My best friend is a pedophile

[Texas warrior]

My best friend who shall go unnamed told me he is a pedophile. I do not know how I feel about that. So if your best friend told you he/she is a pedophile how would you feel?

[Stryker125]

I dunno. That's gotta be something that's hard to deal with, especially with the stigma that comes with being a pedophile. I think it's safe to assume he trusts and respects you a shit ton....that seems like something most people would never tell anyone. I don't really know how you're supposed to feel about it, but maybe you should support him and be there for him. Sure it's weird, but not every pedophile is a sexual abuser...so maybe he'll be able to just keep his urges to himself and under control. I guess just treat it the same way you'd treat one of your friends telling you he was gay. Let him know you're still his friend and that it doesn't change your relationship. If that's true that is. You gotta be honest.

Hope that helped..

[Vocabulous]

Call them on their bullshit.

[Living For Love]

I would try to change him, make him realise that what he does is disgusting and not correct at all.

[ksdnfkfr]

By pedophile does that mean he finds kids attractive
which needs counseling.
Or is he molesting kids which needs the police?

[NonY]

I think by you knowing you have an obligation to make sure he is not acting upon this. If it gets out of hand you need to inform the authorities/someone above you

[SkootuGurl]

I would try to change him, make him realise that what he does is disgusting and not correct at all.

By pedophile does that mean he finds kids attractive
which needs counseling.


If somebody is attracted to something, you can't just make them stop being attracted to it. The idea is as ridiculous as those stupid "pray away the gay" camps.

Being a paedophile isn't wrong in itself, it's just different and abnormal. Acting on it is wrong however. The other side of the coin is that most rapist aren't paedophiles but it doesn't make rape ok.

[Bellissimo]

If somebody is attracted to something, you can't just make them stop being attracted to it. The idea is as ridiculous as those stupid "pray away the gay" camps.

Being a paedophile isn't wrong in itself, it's just different and abnormal. Acting on it is wrong however. The other side of the coin is that most rapist aren't paedophiles but it doesn't make rape ok.

Indeed, stupid reactions here..
Besides that there is a difference between a pedophile and a pedosexual. A huge difference.

[TheBigUnit]

My best friend who shall go unnamed told me he is a pedophile. I do not know how I feel about that. So if your best friend told you he/she is a pedophile how would you feel?

Well technically everyone on this site is a pedophile, did your friend give any details of like him wanting to act on it?

[SkootuGurl]

Well technically everyone on this site is a pedophile,

I htink you mean technically hebephile and ephebephiles, since paedophiles are supposed to be into pre-pubescent children. ;)

[TheBigUnit]

I htink you mean technically hebephile and ephebephiles, since paedophiles are supposed to be into pre-pubescent children. ;)

Oo yes haha, but the point is that it might just be hormones

[NeuroTiger]

To have a friend bearing such a stigma is certainly very embarrassing...
Pedophiles are weird!
(I apologise for being biased but these kind of people don't appeal to me)

[ksdnfkfr]

If somebody is attracted to something, you can't just make them stop being attracted to it. The idea is as ridiculous as those stupid "pray away the gay" camps.

Counseling won't make my autism go away either,
but it helps me learn to cope with it and manage it better.

[Melodic]

This is the first advice thread I've been speechless on. You can't exactly tell him who he should like, so I guess you need to be a good friend for him and hopefully things will turn out good in the end.

[sqishy]

My best friend who shall go unnamed told me he is a pedophile. I do not know how I feel about that. So if your best friend told you he/she is a pedophile how would you feel?

Was he being humorous? If not (probably not), perhaps asking him more information about why he thinks this will get you in a position where you can make an opinion on it.

Hypothetically, f my best friend did say he/she was a pedophile, I'd try to approach it as most understanding as possible, and ask if he/she was sure about this and what reason he/she has to believe this.

[Dundun99]

he might be joking or maybe because of hormones, you need to speak to him and make sure

[Texas warrior]

Was he being humorous?.

He was not joking,

perhaps asking him more information about why he thinks this will get you in a position where you can make an opinion on it.

So we had a talk about why he thinks that he is a pedophile,
(1) He looks at Lolita hentai.
(2) He gets a hard if he sees a little girl naked.
So I think his assumption of being a pedophile is correct, like there was any doubt any way. He also said that he would rather die than tuch a little girl like that because he would lose all self respect and self worth, and this is not a guy who uses the phrase "would rather die" lightly. He also said he is attracted to chicks his age, I do not know why but that also made me feel better. He is still the same guy and I sill trust him, but this still leaves me really confused :confused:

[Luminous]

If somebody is attracted to something, you can't just make them stop being attracted to it. The idea is as ridiculous as those stupid "pray away the gay" camps.

Being a paedophile isn't wrong in itself, it's just different and abnormal. Acting on it is wrong however. The other side of the coin is that most rapist aren't paedophiles but it doesn't make rape ok.
I agree. If he is attracted to kids and masturbating to the thought of them, that's his business. If he's watching child porn and/or molesting kids, starting relationships with kids, etc, that's when it's wrong.
OP - assuming he doesn't watch child porn and/or molest kids, you just need t be there for him as a friend. Show him that you are his friend and you care.

[johndoe1112]

My best friend who shall go unnamed told me he is a pedophile. I do not know how I feel about that. So if your best friend told you he/she is a pedophile how would you feel?

he better watch the fuck out when he is on the internet because there are child porn sites that are monitered by the fbi and like a snap of a finger they can and will be at his door step

[sqishy]

He was not joking,



So we had a talk about why he thinks that he is a pedophile,
(1) He looks at Lolita hentai.
(2) He gets a hard if he sees a little girl naked.
So I think his assumption of being a pedophile is correct, like there was any doubt any way. He also said that he would rather die than tuch a little girl like that because he would lose all self respect and self worth, and this is not a guy who uses the phrase "would rather die" lightly. He also said he is attracted to chicks his age, I do not know why but that also made me feel better. He is still the same guy and I sill trust him, but this still leaves me really confused :confused:

If he is really saying he "would rather die than touch a little girl", then it sounds like he knows he's a pedophile, but is making sure he doesn't act on it. This means he knows what is going on and is trying to get control of it, which is better than not doing so.

[TheUselessAndUnwantd]

i actually have a slimilar issue, my bestfriend in the whole world raped his step sister, him and his brother. it was when they were young and didnt really understand, they did but they didnt u know? its sick yea, i totally agree with that but again hes my bestfriend and i try not to judge him. infact i dont. at all. the way i look at it and the way you might look at it is that hes still the same person that was your bestfriend before u knew this. and on top of that i judge him based on what effects me, what hes done since ive known him. Hes still my bro to this day :P even tho he knows i know since he told me. i sorta sympathize with him in a way because his father used to mercilessly rape him as a child. its sad. try to be there for him due to the fact that he probably already feels sorta alone due to it.

[Verminicious Knid]

If he's attracted to kids, you should encourage him to get help. I've read that it's a mental disease.

[YellowBlur]

I sorta do have an attraction for younger people, one of my friends does as well... but it's not like we're gonna rape anyone so we see it more like a fetish I guess. If someone feels a really strong attraction towards younger people and actually has desire to have sex with them then I think they should look for help