The girl I like was looking at me a lot at my school formal. What does this mean?

[clueless_one]

The girl I like was looking at me a lot at my school formal. I was also looking at her a lot too (because you can sometimes tell when someone is looking). What does this mean? Because of being shy, I didn't ask to dance with her, seriously that would have been really difficult for me. She didn't go with any guy and if she had a boyfriend wouldn't she have gone with him... But what does her staring at me mean? She has been staring at me previously at school but with this and her staring at me during the formal, what does it mean?

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Eventually you're going to have to talk to her. This isn't like some teen movie where everything will just fall into place. You gotta make a move.

[clueless_one]

Eventually you're going to have to talk to her. This isn't like some teen movie where everything will just fall into place. You gotta make a move.

Is it a good sign?
extremely good sign?

If it is I will send a message on Facebook to her, as I won't see her anymore (school finished). Also, I might see her at another school event soon...

[Cygnus]

As the poster above said, you can't just stand there and expect things to change, you got to take action if you want to find out the meaning of it. It might be good, it might be nothing, that is something you will have to find out by yourself.

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Forget the signs, signs are bullshit trust me I know. If you don't ask her you'll regret it, if you do you might get rejected. But you might not. That's the worst part.

[clueless_one]

As the poster above said, you can't just stand there and expect things to change, you got to take action if you want to find out the meaning of it. It might be good, it might be nothing, that is something you will have to find out by yourself.

Forget the signs, signs are bullshit trust me I know. If you don't ask her you'll regret it, if you do you might get rejected. But you might not. That's the worst part.

I'm starting to give up again... I seriously can't make any move without finding out exactly how they feel because i'm shy otherwise its too hard for me.

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I'm starting to give up again... I seriously can't make any move without finding out exactly how they feel because i'm shy otherwise its too hard for me.

And where exactly has giving up and being shy gotten you so far? Exactly...

[clueless_one]

And where exactly has giving up and being shy gotten you so far? Exactly...

But if I KNOW HOW THEY FEEL. THEN I CAN MAKE A MOVE. I'VE MADE THAT EXTREMELY CLEAR.:mad:

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But if I KNOW HOW THEY FEEL. THEN I CAN MAKE A MOVE. I'VE MADE THAT EXTREMELY CLEAR.:mad:

Calm down. Don't caps lock spam me.

And what are you saying?

[chezhans]

Ask her...seriously. It might just do it- and yes Jayson is right, signs don't mean everything, in fact they can be very deceiving.

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Ask her...seriously. It might just do it- and yes Jayson is right, signs don't mean everything, in fact they can be very deceiving.

See, I'm not crazy. At least not 100% ...

[chezhans]

See, I'm not crazy. At least not 100% ...

Well that's what you think

[badthoughts]

The girl I like was looking at me a lot; What does this mean?
It usually means that you have a long trail of toilet paper stuck to your shoe. Did you check for toilet paper stuck to your shoe?

I disagree with the others. I think you should not talk to her.

Why not? Well, I'm glad you asked. I'm feeling rather opinionated tonight, so I'll give it to you straight, and I promise you're not gonna like it.

Here's why you should not talk to her: it makes it easer for me.

When guys such as yourself live in fear and self-loathing and cannot grow a pair of balls and simply say hello to another person, it makes it that much easier for guys who can do that. You're essentially eliminating yourself from the competition, so to speak, thereby improving the chances for other guys.

So thank you, pal. Thank you for helping my chances.

I seriously can't make any move without finding out exactly how they feel because i'm shy otherwise its too hard for me.

Oh for fuck's sake. You wanna know how she feels? I don't even know the girl and I know how she feels. I can tell you one thing: she doesn't feel like you. She doesn't live in fear and self-hatred. She doesn't feel so unsure of herself that she types in CAPS LOCK that she NEEDS TO KNOW HOW THEY FEEL before she can be a decent fucking person and just say hello.

You live in fear because you fear rejection, but not just from the girl you like who "looks at you", but you fear it from everyone. You fear that if you cast aside your insecurities and allow yourself to be vulnerable, allow yourself to show who you truly are to other people, people who you strongly desire to accept you, that they might still reject you. And this time, they aren't rejecting the shy kid who hates himself; no, that would be too easy. No, this time they're rejecting the real you, the you who let his balls drop and decided to love himself, the you who showed himself to the world, and the thought of that scares you to death.

