How to address my girlfriend's self harm history?

[jesusogpaign]

I recently started dating this girl, and I noticed she had scars on her wrists, and I couldn't tell, but maybe recent self-harm scars on her thighs too. I don't know if I should bring this up, and tell her I'm there for her if she needs help or support, or if I shouldn't bring it up at all.

I've barely done any self-harming in the past, but I do have clinical depression, so I feel like I have a good understanding of what she's going through.

Thoughts?

[ElijahMouth]

I think it would be fine to ask her about it. Make sure she gets the impression that you are genuinely interested and are in support of her. If she doesn't want to talk about it, then just leave it at that.

[Castle of Glass]

nonononono. don't approach her over it, atleast not in the "i know you cut yourself, don't do it again way"

care for her. over time she may or may not tell you, but try to wait for that moment. Or if you do tell her you have seen the scars/cuts, don't tell her to stop. tell her you really do support her and that she is special for you. but don't get mad at her at any time, especially if she relapses.

[jesusogpaign]

Ok, I did just what you both suggested. I told her I noticed the scars, and that if she ever wanted to talk about it I would be there for her. She kinda opened up after that.