Can you say no?

[Waleedbt]

So, if a girl wants to hang out, can a guy say no? i mean sure, but will the personal take it personally? i'm speaking if any of you girls have an experience?

i just said no to someone because she is only talking to me when she "feels" like it, or need something, its been like 3 weeks and i haven't talked to her ( i ignored her, but say hi if i bumped into her) so suddenly she texts me, i thought it was like saying hi and catching up , but turned out to be needing something from me. I don't like that, no matter how beautiful the girl is! so anyway! she wanted to grab lunch on monday ( today ) i said " sure " and then suddenly cancels the day before ( sunday- the day she texted me , in the morning ) at night because of another guy's birthday.. srsly? So i thought meh, okay, then she wondered if i could do Tuesday, so i thought about and said that i couldnt ( i had an essay to do, plus i didnt like what she did and then cancel for a stupid thing, but i was happy ! )so yeah ;p


Would a girl take it personally , or hard i mean? i don't really care anymore , im just curious and also want to know if any other guy would say no to a girl, even though he got nothing to do at that time.

[MoonMan]

If I didn't like being around the girl for whatever reason I would say no. Same thing with everybody else, doesn't matter if it's a girl or guy. Although I would probably make up some excuse or reason to not seem rude I guess.

[shinodas]

first of all, there' might be a girl who might not take it hard at all and if it was reversed, there might be a boy who would take it VERY seriously, it's not a gender question but personality more like it,

So i guess you'd be best at guessing whats going on in her mind among us all.
But to be honest, your friend reminds me of my BFF, back when we weren't best friend, she was a colossal bish, I would say, you dont need such friend who only uses you, but if there's a little bit of something else like friendship and you're a tough guy you can change it, it took me some time, but I proved her that I'm not a doormat or some p.o.s. I was also not being too melodramatic over this stuff, she's been stooding me up so many times it's been ridiculous, but as I said, play back, if you want, everytime she stood me up I ignored her for a couple of days, if it was something bigger, weeks, (although take in mind sometimes their excuses might be real, but it would make a huge difference if a person went like "Hi! Sorry but I forgot that I had a birthday party to go to, BUT we could try to meet earlier? " - that kind of shows that they'd go out of their way or at least try to keep a word, which by the way my friend never did so i just told her off what b she is, casually of course and moved on, she now knows id get tired of her sh!t very fast so she doesnt pull that on me anymore, but If I was supposed to go through this whole process again I'd just cut her off cause I ran out of patience ages ago.

good luck with her!

[sqishy]

So, if a girl wants to hang out, can a guy say no? i mean sure, but will the personal take it personally? i'm speaking if any of you girls have an experience?

i just said no to someone because she is only talking to me when she "feels" like it, or need something, its been like 3 weeks and i haven't talked to her ( i ignored her, but say hi if i bumped into her) so suddenly she texts me, i thought it was like saying hi and catching up , but turned out to be needing something from me. I don't like that, no matter how beautiful the girl is! so anyway! she wanted to grab lunch on monday ( today ) i said " sure " and then suddenly cancels the day before ( sunday- the day she texted me , in the morning ) at night because of another guy's birthday.. srsly? So i thought meh, okay, then she wondered if i could do Tuesday, so i thought about and said that i couldnt ( i had an essay to do, plus i didnt like what she did and then cancel for a stupid thing, but i was happy ! )so yeah ;p


Would a girl take it personally , or hard i mean? i don't really care anymore , im just curious and also want to know if any other guy would say no to a girl, even though he got nothing to do at that time.

I would say no (because I'm not for girls). For guys it would depend, if I see it as an opportunity and I already like the person, I'd go with it. How the person reacts to you saying no is up to them, really.

[Waleedbt]

first of all, there' might be a girl who might not take it hard at all and if it was reversed, there might be a boy who would take it VERY seriously, it's not a gender question but personality more like it,

So i guess you'd be best at guessing whats going on in her mind among us all.
But to be honest, your friend reminds me of my BFF, back when we weren't best friend, she was a colossal bish, I would say, you dont need such friend who only uses you, but if there's a little bit of something else like friendship and you're a tough guy you can change it, it took me some time, but I proved her that I'm not a doormat or some p.o.s. I was also not being too melodramatic over this stuff, she's been stooding me up so many times it's been ridiculous, but as I said, play back, if you want, everytime she stood me up I ignored her for a couple of days, if it was something bigger, weeks, (although take in mind sometimes their excuses might be real, but it would make a huge difference if a person went like "Hi! Sorry but I forgot that I had a birthday party to go to, BUT we could try to meet earlier? " - that kind of shows that they'd go out of their way or at least try to keep a word, which by the way my friend never did so i just told her off what b she is, casually of course and moved on, she now knows id get tired of her sh!t very fast so she doesnt pull that on me anymore, but If I was supposed to go through this whole process again I'd just cut her off cause I ran out of patience ages ago.

good luck with her!