But you know what? I don't care. Not even a little bit. You know why? Because I care about myself and what I think of myself; I don't care what you think of yourself nor of what you think of me for that matter. And when you finally start caring about yourself, when you finally start thinking that you're good enough for anybody, then you'll stop giving a fuck about what other people think of you and if they'll reject you. On that day you'll stop living in fear.

And on that day, then I'll need to watch out. I'll need to watch out because my competition will get a little bit tougher that day. Peace out.

[ClaireS]

Speak with her, she's not gonna bite you lol

[Dundun99]

just ask her and maybe become a big more flirty with her and see, she obviously cares for you and surely its worth giving it go, i used to be shy but now ive been at secondary school for 3 years i am more confident, you have to break that being shy by talkking to people and i think starting by asking her would be a great way to start

[Dundun99]

just ask her and maybe become a big more flirty with her and see, she obviously cares for you and surely its worth giving it go, i used to be shy but now ive been at secondary school for 3 years i am more confident, you have to break that being shy by talkking to people and i think starting by asking her would be a great way to start

[sqishy]

But if I KNOW HOW THEY FEEL. THEN I CAN MAKE A MOVE. I'VE MADE THAT EXTREMELY CLEAR.:mad:

She could be interested. Go us and ask her why she was staring at you, in a curious humorous way (only help I can give) .

[WeAreOneRepublic]

It usually means that you have a long trail of toilet paper stuck to your shoe. Did you check for toilet paper stuck to your shoe?

I disagree with the others. I think you should not talk to her.

Why not? Well, I'm glad you asked. I'm feeling rather opinionated tonight, so I'll give it to you straight, and I promise you're not gonna like it.

Here's why you should not talk to her: it makes it easer for me.

When guys such as yourself live in fear and self-loathing and cannot grow a pair of balls and simply say hello to another person, it makes it that much easier for guys who can do that. You're essentially eliminating yourself from the competition, so to speak, thereby improving the chances for other guys.

So thank you, pal. Thank you for helping my chances.



Oh for fuck's sake. You wanna know how she feels? I don't even know the girl and I know how she feels. I can tell you one thing: she doesn't feel like you. She doesn't live in fear and self-hatred. She doesn't feel so unsure of herself that she types in CAPS LOCK that she NEEDS TO KNOW HOW THEY FEEL before she can be a decent fucking person and just say hello.

You live in fear because you fear rejection, but not just from the girl you like who "looks at you", but you fear it from everyone. You fear that if you cast aside your insecurities and allow yourself to be vulnerable, allow yourself to show who you truly are to other people, people who you strongly desire to accept you, that they might still reject you. And this time, they aren't rejecting the shy kid who hates himself; no, that would be too easy. No, this time they're rejecting the real you, the you who let his balls drop and decided to love himself, the you who showed himself to the world, and the thought of that scares you to death.

But you know what? I don't care. Not even a little bit. You know why? Because I care about myself and what I think of myself; I don't care what you think of yourself nor of what you think of me for that matter. And when you finally start caring about yourself, when you finally start thinking that you're good enough for anybody, then you'll stop giving a fuck about what other people think of you and if they'll reject you. On that day you'll stop living in fear.

And on that day, then I'll need to watch out. I'll need to watch out because my competition will get a little bit tougher that day. Peace out.

Top Reply 2013.

That is possibly one of the best things I have read all year. I am almost similar to you and I agree with you totally. I think everybody should read this.

[Cece14]

The girl I like was looking at me a lot at my school formal. I was also looking at her a lot too (because you can sometimes tell when someone is looking). What does this mean? Because of being shy, I didn't ask to dance with her, seriously that would have been really difficult for me. She didn't go with any guy and if she had a boyfriend wouldn't she have gone with him... But what does her staring at me mean? She has been staring at me previously at school but with this and her staring at me during the formal, what does it mean?

Okya, I had this happen too!! But with a guy..... You gotta talk to the girl! Otherwise, she will think you dont like her, girls love it when the guy they like talks to them.... So, suck it up and talk to her, its not that hard:)

[bored4evah]

It means fuckall, but make a move

[Meganium]

It usually means that you have a long trail of toilet paper stuck to your shoe. Did you check for toilet paper stuck to your shoe?

I disagree with the others. I think you should not talk to her.

Why not? Well, I'm glad you asked. I'm feeling rather opinionated tonight, so I'll give it to you straight, and I promise you're not gonna like it.

