Virginity

[Squalala]

I lost my virginity mere months ago at the age of 19 to my only girlfriend ever whom I only was with for three months, but instead of feeling happy, I'm still angry and bitter over the fact that I spent my entire childhood and teenage years alone, while everybody else seems to have absolutely no problem entering relationships or having sex.

Why do I have such a hard time getting a date or getting laid? I'm good-looking, 6'0", 160 lbs., athletic. I talk to girls at school, work, bars, clubs and online, but to no avail. Everyone seems to have had such a good time since they were like 13, but I had to wait and suffer during what are supposed to be the best years of your life, even though I've always yearned for love and been true to myself.

Can anybody help me? Just talk to me? I'm so jealous of everyone else, I feel like punching a wall or beating someone up.

[Elysium]

Questions for Both :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[deregisterme]

You're not alone on that ne. I'm 17, still a virgin and sometimes just really want it. I sometimes wander how many people that say they have done actually have.

[darthearth]

I lost my virginity mere months ago at the age of 19 to my only girlfriend ever whom I only was with for three months, but instead of feeling happy, I'm still angry and bitter over the fact that I spent my entire childhood and teenage years alone, while everybody else seems to have absolutely no problem entering relationships or having sex.

Why do I have such a hard time getting a date or getting laid? I'm good-looking, 6'0", 160 lbs., athletic. I talk to girls at school, work, bars, clubs and online, but to no avail. Everyone seems to have had such a good time since they were like 13, but I had to wait and suffer during what are supposed to be the best years of your life, even though I've always yearned for love and been true to myself.

Can anybody help me? Just talk to me? I'm so jealous of everyone else, I feel like punching a wall or beating someone up.

So have 4 times as much sex throughout your 20's, you'll end up blowing everyone away. It's just the "introvert" thing that would be challenging to get past, try to find friends who can take you places and hook you up like at bars or parties. If Miley Cyrus is any indication colleges have sex parties.

[Squalala]

You're not alone on that ne. I'm 17, still a virgin and sometimes just really want it. I sometimes wander how many people that say they have done actually have.

I feel you. I hope they're lying 'cause if they aren't, I really feel like a mess.

So have 4 times as much sex throughout your 20's, you'll end up blowing everyone away. It's just the "introvert" thing that would be challenging to get past, try to find friends who can take you places and hook you up like at bars or parties. If Miley Cyrus is any indication colleges have sex parties.

Easier said than done. How can I do it as much if I can't even have some now? I'm not an introvert anymore. I actually speak my mind all the time, but even being myself doesn't get me anywhere. I used to be the nice guy, but now, I don't care as much about what people think of me. I do go to bars and parties, alone and with friends, but to no avail.

I LOL'ed at Miley Cyrus. Obviously, I know that college has those. I go to college.

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[darthearth]

I feel you. I hope they're lying 'cause if they aren't, I really feel like a mess.



Easier said than done. How can I do it as much if I can't even have some now? I'm not an introvert anymore. I actually speak my mind all the time, but even being myself doesn't get me anywhere. I used to be the nice guy, but now, I don't care as much about what people think of me. I do go to bars and parties, alone and with friends, but to no avail.

I LOL'ed at Miley Cyrus. Obviously, I know that college has those. I go to college.

Posts merged. Next time, please use the "Edit" or "Multi-Quote" buttons. ~Elysium

Well, I meant have 4 times as much as everyone else had in their teens, not have 4 times as much as what you've had. I just thought that if you were active enough throughout your 20's (you're still young then) you could in the end have gotten more sex than most others. It's a possibility isn't it? Don't give up quite yet, you still have time.

[Dark Unicorn]

I feel you. I hope they're lying 'cause if they aren't, I really feel like a mess.



Easier said than done. How can I do it as much if I can't even have some now? I'm not an introvert anymore. I actually speak my mind all the time, but even being myself doesn't get me anywhere. I used to be the nice guy, but now, I don't care as much about what people think of me. I do go to bars and parties, alone and with friends, but to no avail.

I LOL'ed at Miley Cyrus. Obviously, I know that college has those. I go to college.

Posts merged. Next time, please use the "Edit" or "Multi-Quote" buttons. ~Elysium

This is just my opinion but I figured maybe it's your conscience telling you not to do it subconsciously.Maybe you are the kind of person who waits for love to open the door to intimacy so each time you get the chance,your inner voice tells you to back out.So I reckon maybe focus on love and a deeper connection and who knows where that might take you.Best wishes and feel free to message me.

[Squalala]

Well, I meant have 4 times as much as everyone else had in their teens, not have 4 times as much as what you've had. I just thought that if you were active enough throughout your 20's (you're still young then) you could in the end have gotten more sex than most others. It's a possibility isn't it? Don't give up quite yet, you still have time.

Thanks for the encouragement. It's just that I tried all high school to be successful, but never got anything. People used to tell me that it's OK because I'm young, so I've been hearing the same thing since forever. And I can't imagine myself having more sex than anybody as everyone seems to have it so easy while I have to work so hard for it, and I do. I really take the appropriate steps and put all the efforts into it, but I seem to lack natural talent towards girls. Am I born with weak genes or what? It's like asking Oscar Pistorius to beat Usain Bolt.

[darthearth]

Thanks for the encouragement. It's just that I tried all high school to be successful, but never got anything. People used to tell me that it's OK because I'm young, so I've been hearing the same thing since forever. And I can't imagine myself having more sex than anybody as everyone seems to have it so easy while I have to work so hard for it, and I do. I really take the appropriate steps and put all the efforts into it, but I seem to lack natural talent towards girls. Am I born with weak genes or what? It's like asking Oscar Pistorius to beat Usain Bolt.

Well, you are old enough to go online to adult dating sites. I think that is your best bet if the sex parties don't work. That's all I can think of, that way you both are expecting things to happen the way you want them to happen more. And you can see pics of each other and get things done that way.

[highschool]

Honestly, the high school years are not the best years of your life. I know i'm only 16, but everyone i've talked to agrees with me. 18-25 are the best years. and just because you're having tons of sex, doesn't mean you're super happy. Many people are super content and non-active.