Asking a straight guy?

[austeen2]

Hey, I'm Bi/Gay and still in the closet. Lately i've gotten to know this guy for the past year and we've become pretty close. I think he's straight but occasionally we always make eye contact with each other in awkward situations. I really like him and want to go further with him but have no idea on how...

[badthoughts]

I think he's straight but...I really like him and want to go further with him
I advise against expressing to him that you have romantic feelings for him. Sounds like a wreck waiting to happen.

[Kid0809]

Might not be the best idea to tell him

[ksdnfkfr]

Become better regular friends.
Firmly establish that first.

[Cece14]

If he is straight, them dont tell him

[kmvt]

I don't think you should if you're 100% sure that he's straight.

[NeuroTiger]

Strengthen your friendship to know him deeper otherwise, it might end in havoc.

[austeen2]

Has anyone been in a similar situation before???

[Paladino]

If he's straight its a no go!

[Col.Snoopy]

Well, I'm straight and I've had 1 or 2 times a gay has asked me if I like him.
Pro tip: Keep it to yourself.

[austeen2]

Not 100% sure if he's straight.. hasn't had a girlfriend before. he tickled me once way beyond what a straight guy would do and he always leans over right next to me to loook at my phone/computer.... soo yea.. i duno

[Verminicious Knid]

I've had a VERY similar situation to this.

I got really strong feelings for this guy. I was in the closet (Still am) so he never knew. I'm glad for that.

It's not worth taking the risk in this situation since you could really wreck this friendship you have with this guy. Trust me, if you wait, you'll find someone who's gay/bi and by then, you'll be ready to come out.

I hope this helps. :)

[austeen2]

I've had a VERY similar situation to this.

I got really strong feelings for this guy. I was in the closet (Still am) so he never knew. I'm glad for that.

It's not worth taking the risk in this situation since you could really wreck this friendship you have with this guy. Trust me, if you wait, you'll find someone who's gay/bi and by then, you'll be ready to come out.

I hope this helps. :)

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anyone else?? thoughtS??

[austeen2]

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[Living For Love]

If he's straight, then you don't have much choice, but you can always keep him as your best friend. Just make sure you give him the support he needs, and hang out regularly with him, but try not to seem a creep.

[austeen2]

If he's straight, then you don't have much choice, but you can always keep him as your best friend. Just make sure you give him the support he needs, and hang out regularly with him, but try not to seem a creep.

I have no idea if hes straight bi or gay. He hasnt had a girl friend or anything before and he seeems to do things that most straight guys will do (see an earlier post)

[Cygnus]

I have no idea if hes straight bi or gay. He hasnt had a girl friend or anything before and he seeems to do things that most straight guys will do (see an earlier post)

Unless you know for sure that he is flexible about his sexuality do not do it, and please take this advice seriously.

[ashdyn]

You know those moments when your eyes meet? That might be emotional and romantic to you but in reality they're just signs of a building friendship. I swear my guy friends know me better than my girlfriend and she jokes about our bromance all the time. To be completely honest having a guy best friend is basically dating a guy minus spending all your damn money on them and having sex with them.

Straight guys hate to admit it but we do show emotion and affection to our guy friends. Not romantically but we obviously do things that endear us to our friends which is why you consider some friends closer than others.

If I were you I wouldn't come out and tell him out how feel about him right off the bat. I would start by telling him that I'm gay or bi or you don't even have to define yourself that solidly. I HATE LABELS. Tell the dude you think you like guys sometimes...see how he takes it. Most likely he won't care cause you're his friend. Then ask him if he's ever had those same feelings. If he hasn't then you probably don't have a chance. I know it's gunna suck to bottle those feelings in but you don't really have a choice but to move on. I'd rather have a friend for life than try to make a boyfriend out of a guy that's not about that. Just my $0.02

[equestrian]

Are you absolutely 100% sure he has no interest in guys? He might just not be open about it. How does he feel about homosexuality? You need to fully analyze his personality before going for it. What will his reaction be if he says no? Does he know you're gay?

He might let you down easy or he might be a dick about it.

Just remember that getting rejected is something that is not unique to homosexuality.