Here's why you should not talk to her: it makes it easer for me.

When guys such as yourself live in fear and self-loathing and cannot grow a pair of balls and simply say hello to another person, it makes it that much easier for guys who can do that. You're essentially eliminating yourself from the competition, so to speak, thereby improving the chances for other guys.

So thank you, pal. Thank you for helping my chances.



Oh for fuck's sake. You wanna know how she feels? I don't even know the girl and I know how she feels. I can tell you one thing: she doesn't feel like you. She doesn't live in fear and self-hatred. She doesn't feel so unsure of herself that she types in CAPS LOCK that she NEEDS TO KNOW HOW THEY FEEL before she can be a decent fucking person and just say hello.

You live in fear because you fear rejection, but not just from the girl you like who "looks at you", but you fear it from everyone. You fear that if you cast aside your insecurities and allow yourself to be vulnerable, allow yourself to show who you truly are to other people, people who you strongly desire to accept you, that they might still reject you. And this time, they aren't rejecting the shy kid who hates himself; no, that would be too easy. No, this time they're rejecting the real you, the you who let his balls drop and decided to love himself, the you who showed himself to the world, and the thought of that scares you to death.

But you know what? I don't care. Not even a little bit. You know why? Because I care about myself and what I think of myself; I don't care what you think of yourself nor of what you think of me for that matter. And when you finally start caring about yourself, when you finally start thinking that you're good enough for anybody, then you'll stop giving a fuck about what other people think of you and if they'll reject you. On that day you'll stop living in fear.

And on that day, then I'll need to watch out. I'll need to watch out because my competition will get a little bit tougher that day. Peace out.

OP. This is what we've all been trying to tell you for the past couple of months. If you can't comprehend it at this point, you have a lot of thinking and changing for yourself to do before you have a chance to be somewhat acquainted with anyone on this Earth. I back this comment up 99.97%. You've come here time and time again asking for help and answers when it's been made clear that we only have one. You're just not willing to accept it.

[clueless_one]

Okya, I had this happen too!! But with a guy..... You gotta talk to the girl! Otherwise, she will think you dont like her, girls love it when the guy they like talks to them.... So, suck it up and talk to her, its not that hard:)

So your saying its more possible that she does like me. I should also mention that when she does look at me. She acts like she is looking for someone and once we make eye contact she quickly darts her eyes away almost like she is looking for someone and she looks at me go past.

[Cygnus]

So your saying its more possible that she does like me. I should also mention that when she does look at me. She acts like she is looking for someone and once we make eye contact she quickly darts her eyes away almost like she is looking for someone and she looks at me go past.

She might, but unless you freaking talk to her you will NEVER know.

Also, I see no reason to "block" anyone because they didn't tell you what you wanted to hear, nor does you close-mindedness help.

[clueless_one]

She might, but unless you freaking talk to her you will NEVER know.

Also, I see no reason to "block" anyone because they didn't tell you what you wanted to hear, nor does you close-mindedness help.

Oh... I'm sorry that I block someone for bullying me for being SHY, due to being BULLIED in school leading to SOCIAL ISOLATION, GETTING THE FEELING OF NO FRIENDS, OTHER FAMILY PROBLEMS. Know what... With the amount of problems I have i'm surprised that I haven't COMMITTED SUICIDE.

SERIOUSLY... THERE ARE REASONS TO WHY I'M FRICKING SHY.

[Cygnus]

Oh... I'm sorry that I block someone for bullying me for being SHY, due to being BULLIED in school leading to SOCIAL ISOLATION, GETTING THE FEELING OF NO FRIENDS, OTHER FAMILY PROBLEMS. Know what... With the amount of problems I have i'm surprised that I haven't COMMITTED SUICIDE.

SERIOUSLY... THERE ARE REASONS TO WHY I'M FRICKING SHY.

Go ahead, play victim, see if you become a chick magnet complaining and doing nothing. How can you expect to win if you have already given up before starting?

[clueless_one]

Go ahead, play victim, see if you become a chick magnet complaining and doing nothing. How can you expect to win if you have already given up before starting?

You think giving up and being shy are the same things...

Something is indeed wrong with you.

I'm only playing victim to bullying. I'm seriously doing everything I can...

Know what F this shit. I'm off these forums for f'ing good!!!

:furious::furious::furious::furious::furious::furious::furious::furious:

[Saint of Sinners]

Wow. Just wow. Nobody's trying to bully you. We're just saying your shyness is exactly the problem. Dude, i understand how you feel, k, but if you want us to help just calm down first.

