Should I tell her how I feel?

[Broken Box]

I have a bit of a unique situation here and some advice would be helpful.

So I posted a few weeks ago about having a crush on this girl for a while now. The problem is that I have never spoken to her. After that thread I finally got the courage to go up into a group of friends she was with. I was very proud of myself but I realized I wasn't able to talk to her. I just stood there quietly and didn't say much.

Fast forward a few weeks and I'm now upset with myself because I don't have many chances to see her. On top of that, I think she has a boyfriend which makes me even more upset and makes me hate myself more for not talking to her.

My question is should I just tell her how I feel next time I get a chance? I've really been bothered by this whole thing for almost a year now. I had chances last year to talk to her because she was in my class and I had chances this year. I blew them all. I also have friends who are good friends with her so I have no excuse. Now that she has a boyfriend I'm almost at the point of giving up.

I know I've never talked to her but I don't think I'd have a problem telling her how I feel for a couple reasons: 1) i don't think I have a chance anyway so I might as well let her know and 2) it may give me closure and lift a huge weight off my shoulders. I also feel like the ball would be in her court and it would take a lot of pressure off of me. I've heard that you shouldn't tell a girl you like her because it pretty much ruins your chances but at this point I really don't care. I just don't want to feel bad anymore. If you think I should tell her how should I approach it?

[highschool]

"I've heard that you shouldn't tell a girl you like her because it pretty much ruins your chances"

first of all, who told you these lies? I think every girl would like for a guy to admit that he likes her.
Second of all, if you've really been dwelling on it and you don't care about the outcome, then yeah you should do it. But if you actually want a relationship in the future with this gal, I recommend just be-befriending her and waiting to see if her and her bf break up.

[Broken Box]

"I've heard that you shouldn't tell a girl you like her because it pretty much ruins your chances"

first of all, who told you these lies? I think every girl would like for a guy to admit that he likes her.
Second of all, if you've really been dwelling on it and you don't care about the outcome, then yeah you should do it. But if you actually want a relationship in the future with this gal, I recommend just be-befriending her and waiting to see if her and her bf break up.

Thanks for the response.

I always thought it was stupid to not tell someone you like them. I never really took that line seriously.

I would like to have a relationship with her but the biggest problem is that I just can't talk to her. I've tried before and I just freeze up and can't say anything. It's sad because I'm at the point where I'd rather ruin my chances so I feel better instead of torturing myself by trying to talk to her and be friends (which I wouldn't mind)

[schoolgirlz]

Just like the girl above said just befriend her and so if they break up give her time and then make sure you get to her first! ;)

[badthoughts]

You've received two responses and they've both been semi-terrible. The only thing saving them from being cast to hell is that I'm not against you befriending this girl.

However, do not tell her you like her. She's in a relationship. Presumably she's happy. If you start pouring out your heart, it's just going to end badly for you. That girl that posted first in this thread is wrong six ways to Sunday about every girl liking guys to admit they like them. Don't do it, dude. It's a bad idea.

Also, do not under any circumstance wait for this girl like you've been advised. Your crush has a boyfriend, which means she's living her life and probably loving it, and you're just supposed to sit and wait for them to break up?! Fuck that.

Here's some hard truth: you're sitting here dreaming of this girl, but she doesn't even think of you; I'd bet my entire piggy bank on that. Quit wasting your time, man, and whatever you do, absolutely do not wait for her and her bf to break up. You'll definitely live with regrets if you do that. Good luck.