absence makes the heart grow fonder?

[Paladino]

Hello! So, I was just wondering is the whole "absence makes the heart grow fonder" thing true? I mean like I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months anc we are with each other everyday that it almost doesn't feel like 'spending quality time' with eachother anymore, its more like a routine you know? I still enjoy myself most of the time however! I love her to the end of the earth and back and would happily commit to her for the rest of my life. We saw each other every day at that start for the first few weeks then I moved house and it wasn't as easy to see each other but after I had settled we saw eachother like 3 times during the week and all our friends and us would drink together at the weekend. Then I started a job where I would be working 3 full days in the week so I hardly saw anybody I knew! And since I quit its been everyday I see her, give or take the odd 2nd week where I don't see for 1 day.

What I am basically asking is, if I stopped spending as much time with her and made it out to be more of an occassion if you like, would it be better for us?

[Blood]

I don't see anything wrong with wanting to take a break from seeing her everyday. Everyone needs a break. And yes, it could be better for your overall relationship. You guys are a couple, but that doesn't mean you need to spend every waking minute together.

[Paladino]

Thank you

[Melodic]

Well I haven't seen my boyfriend in over a year, and we still have the same feelings for each other possibly even more feelings. So yeah, it just really depends on the relationship honestly

[Syvelocin]

I'd say it depends on your personality, the person's personality, and who the person is.

Part of me wants to say breaking it off isn't the way to go, but to try harder. Hanging out isn't special. Come up with new, unique things to do. Be spontaneous. This is the sort of rut married people get into and the exact thing they should be doing. Generally, I'd say if breaking it off is the only way to rekindle the romance, there's something amiss in the relationship.

The other part has to do with personalities. I have dated some... incompatible people before who are insane and needy and expect to hang out with you every day. I dated a Scorpio (no offence if a Scorpio reads this) and I got really sick of her after only a month. This is who they are though. I'm a Taurus and that stuff doesn't really do well with me, so my current girlfriend as a Virgo is a really good match for me. We do spend a lot of time together, but we make the effort to get away from each other because we do start to do that married thing where you stop the romance and go full domestic.

Generally speaking, the phrase is right. It may be within the same month that I'm distracted and not paying much attention to my girlfriend but then I go visit someone for a while or something, I come home and I'm moth and she's a lamp. But the sort of absence you're talking about isn't necessary for a healthy relationship.

[Paladino]

I'd say it depends on your personality, the person's personality, and who the person is.

Part of me wants to say breaking it off isn't the way to go, but to try harder. Hanging out isn't special. Come up with new, unique things to do. Be spontaneous. This is the sort of rut married people get into and the exact thing they should be doing. Generally, I'd say if breaking it off is the only way to rekindle the romance, there's something amiss in the relationship.

The other part has to do with personalities. I have dated some... incompatible people before who are insane and needy and expect to hang out with you every day. I dated a Scorpio (no offence if a Scorpio reads this) and I got really sick of her after only a month. This is who they are though. I'm a Taurus and that stuff doesn't really do well with me, so my current girlfriend as a Virgo is a really good match for me. We do spend a lot of time together, but we make the effort to get away from each other because we do start to do that married thing where you stop the romance and go full domestic.

Generally speaking, the phrase is right. It may be within the same month that I'm distracted and not paying much attention to my girlfriend but then I go visit someone for a while or something, I come home and I'm moth and she's a lamp. But the sort of absence you're talking about isn't necessary for a healthy relationship.

Part of me, and I mean a small part of me wants to finish it with her, but I know that if I do, a month or 2 down the line I would SERIOUSLY regret it, which is why I am trying my best to not see her for a few days to see if it makes me want her more or less, I am going to see her today to talk about it and see how it goes.

[thatgurlLynda]

you dont need a "break" , you guys just need space ...
its good for the both of you .
some days apart , yess .. it makes you guys miss each other.
&&more
soo yeahh , yall just chill.
text n tlk everyday. - see each other , every other or few days .
it works !