[clueless_one]

Wow. Just wow. Nobody's trying to bully you. We're just saying your shyness is exactly the problem. Dude, i understand how you feel, k, but if you want us to help just calm down first.

I want help, but you all think that saying "talk to her" or "make a move" is helping... IT ISN'T HELP.

[WeAreOneRepublic]

There are professionals that can help with this. Have you ever talked to your school psychologist or chaplain if you have one? They can help, they have dealt with others like you, it can help you become less shy and sort out anything that you need help with. I have been to my school psychologist a few times and it does the world of good. One thing that I see a lot of in todays society is people going to the internet for help when it is probably better to see someone professional. I think you would benefit greatly from it.

And also, we are doing what we think is 'help'. If you think of it differently then you should tell us what you mean by help.

[Stronk Serb]

I want help, but you all think that saying "talk to her" or "make a move" is helping... IT ISN'T HELP.

Dude, I was shy more then you. I couldn't look a girl in the eye. Once I decided to befriend a girl I liked, I didn't want to approach her at first, but I forced myself to. After becoming good friends, I asked her to be my girlfriend. She rejected me, I was devastated. I got over her after a few months. Now I am not as shy as before, you will never know what she feels unless you ask her first. Try talking to girls you are not interested first. If you have a sister or a female cousin your age (a few years difference in age) who you trust, talk to them first. Maybe they can help. Like some have said, try talking to a counselor.

[Cece14]

So your saying its more possible that she does like me. I should also mention that when she does look at me. She acts like she is looking for someone and once we make eye contact she quickly darts her eyes away almost like she is looking for someone and she looks at me go past.

Omg! I do that too! Im not saying she likes you, but im not saying she dosnt, you just have to talk to her and if she does like you then you scored if not than at least you made a new friend:)

[kylem]

you prolly just had some food or something you spilt on your suit and you didn't notice it!:eek:

[Harley Quinn]

Mod note: the_one_1, you need to calm it. You've asked for answers and everyone has given you one. Just because you don't like the answer, doesn't mean you need to get angry about it. No one has been bullying you and if you think they have, send me a PM and I'll look into it.

[clueless_one]

Mod note: the_one_1, you need to calm it. You've asked for answers and everyone has given you one. Just because you don't like the answer, doesn't mean you need to get angry about it. No one has been bullying you and if you think they have, send me a PM and I'll look into it.

Telling a SHY GUY to talk to the girl they like or to make a move is not HELP. Its a fricking DEATH SENTENCE. If you seriously want me to die of a heart attack or equivalent. I will gladly accept your help. It will most likely be the last time I will be alive. AND I WILL BE HAPPY IF I WAS DEAD. EVERYONE will be a lot more HAPPIER.

[WeAreOneRepublic]

Telling a SHY GUY to talk to the girl they like or to make a move is not HELP. Its a fricking DEATH SENTENCE. If you seriously want me to die of a heart attack or equivalent. I will gladly accept your help. It will most likely be the last time I will be alive. AND I WILL BE HAPPY IF I WAS DEAD. EVERYONE will be a lot more HAPPIER.

I must say, asking a question like this and the answers given are very much the expected ones. I would like to know what sort of answers you expected us to give?

And also if you do not mind me asking, do you have social anxiety?

[Stardust]

Ok I have a lot of thoughts running through my head.

I'll just limit it to this; Signs are so hard to interpret there is simply no way you will know how someone feels without talking to them. In this case that presents you with a paradox because you can't talk to her without knowing how she feels and you can't know how she feels unless you talk to her.

From there the next development falls onto you and your actions. Now there isn't much we can do to help you in that aspect. You are shy, and we can't change that...the problem is regardless of what comes next you are going to have to confront the shyness if you want to get to know her or to date her. Eventually you will have to talk to her, why does it matter if you know how she feels? How about starting to talk to her without the pretense of a 'crush' or assumptions about whether she likes you and just see how it goes? So like approach her in a friendly manner, not with a goal of dating her, but with a goal of getting to know her.

If you can't talk to someone as a friend, then I do not see how figuring out she likes you will help. Say hypothetically she totally likes you, then what? You will have to talk to her right? Either to ask her out or get to know her. So why not just bite the bullet and confront your shyness, because if you don't then this whole thread/worrying about if she likes you is pointless.