[austeen2]

You know those moments when your eyes meet? That might be emotional and romantic to you but in reality they're just signs of a building friendship. I swear my guy friends know me better than my girlfriend and she jokes about our bromance all the time. To be completely honest having a guy best friend is basically dating a guy minus spending all your damn money on them and having sex with them.

Straight guys hate to admit it but we do show emotion and affection to our guy friends. Not romantically but we obviously do things that endear us to our friends which is why you consider some friends closer than others.

If I were you I wouldn't come out and tell him out how feel about him right off the bat. I would start by telling him that I'm gay or bi or you don't even have to define yourself that solidly. I HATE LABELS. Tell the dude you think you like guys sometimes...see how he takes it. Most likely he won't care cause you're his friend. Then ask him if he's ever had those same feelings. If he hasn't then you probably don't have a chance. I know it's gunna suck to bottle those feelings in but you don't really have a choice but to move on. I'd rather have a friend for life than try to make a boyfriend out of a guy that's not about that. Just my $0.02


mmm very true. Thanks for the advice.

[Waleedbt]

I dont know man, but i wasnt completely aware until i got hit on by a dude in the bus yesterday, have to say it was very uncomfortable tbh.
Maybe its just me that took it this way, i dont know.
But it was bad, and the worst part... He took my number, and wrote on his bag since he didnt have a paper and wouldnt give up.

But yeah, try to see what his feeling are about this are on this subject.

[LSEagle2]

You know those moments when your eyes meet? That might be emotional and romantic to you but in reality they're just signs of a building friendship. I swear my guy friends know me better than my girlfriend and she jokes about our bromance all the time. To be completely honest having a guy best friend is basically dating a guy minus spending all your damn money on them and having sex with them.

Straight guys hate to admit it but we do show emotion and affection to our guy friends. Not romantically but we obviously do things that endear us to our friends which is why you consider some friends closer than others.

If I were you I wouldn't come out and tell him out how feel about him right off the bat. I would start by telling him that I'm gay or bi or you don't even have to define yourself that solidly. I HATE LABELS. Tell the dude you think you like guys sometimes...see how he takes it. Most likely he won't care cause you're his friend. Then ask him if he's ever had those same feelings. If he hasn't then you probably don't have a chance. I know it's gunna suck to bottle those feelings in but you don't really have a choice but to move on. I'd rather have a friend for life than try to make a boyfriend out of a guy that's not about that. Just my $0.02








Dude this is so true... im glad theres other people that realize it

[Thomas01]

You know those moments when your eyes meet? That might be emotional and romantic to you but in reality they're just signs of a building friendship. I swear my guy friends know me better than my girlfriend and she jokes about our bromance all the time. To be completely honest having a guy best friend is basically dating a guy minus spending all your damn money on them and having sex with them.

Straight guys hate to admit it but we do show emotion and affection to our guy friends. Not romantically but we obviously do things that endear us to our friends which is why you consider some friends closer than others.

If I were you I wouldn't come out and tell him out how feel about him right off the bat. I would start by telling him that I'm gay or bi or you don't even have to define yourself that solidly. I HATE LABELS. Tell the dude you think you like guys sometimes...see how he takes it. Most likely he won't care cause you're his friend. Then ask him if he's ever had those same feelings. If he hasn't then you probably don't have a chance. I know it's gunna suck to bottle those feelings in but you don't really have a choice but to move on. I'd rather have a friend for life than try to make a boyfriend out of a guy that's not about that. Just my $0.02

I love this response! Probably the best way to approach this situation.


I'd also like to give some advice since I've personally told a straight guy that I like him. Well first off I should say I'm out so it's a different situation. But still, knowing he is my friend helped me feel more confident that I can tell him. Also just in case (since it was most likely to happen), I was prepared for him to just respond awkwardly and tell me he's straight. That did result but we remain friends so that's good.

If you want to tell him, just know what is one possible outcome and response. But also have some hope because you never know. Also just try and see how he feels about topics involving the LGBT community and if he is fine with it. I hope you end up with results just as good and even better than mine did

[austeen2]

Thanks everyone. It sucks though because now its the end of the year (Summer holidays in australia) and I won't see him till next year. We used to chat like everyday on facebook but i dont know why but although hes on all the time im too scared to start the chat and he never starts one either

[mrmee]

Hint that you like him, but if he resents that at all, make sure you can turn it into a "joke".

