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Lovelife090994
November 16th, 2013, 07:01 AM
Ugh, I have no idea what to do and I have no idea what is wrong with me! It's frustrating, especially because my only family member, my mother, has no clue and isn't helping. It is bad enough that I am depressed and lonely, not in college yet and at home because of it but now my mother is making me real worse about myself than I already do.

Lately, I can't sleep, and I have never had friends or been social, I just am not that social of a person. Apparently I'm not that religious or spiritual either since I do not like going to church, seldom read my Bible, and now have my mother saying my insomnia is from me not being in church. If my mother keeps using faith against me I am probably going to be straight up atheist! God doesn't judge or force us to him so I will not let my mother judge me spiritually on his behalf mininster or not.

It's bad enough I have no self-esteem and am a young looking twig of a 19 year old who doesn't drive which makes me feel worse and unstable. It's bad enough having a mother who cares yet one I cannot tell all too when I need to tell someone. Also, the situation is not good when I am questioning my faith, existence, and future if any and ending that aforementioned with "if any". On the outside you'd never know I was torn but on the inside I am in disarray! I hate this! First I am unsure of out of all things my sexuality, then my body, faith, and now my future and whether or not I want to continue. No, not suicide, I could never, not even at gunpoint. I am frustrated and am tired of my family not being able to help and tired of being judged for how torn I feel. I've had it! I can get through a lot but this, the confusion, self-hate, and judging takes the cake and the party it's in!

I wish I wasn't so socially and mentally awkward but I can't go anywhere and I'm stuck at home. I hate being hit how all of this is my fault when I do tell my own mother. Even she has something negative about it and she hates negativity! I wish things were different and that money wasn't so tough.

Life cannot be this gray, surely no. There must be some light right? Surely one can be more confident and surely even I can find help. I don't know what to do. I've always been able to come up with an answer or talk to someone when I did need it but now I can't. I'm stuck. I'm at the end of my rope except unlike most I do not have a loaded gun at my head with my hand on the trigger. I'm just plain lost. It's crazy. Maybe I am, maybe it takes crazy to want to get out of depression for once and have answers. I just need something, some advice, anything, please!

Dark Unicorn
November 16th, 2013, 09:38 AM
Hi there Christopher.I'm Chiedza and I hope it's okay that I used your first name.I can honestly say I can relate to what you are saying.I feel like my faith has let me down and I feel horrible about feeling like that about God.Things have been terrible for five years and I can't seem to get out of this rut no matter how much effort I put into it.All I can tell you is that you should just hold on to God because chances are,he spotted a strong and brave soul in you and this passing(VERY MUCH PASSING) depression is a test.Think Job and his encounters with Satan.Other than that,you could try social activities that don't necessarily need you to go up to someone and talk to them like maybe joining a sports club or something(which might improve your body image which by the way I don't see any flaws in).As for that loneliness,hey,here's one person who could use a friend too(me!:) ).Sometimes things don't seem so bad when you can talk to someone about it.Especially someone who can relate to you and not judge.And prayer's good too because God really does LOVE you no matter what.I hope that you find this helpful.And if you need to and want to I would love to be your friend and help you in any way I can.Best wishes and God bless!

Lovelife090994
November 16th, 2013, 03:07 PM
Hi there Christopher.I'm Chiedza and I hope it's okay that I used your first name.I can honestly say I can relate to what you are saying.I feel like my faith has let me down and I feel horrible about feeling like that about God.Things have been terrible for five years and I can't seem to get out of this rut no matter how much effort I put into it.All I can tell you is that you should just hold on to God because chances are,he spotted a strong and brave soul in you and this passing(VERY MUCH PASSING) depression is a test.Think Job and his encounters with Satan.Other than that,you could try social activities that don't necessarily need you to go up to someone and talk to them like maybe joining a sports club or something(which might improve your body image which by the way I don't see any flaws in).As for that loneliness,hey,here's one person who could use a friend too(me!:) ).Sometimes things don't seem so bad when you can talk to someone about it.Especially someone who can relate to you and not judge.And prayer's good too because God really does LOVE you no matter what.I hope that you find this helpful.And if you need to and want to I would love to be your friend and help you in any way I can.Best wishes and God bless!

Thanks Chiedza, I will think all this over and absorb it and I hope that this depression isn't a test, I've had it for years. I also will keep in touch.

Dark Unicorn
November 16th, 2013, 03:19 PM
Thanks Chiedza, I will think all this over and absorb it and I hope that this depression isn't a test, I've had it for years. I also will keep in touch.

Sure:)