Sorry I rambled a bit but basically; Shyness is an obstacle you will have to get over, so stop worrying about what she thinks and make your own signs. Get to know her.

[clueless_one]

I must say, asking a question like this and the answers given are very much the expected ones. I would like to know what sort of answers you expected us to give?

And also if you do not mind me asking, do you have social anxiety?

YES, I've said it time and time again. DUE TO LOVING A SPORT THAT IS NOT POPULAR WHERE IM FROM HAS LED ME TO FEEL LIKE I HAVE NO FRIENDS... SOCIALLY ISOLATED!!! FEELING LIKE I HAVE NO FRIENDS!!!

GOT IT NOW!!!

[clueless_one]

Ok I have a lot of thoughts running through my head.

I'll just limit it to this; Signs are so hard to interpret there is simply no way you will know how someone feels without talking to them. In this case that presents you with a paradox because you can't talk to her without knowing how she feels and you can't know how she feels unless you talk to her.

From there the next development falls onto you and your actions. Now there isn't much we can do to help you in that aspect. You are shy, and we can't change that...the problem is regardless of what comes next you are going to have to confront the shyness if you want to get to know her or to date her. Eventually you will have to talk to her, why does it matter if you know how she feels? How about starting to talk to her without the pretense of a 'crush' or assumptions about whether she likes you and just see how it goes? So like approach her in a friendly manner, not with a goal of dating her, but with a goal of getting to know her.

If you can't talk to someone as a friend, then I do not see how figuring out she likes you will help. Say hypothetically she totally likes you, then what? You will have to talk to her right? Either to ask her out or get to know her. So why not just bite the bullet and confront your shyness, because if you don't then this whole thread/worrying about if she likes you is pointless.

Sorry I rambled a bit but basically; Shyness is an obstacle you will have to get over, so stop worrying about what she thinks and make your own signs. Get to know her.

I ALREADY FEEL I HAVE NO FRIENDS. DO YOU WANT ME TO LOSE ANOTHER FRIEND BY ASKING THE GIRL I LIKE OUT. ITS ALWAYS HAPPENED AND ITS MY FRIEKING BAD LUCK THAT THIS HAPPENS TO ME. I've fricken had enough of this shit. My parents don't help me, my dad makes my life fricken worse if I'm meant to have a shit life being alone so be it. I will just kill myself. My shyness and pain will end and everyone will be a lot more happier. It seems no one cares about me anymore. All this shit has lead to me being shy . I CANT STOP IT OR CHANGE IT UNLESS I PLAN TO KILL MY FATHER which is wrong and I don't want to do.

[WeAreOneRepublic]

YES, I've said it time and time again. DUE TO LOVING A SPORT THAT IS NOT POPULAR WHERE IM FROM HAS LED ME TO FEEL LIKE I HAVE NO FRIENDS... SOCIALLY ISOLATED!!! FEELING LIKE I HAVE NO FRIENDS!!!

GOT IT NOW!!!

Bar the fact that none of my questions were actually answered I say this.

You need professional help!

Do not take it as a bad thing. I have been to a psych a few times and its good. The thing is, you ask for help, we answer your question but it isn't the one you want so you ignore it. And as much as you think suicide will affect no one you are wrong. It will devastate the rest of your parents lives and they have to live with that? That is not something you should do. A psychologist will help you, they are trained to help with almost anything.

My final, last ditch thing is to not worry about getting a girlfriend! I mean, you are acting like it is the end of the earth. You still have 70 years to live. When I stopped trying to get a girlfriend and just was myself for a while I now have one :O high school doesn't equal you needing a gf and as much as society makes you think that it's not.

Run along now

[Stardust]

Didnt realise you were already friends with her...

Please dont kill yourself. Also this obviously isnt the place to get help...how can we help you?

I think i agree with above. Ask someone for some help, like a councillor, in overcoming your shyness

[Croconaw]

You shouldn't ask her now since you waited so long. She deserves someone better. You have been putting this off way too long and you know it! As mentioned above, you need some professional help because there's something wrong with you. I don't mean to say that in a rude way, but it's true. She obviously doesn't reciprocate the feelings. No one is bullying you and you need to calm down. Everyone was nice enough to give you input on all one hundred of your repetitive threads regarding the same issue. You need to follow the advice that you were given and seek help. By the way, get over the girl already. She really doesn't like you at all and she deserves better. Assuming you follow our advice and get help... Good luck!