Is he lying to me?

[YellowBlur]

Hey, I'm new here and not sure if this is the right forum to post this topic, I hope someone will move it if necessary ;)
So I have this friend who used to get bullied in the past, because he speaks with a high and a bit girly voice, plus he loves pop music, divas and such, hangs out mostly with the girls (he's not that bullied anymore since people around are getting more mature), but he's always said that he is straight. We're really close and have talked about that, and he insists to me that he likes only girls. He knows I'm gay, by the way. I'm out.
A couple days ago, a friend of ours said that he told him he was gay. He also said that the girls he hangs out with know as well and that no one else is supposed to know, including me. I got really mad and confused about that... since he knows I'm gay, shouldn't I be the first person he comes out to? I haven't talked to him about that, I'm afraid he'll get mad at our other friend for telling me and I don't know how to face him with that. What should I do? Why do you think he's hiding that from me? I don't think our friend would lie to me, he has no reason to.:(

[Living For Love]

Ask him why hasn't he told you that he was gay and say that you heard it on a conversation (don't mention your other friend). You don't know if all that is being said is true, they can just be teasing him saying he is gay. If it turns out to be true, and if it was his intention not to tell you, then he might feel ashamed of being gay, and embarassed that he always kept telling you he was straight in the past. It's better if you just ask him, really. If you two are that close, it won't be a problem.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Hey, I'm new here and not sure if this is the right forum to post this topic, I hope someone will move it if necessary ;)
So I have this friend who used to get bullied in the past, because he speaks with a high and a bit girly voice, plus he loves pop music, divas and such, hangs out mostly with the girls (he's not that bullied anymore since people around are getting more mature), but he's always said that he is straight. We're really close and have talked about that, and he insists to me that he likes only girls. He knows I'm gay, by the way. I'm out.
A couple days ago, a friend of ours said that he told him he was gay. He also said that the girls he hangs out with know as well and that no one else is supposed to know, including me. I got really mad and confused about that... since he knows I'm gay, shouldn't I be the first person he comes out to? I haven't talked to him about that, I'm afraid he'll get mad at our other friend for telling me and I don't know how to face him with that. What should I do? Why do you think he's hiding that from me? I don't think our friend would lie to me, he has no reason to.:(

Maybe he feels he has a reason to lie - all sorts of things he could think about actually and I would have thought you could understand that.

It is not nice when people break a confidence and tell but is this freind telling you the truth or winding you up??

You seem to just assume it is true -

[NeuroTiger]

He doesn't want his real sexuality to hit the headlines.
He has his reasons. Maybe you should respect him.

[YellowBlur]

I am assuming that what my friend said about him is true because he's my best friend, we've never lied to eachother and he wouldn't lie to me about something serious like that. We've talked about the reasons he might have to hide and you have a point, but I still wanna talk to him. In person, not by text, I haven't really had a chance to do so in private and even so I dunno what I'd say

EDIT: That was a bit confusing

[Living For Love]

I am assuming that what my friend said about him is true because he's my best friend, we've never lied to eachother and he wouldn't lie to me about something serious like that. To be honest he only told me that because we sorta have a promise to never keep anything from eachother (that's how close we are I guess). We've talked about the reasons he might have to hide and you have a point, but I still wanna talk to him. In person, not by text, I haven't really had a chance to do so in private and even so I dunno what I'd say

Say what you're feeling. But if you have that kind of promise, to tell everything to eachother, then ask him why didn't he kept the promise, and why he supposedly didn't want you to know about his sexuality.

[YellowBlur]

Actually the promise is with the other friend :P sorry for the misunderstanding

[Seth Green]

Um honestly, I'm sure he has his own reasons, just let him come out to you in his own time.

[Luminous]

Maybe he doesn't really trust you. He isn't obligated to tell you anything he doesn't want to.

[the9FOOTBAL7one]

i would just ask him, who knows maybe he never told anyone he was or maybe he honestly isnt sure if he is or isnt

[sqishy]

Hey, I'm new here and not sure if this is the right forum to post this topic, I hope someone will move it if necessary ;)
So I have this friend who used to get bullied in the past, because he speaks with a high and a bit girly voice, plus he loves pop music, divas and such, hangs out mostly with the girls (he's not that bullied anymore since people around are getting more mature), but he's always said that he is straight. We're really close and have talked about that, and he insists to me that he likes only girls. He knows I'm gay, by the way. I'm out.
A couple days ago, a friend of ours said that he told him he was gay. He also said that the girls he hangs out with know as well and that no one else is supposed to know, including me. I got really mad and confused about that... since he knows I'm gay, shouldn't I be the first person he comes out to? I haven't talked to him about that, I'm afraid he'll get mad at our other friend for telling me and I don't know how to face him with that. What should I do? Why do you think he's hiding that from me? I don't think our friend would lie to me, he has no reason to.:(

Maybe he was afraid/nervous of saying it to you. It doesn't seem logical, but emotions can interfere with reason.