Thank you so much

This is exactly what she is, but she never says " Sorry " oh btw, an update :

Apparently the lunch wasn't because she wants to hang out or misses me as she claims.. it turned out to be needing some of my notes for a class which i took from a conference on a weekend ( friday ) i went but she didnt so... yeah.

ContinueingToLive:

Honestly, i like her, but its been happening like this for like ... 9 months... so after that time i just cant be with someone or think of being with her ever.

[shinodas]

Thank you so much

This is exactly what she is, but she never says " Sorry " oh btw, an update :

Apparently the lunch wasn't because she wants to hang out or misses me as she claims.. it turned out to be needing some of my notes for a class which i took from a conference on a weekend ( friday ) i went but she didnt so... yeah.

ContinueingToLive:

Honestly, i like her, but its been happening like this for like ... 9 months... so after that time i just cant be with someone or think of being with her ever.

yeah, either you spark some interest in her besides using you as some item that she just puts back on a shelf when she's done with it, or i'd finish it, it's not worth it and there sure will be some other girl you will like MORE than this one, especially since she didnt put the bar high,
I dont know what you're gonna do, but If I were to meet her, and she asks for the notes, I'd start of with something like "so you cant even say sorry i ditched you again, and now you're asking me for those notes, well I mean, whatever I dont care, but what for it? shit aint free so im listening".

Idk man, its up to you, not sure what she looks like but personality like this overshadows the looks by far and makes them fugly! And you're welcome :D

[Waleedbt]

yeah, either you spark some interest in her besides using you as some item that she just puts back on a shelf when she's done with it, or i'd finish it, it's not worth it and there sure will be some other girl you will like MORE than this one, especially since she didnt put the bar high,
I dont know what you're gonna do, but If I were to meet her, and she asks for the notes, I'd start of with something like "so you cant even say sorry i ditched you again, and now you're asking me for those notes, well I mean, whatever I dont care, but what for it? shit aint free so im listening".

Idk man, its up to you, not sure what she looks like but personality like this overshadows the looks by far and makes them fugly! And you're welcome :D

Yeah im done haha, thats why ive been ignoring her the past few weeks :D , and i don't feel guilty about it. I gave her the notes, i would sound like a bad person if i said no to this, so yeah she got what she needs anyway, and now she's texting ( you know, when you talk to someone when you need something, so you'd feel guilty and start bring convos up after you got what you need lol ).

In the end, i've already lost interest anyway, its been a little while and i don't feel like spending much time and Money. ( yes, ive been taking her on great restaurants but she never thought of it as a date )

:D

[Cygnus]

I doubt she could have taken that in a bad way, its not like you told her "fuck off" or something like that, people get busy, its normal.

[badthoughts]

will the personal take it personally?
Personals always take it personally, it's just how they are.

Seriously though, sounds like you're over her. Just keep on ignoring her texts, she'll eventually stop. And even if she doesn't, that's why you have a delete button. I'd forget she even exists anymore. Good luck.

[CharlieHorse]

A girl asked me to hang out with her and her friends out of the blue during lunch. I declined and gave some dumb excuse.
I just wasn't feeling well at that time :( :/

[Dark Unicorn]

I don't see anything wrong with what you did given the circumstance.

[JamesSuperBoy]

if i had to say no I would at least explian why - or be nice and give a reason.

[Waleedbt]

if i had to say no I would at least explian why - or be nice and give a reason.

I gave a reason, and also said sorry. But honestly.. i kinda regret that i did explain why, she doesn't deserve to know why i cancelled, i should have left her like that lol

[JamesSuperBoy]

I gave a reason, and also said sorry. But honestly.. i kinda regret that i did explain why, she doesn't deserve to know why i cancelled, i should have left her like that lol


Yes I know you did I was just saying if it happened to me

Live and learn bro thats life

[Waleedbt]

Yes I know you did I was just saying if it happened to me

Live and learn bro thats life


aaah okay sorry ;p i didnt realize,

Yeah i guess, but if you know me, well you'd say that i have never learnt lol , but i think i got the lesson good now.

She got the notes and the paper she wanted, and never texted again, i mean atleast say " Thank you , i did my work, it was good " .
Now i am also cursing myself for giving her the notes in the first place xD!!

Oh well, i guess its just something that went along, plus i'm transferring schools next semester, she doesn't know ;p