again...I asked her if its over.
She told me that I broke up with her and its dumb to give questions like that.
So i said im sorry for that and I didnt mean it.But she told me to move on.
I cant move on.I just cant.
I dont wanna let her go...She told me she will chat me up again to tell me why we should not continue with this relationship, so im waiting for that, but I have no hope and again Im not eating anything and I feel terrible...maybe i should see a psychaitrist but I really dont want people to know about my depression.

First of all, you do not own her. She is her own person, and she can be with anyone she wants to be.

Also, you dumped her, and seem extremely rude, so back off or she's never going to speak to you again.

And if you are seriously suffering from clinical depression, you need to talk to a psychiatrist. If you feel fine after a good cry and a bowl of Ben and Jerry's, you should be okay not to.

ZelenHimihal
November 19th, 2013, 06:23 PM
I thought the forum is about support - not flaming somebody who has problems?

LouBerry
November 19th, 2013, 06:34 PM
I thought the forum is about support - not flaming somebody who has problems?

It is about support, and also about advice. I'm telling you that you're being a jerk to help you. If you don't back off that girl, she'll have nothing to do with you. Would you rather me tell you that you're doing everything right, and don't worry, thing will be fine? 'Cause that's not going to help you. I'm telling you how it is.

ZelenHimihal
November 19th, 2013, 06:48 PM
I think u dont know the story man.
I Dont think I am a jerk to start of with.I did so many things for her.And after all now Iapologised.
U just dont know the story, but trust me, I have never been a jerk with this girl.She is my all.

LouBerry
November 19th, 2013, 06:55 PM
And i really got mad and broke up with her.

That doesn't sound too nice.

But I love myself the most.I wont talk to her, she needs to apologise...

That definitely sounds Jerk-ish.

My friends tell me that if Im the one to apologise again, I would look pathetic..Im not pathetic.

Yep, definitely jerkish.

Also, I'm not a man, man.

Sandra Main
November 19th, 2013, 07:34 PM
A relationship requires comprises,devotion,honesty,understanding and a whole lot of work on
both parties. It is not a one sided.