What's it like for you straight guys?

[Extreme586]

Being gay, it was always tough for me to accept that in reality guys like girls and that was the typical dating scenario at my school. I just never really understood it unless i related it to my feelings for guys. I feel like I'm trapped in a world of people who don't get me and tbh I don't get them or why guys like girls.

So what are you straight guys' perspective when it comes to gays? What do you think when you meet one or find out someone is gay? What would you think if you found out a boy liked you?

Give me real answers, don't censor them, just the truth. Tell it how it is.

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[From Chris]

Being gay, it was always tough for me to accept that in reality guys like girls and that was the typical dating scenario at my school. I just never really understood it unless i related it to my feelings for guys. I feel like I'm trapped in a world of people who don't get me and tbh I don't get them or why guys like girls.

So what are you straight guys' perspective when it comes to gays? What do you think when you meet one or find out someone is gay? What would you think if you found out a boy liked you?

Give me real answers, don't censor them, just the truth. Tell it how it is.

I feel the exact same way! I have really good guy friends that i can't tell i'm gay because i'm not sure how they will act. I think people like us feel trapped because to them, we aren't "normal." I've asked a couple of guys i know though on how they feel about a guy liking them or gay people in general and they either were really against it or were fine with it, yet they still liked girls.

-From Chris

[Fallen_Eagle]

I'd be flattered if a guy wanted to nail me!... And worried about his standards. But mostly flattered.

[vLiinx]

I don't hate anyone because of their sexuality, if i met one or found out they were id be nice to them if they were to me, but as for the liking bit, im not sure

[Hollywood]

I'm a pretty open-minded person, if my friend came out to me it honestly wouldn't change anything. In fact, I would be glad that he trusted me enough to tell me.

And oddly enough, I think I would enjoy dudes hitting on me. I guess it would be kind of cruel to lead them on though :P.

[kylem1229]

I dont mind people being gay as long as they arent "Publicly all out" on it.

[Yolo98]

Dont mind people being gay , aslong as they keep it to themselves

[drew6]

Being gay, it was always tough for me to accept that in reality guys like girls and that was the typical dating scenario at my school. I just never really understood it unless i related it to my feelings for guys. I feel like I'm trapped in a world of people who don't get me and tbh I don't get them or why guys like girls.

So what are you straight guys' perspective when it comes to gays? What do you think when you meet one or find out someone is gay? What would you think if you found out a boy liked you?

Give me real answers, don't censor them, just the truth. Tell it how it is.


I feel the exact same way! I have really good guy friends that i can't tell i'm gay because i'm not sure how they will act. I think people like us feel trapped because to them, we aren't "normal." I've asked a couple of guys i know though on how they feel about a guy liking them or gay people in general and they either were really against it or were fine with it, yet they still liked girls.

-From Chris

1. Not concerned about gays impacting me negatively. Empathy - just like you have said about guys like me.

[Extreme586]

1. Not concerned about gays impacting me negatively. Empathy - just like you have said about guys like me.

2a. I've never had someone in my life who is a part of my day to day stuff tell me they were gay. So I can't say how I responded to that, because it's never happened, but I know what my overall response would be accepting. It just would, it's who I am. Inclusion, not exclusion.

2b. Not to contradict myself, I've met quite a few gay guys. Met them, talked with them, spent time with them, but it's a rarity in my life, not a daily thing. More of a 2-4 time a year thing. What I thought and think is "Mmm I'm not, they don't care about that, so why should I care. Good for them I guess".

3. Found out? So he didn't tell me? I wouldn't care. It hasn't happened yet, but I've found out girls like me and sometimes it was good because I liked them and other times I didn't like them in the same way and told them I was interested in someone else. So I'd probably handle it the same way. If it happens, I'll post about it.


There is much more I could write on each of those 3 questions, but some wouldn't be too happy with a long, long post that explains the behavior of most of the guys I know:

I know 3-4 guys incredibly well. And know their exact thoughts on this and why because I've known them so long and we've been close for years.

I know the guys on my sports teams and a several other guys just from living life, really well there's around 12 guys on my basketball team and 32 on lacrosse, but 3 of my closest friends mentioned above wouldn't count in those totals.

