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Ahah1234534
November 13th, 2013, 10:15 PM
My girlfriend of two months has been going through a really tough time recently. Shitty friends at school, failing classes, not so wonderful home life, the works. I know she has cut in the past but I also know it's been a while (there are no visible scars left). Just today she said that she's almost at the point of doing it again. I tried to comfort her as much as I can, making sure she knows that I'm there for her and generally trying to dissuade her without being at all judgemental. I think that possibly it's a bit better right now (at the very least she's decided to watch tv to take her mind off of it for the moment) but is there anything that I can do or should be doing? I've never self harmed personally but I know plenty of people who have and makes me so sad because I've seen the effect that it can have on peoples lives and I don't want her ever to go through that again.

Please help if you can. Any advice is appreciated.
Funkissing
November 13th, 2013, 10:32 PM
Well just keep comforting her and bring her over to your house just to get her away from everything take her places and remind her what life can acutely be like if you take advantage of what is around you.

That help at all?
Ahah1234534
November 13th, 2013, 10:44 PM
Definitely does, thanks :) She's supposed to be coming over friday so hopefully she won't before then.
ElijahMouth
November 13th, 2013, 10:54 PM
What Funkissing said. Be active, make new experiences, and just simply don't do things that would trigger bad feelings.
Funkissing
November 13th, 2013, 10:57 PM
But one thing at a time don't make a huge effort immediately to try to calm her down this will take time for now go places with you her and a close friend of both of yours.but slowly go to like a group of ppl going out and have a good time.
Ahah1234534
November 13th, 2013, 11:22 PM
Thank you guys so much :) I hope it works
Mynick
November 14th, 2013, 03:18 PM
Hug her, distract her, LISTEN to her, my point is, be there for her when she needs you. Even if you don't know what to say, listen let her vent and try to keep her distracted so she doesn't thinks about cutting.
Best of luck :)