TheRedViper
November 14th, 2013, 07:12 AM
So I've been friends with this girl ever since she moved into my class last year. We were only sort-of friends back then, but now we're very good friends. We are always with each other at school (and I mean like every moment, save for when we have a different class) and she sometimes asks if I want to go shopping with her (shopping bores me to tears and I never get anything, but I just want to be with her).
I think she really trusts me and values my friendship, and I do for her as well. The only problem is, she has a boyfriend. He is 18 and doesn't go to school anymore, has a job and a car as well. Pretty much the complete opposite of me. They have been together nine months. One day she told me they broke up, and so I took this chance and asked her out. She felt really pressured and put on the spot, and didn't say anything to me for the rest of the day. Later, via Facebook, she told me she hadn't actually broken up with her bf, they were only 'sort-of' broken up. She apologised and we continued like this never happened. I thought this was the end of it until one night she went to a party, got really drunk and high and texted me a long text, saying the only reason she didn't say anything when I asked her out was because she thinks I'm too good for her, and she is too damaged, and wouldn't want us fighting.
Recently, she went through a massive depression and tried to kill herself. Apparently her and her boyfriend were arguing and her grandmother had just died. She texted me that night and told me what happened. Apparently I was one of the only people that knew, save for her boyfriend and family. I was surprised at just how much she trusted me and thought of me as a friend to tell me.
Back to the main point though, I have been wondering recently if I am in the friendzone with her. She tells me pretty much everything that goes on between her and her boyfriend (including some sex stuff as well, which pisses me off to no end, me being insanely jealous of him), she tells me about troubles at home, and how she goes to parties and sometimes does drugs and other stuff. There is very little she doesn't tell me and trust me with. I know we are obviously very good and close friends, except for a while now I've realised I'm actually 'in love' with her. I hate using such a phrase, but I really can't think of what else it is. She is a very flawed person, to be sure, except that's how I like her. She is always complaining about her boyfriend to me, and very rarely says anything nice about him. I always think when she tells me these things "I would be a much better boyfriend to you. I would treat you right, you wouldn't have to worry." No matter what happens though, she stay with him, despite telling me on a regular basis how she wants to break up with him. I feel really confused here, as I don't know if I'm in the friendzone with her of not.
I would appreciate any answers from you guys. Sorry for the really long explanation.
I think she really trusts me and values my friendship, and I do for her as well. The only problem is, she has a boyfriend. He is 18 and doesn't go to school anymore, has a job and a car as well. Pretty much the complete opposite of me. They have been together nine months. One day she told me they broke up, and so I took this chance and asked her out. She felt really pressured and put on the spot, and didn't say anything to me for the rest of the day. Later, via Facebook, she told me she hadn't actually broken up with her bf, they were only 'sort-of' broken up. She apologised and we continued like this never happened. I thought this was the end of it until one night she went to a party, got really drunk and high and texted me a long text, saying the only reason she didn't say anything when I asked her out was because she thinks I'm too good for her, and she is too damaged, and wouldn't want us fighting.
Recently, she went through a massive depression and tried to kill herself. Apparently her and her boyfriend were arguing and her grandmother had just died. She texted me that night and told me what happened. Apparently I was one of the only people that knew, save for her boyfriend and family. I was surprised at just how much she trusted me and thought of me as a friend to tell me.
Back to the main point though, I have been wondering recently if I am in the friendzone with her. She tells me pretty much everything that goes on between her and her boyfriend (including some sex stuff as well, which pisses me off to no end, me being insanely jealous of him), she tells me about troubles at home, and how she goes to parties and sometimes does drugs and other stuff. There is very little she doesn't tell me and trust me with. I know we are obviously very good and close friends, except for a while now I've realised I'm actually 'in love' with her. I hate using such a phrase, but I really can't think of what else it is. She is a very flawed person, to be sure, except that's how I like her. She is always complaining about her boyfriend to me, and very rarely says anything nice about him. I always think when she tells me these things "I would be a much better boyfriend to you. I would treat you right, you wouldn't have to worry." No matter what happens though, she stay with him, despite telling me on a regular basis how she wants to break up with him. I feel really confused here, as I don't know if I'm in the friendzone with her of not.
I would appreciate any answers from you guys. Sorry for the really long explanation.