Superiority Complex?

[Kazooie]

So I made the awful decision to ask a guy out (again :mad:) and was told by him that I have a 'Superiority Complex'... Which makes no sense, as far as I, and a few others, can figure out.

I mean, when I'm conducting an ensemble I can be a bit demanding, but I've never worked with him. So is there some kind of way I can figure out why he thinks that I'm like that, or would it be easier to just upfront ask him? :confused:

[Castle of Glass]

i take it you are talking about this? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Superiority_complex

[ksdnfkfr]

So I made the awful decision to ask a guy out (again :mad:) and was told by him that I have a 'Superiority Complex'... Which makes no sense, as far as I, and a few others, can figure out.

I mean, when I'm conducting an ensemble I can be a bit demanding, but I've never worked with him. So is there some kind of way I can figure out why he thinks that I'm like that, or would it be easier to just upfront ask him? :confused:

Well you said it yourself, others don't see this in you.
I'm a bit of a psychology geek and it sounds like he is
making a subjective accusation against you. Which
means it's based on his personal feelings rather than
anything factual. So do not take it to heart. And yes,
you are well within your rights to question him on it.
Just try to avoid getting into a fight over it.

[Living For Love]

Just ask him why he considers that.

[sqishy]

So I made the awful decision to ask a guy out (again :mad:) and was told by him that I have a 'Superiority Complex'... Which makes no sense, as far as I, and a few others, can figure out.

I mean, when I'm conducting an ensemble I can be a bit demanding, but I've never worked with him. So is there some kind of way I can figure out why he thinks that I'm like that, or would it be easier to just upfront ask him? :confused:

He's making a mistake in taking first impressions of you as that you are 'inside'. It can help though, to know or try to see what you are like from a perspective outside yourself. Imagine you are someone else seeing you. You are doing nothing wrong, but checking how you present yourself to others will get some of the more judging and jumping-to-conclusions people to understand you.

I have experience from this, but with a 'friend' over the internet. My try at the friendship lasted 2 months from start of August and broke down after he came up with a lot of insulting and judging opinions of me, though he thought he was helping in some way. I made some mistakes with describing myself when I was in mood drops, and I give inaccurate and negative-biased evaluations of myself when I am in those mood drops. So he took that as the truth, but when I did say I was in a bad mood, he kept passing it off as 'silly' and 'easy to fix'. Herein I end my rant before it begins.
Hope this helps!

[Kazooie]

So I took your advice and just asked him... And he said he doesn't really have an opinion of me, but just gets a bad vibe. :confused:

I guess the chances of me being friends with him at least are gone! :rolleyes:

[NeuroTiger]

So I took your advice and just asked him... And he said he doesn't really have an opinion of me, but just gets a bad vibe. :confused:

I guess the chances of me being friends with him at least are gone! :rolleyes:

Take things easy dude.
You can still be friends with him.