[austeen2]

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[newkler]

don't tell him because he's straight

[austeen2]

don't tell him because he's straight

The title is somewhat misleading sorry. he's never told me he straight or anything. I mean he hasnt had a girlfriend nor said anything that would make him seem straight but he does some stuff that usually a straight guy would do.

[MortimerB]

The title is somewhat misleading sorry. he's never told me he straight or anything. I mean he hasnt had a girlfriend nor said anything that would make him seem straight but he does some stuff that usually a straight guy would do.

I've been in the same situation as you are. I am close friends with a seriously hot dude, and he and I always make eye contact in class or when we notice an "innuendo" of sorts. He kissed me on the cheek on New Year's Eve, though I know for sure he ain't gay.

For some time, I would kinda do anything to be with him - I was still unsure whether I was bi, gay or straight - but now, I really just like him as a close friend.

I think you really need to think this through. A good idea would be to actually get to know his opinion on gays and bisexuals, and how open to such things he is. Of course, each one his or her methods but this one worked for me - to clarify my friend's feelings. Best of luck, man.

[EmmaJane]

If he hasn't hinted whether he is gay/bisexual/straight then there may be a chance he likes you or he doesn't. It's quite a risk but your choice if you're willing to take it.

[panicatthedisco]

same situation for me :(

[austeen2]

same situation for me :(

How have you dealt with it? Have you advanced any frther?

[ashdyn]

It looks like you're looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear...which is for you to take the leap and just ask.

Most of the people on here are trying to tell you not to and if you do then take it slow. If you're not patient enough to do that and you can't bottle it in then JUST ASK HIM ALREADY.

You said you really like him and want there to be more but you don't know if he's gay or bi. I'm finally going to be the one to tell you what you've been wanting everyone to say. Just ask him. You're friends so you shouldn't feel awkward messaging him. I'll break it down real simple for you.

You: Hey mate. I feel like we haven't talked in forever! How's your summer been?
Him: Pretty good...I'm just on holiday with my fam.
You: NICE! Meet any cute girls?
*doesn't matter what he says*
You: Sweet mate! Meet any cute guys?
*he'll think you're kidding/joke around with you*
Tell him no you're serious. YOLO tell him you think he's cute.
He'll either YOLO and say it back and you'll live happily ever after or he'll YOLO and tell you to quit taking a piss and fuck off cause he's straight. Either way you get your answer for sure and remain friends regardless.

SHUT IT DOWN! Next post should be austeen2 telling everyone the good or not so good news.

[runner 19]

You know those moments when your eyes meet? That might be emotional and romantic to you but in reality they're just signs of a building friendship. I swear my guy friends know me better than my girlfriend and she jokes about our bromance all the time. To be completely honest having a guy best friend is basically dating a guy minus spending all your damn money on them and having sex with them.

Straight guys hate to admit it but we do show emotion and affection to our guy friends. Not romantically but we obviously do things that endear us to our friends which is why you consider some friends closer than others.

If I were you I wouldn't come out and tell him out how feel about him right off the bat. I would start by telling him that I'm gay or bi or you don't even have to define yourself that solidly. I HATE LABELS. Tell the dude you think you like guys sometimes...see how he takes it. Most likely he won't care cause you're his friend. Then ask him if he's ever had those same feelings. If he hasn't then you probably don't have a chance. I know it's gunna suck to bottle those feelings in but you don't really have a choice but to move on. I'd rather have a friend for life than try to make a boyfriend out of a guy that's not about that. Just my $0.02 yeah that's how it is with my friends. We look each other in the eyes when we talk and we know we have a strong friendship. It almost feels like we're dating since we do a lot together but I think he's hot but he's my friend and friendship is what matters to me. We tell each other anything and I know it makes us closer. We hug each other and sleep in the same bed sometimes at sleepovers but it just makes us better friends. Guy friends are there for you and if they really are your friend. You can tell them anything and they won't judge you. He's the best friend ever and I couldn't ask for a nicer and hotter friend lol. I am so lucky he is my friend

[Jay_Swagg_LOL]

This straaight guy I like is very flirtatious with me. He flirts in the open as a joke, but today he rubbed then hit my but ._.

I feel ya man :'(