With that many guys, the issue of someone being gay comes up from time to time and there's a range of responses.

Maybe just message me or if you want post it in this anyways. Believe it or not I liked longer more in depth posts, you could practically write a book and I would read it so don't feel that way. Great post btw!

Dont mind people being gay , aslong as they keep it to themselves

I dont mind people being gay as long as they arent "Publicly all out" on it.

What do you guys mean? Like that they don't make a big deal about it? Or that it isn't common knowledge to everyone? Or do you just not like flamers? Please be a little more specific, I'm actually quite curious on this!

[CharlieHorse]

I think that gay people have a certain vibe about them that's so much fun to be around. :)

[isiah_]

I only have one friend who is gay and I'm honestly fine with it. I'm not against him nor do I treat him any differently. I wouldn't mind if someone who was gay were to flirt or even like me because I find it flattering that anyone even finds me attractive so I wouldn't mind.

[Extreme586]

I only have one friend who is gay and I'm honestly fine with it. I'm not against him nor do I treat him any differently. I wouldn't mind if someone who was gay were to flirt or even like me because I find it flattering that anyone even finds me attractive so I wouldn't mind.

See for me it's a little different. Whenever I find out a girl likes me I get paranoid and feel a little creeped out I guess. It's really strange because most people would be flattered with that sort of thing but I get all sorts of paranoid about it. I think it's why I'm so insecure when it comes to telling a guy how I really feel, or just flat out telling people that I'm gay in general, specifically guys. Would be nice if I'm one of the few who feel this way, would ease my mind on the matter a little.

[steellord321]

^You get paranoid and insecure cause you aren't out, not the other way around.

[teen.jpg]

I haven't even bothered to really tell anyone anymore because its unneeded issues.

[Psych0Shade]

So what are you straight guys' perspective when it comes to gays? What do you think when you meet one or find out someone is gay? What would you think if you found out a boy liked you?

Personally I think they're the same emotionally as straight guys, just with a different persuasion, I mean not everyone likes girls...

One of my best friends came out to me (I was the 6th person he had come out to) and frankly I didn't mind... we talked a lot and he liked me... (he's actually 3 years older than me) we kinda chatted a bit (flirtily) but nothing really came of it... he's still one of my best friends, even though I'm pretty straight, maybe a tiny bit curious.

Before that though, many years ago I did have a semi-sexual gay relationship and to me it was perfectly fine, I hadn't had a girlfriend at that point. It felt normal actually... we only kissed once (that felt wierd). many years later I've had two long term girlfriends, one of which I've given my all to...

But we don't all like girls.. I mean I'm curious enough to kinda fancysome guys and say to my friends "He's cute" etc. so I don't think there's much difference, just the object of our emotion and attraction.

[Yolo98]

Maybe just message me or if you want post it in this anyways. Believe it or not I liked longer more in depth posts, you could practically write a book and I would read it so don't feel that way. Great post btw!





What do you guys mean? Like that they don't make a big deal about it? Or that it isn't common knowledge to everyone? Or do you just not like flamers? Please be a little more specific, I'm actually quite curious on this!


I mean like when there flamboyant , sexuality isn't a big issue so people shouldn't go chucking it around like it makes them special.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

I had told actually nearly everyone at school that I am bisexual (of course, none of my family knows). There have been a few annoying homophobic idiots who should shut the fuck up, but really mostly alright reactions.

I really understand how you feel, but I realize the fact most men are straight. In fact, over 90%.

[Sammy07]

Hi ! I think I'm bi so I can perfectly understand your feeling. I think that homosexuality is part of nature (even though it's like '' against '' nature) and gays are more than normal. They just like boys instead of girls. That's the only difference. And for me, it's a minor difference. It's like having blue eyes instead of brown ones.

[Jakie23]

I'm the only out gay guy at my school, so I wouldn't know whats it like to have a guy like me. If I found out a guy did, I'd probably try and get him not to like me. But I 've told the two guys I like that I like them. One of them seems okay about it, but the other one was my best friend and now he doesn't talk to me :(