Lonely amongst friends and family

[NotYourAverageTeen]

Hi, this is my first thread on VT and I have something I'd like to share...

I have been feeling really lonely all year. I'm not sure where to start. I've never been the most popular kid on the block, but I've always had family and one or two great friends in primary school to help me get through. I am and always have been a smart, geeky kid and I have no interest in sports, so at school I usually find myself amongst the like. When I made the transition into a new high school in 7th grade, I didn't seem to fit in as easy as I did in Primary. On the first day I found myself alone while others were already beginning to form their social groups to last them the next 6 years...

I never actually found myself in any of these groups of people and I found there was a limited number of people that weren't asshole jocks or complete idiots. These days, i sort of hang around with a with a great group of people but to this day I have never really had a best friend or connected with anyone. I always feel unwelcome and get third-wheeled.

My free time mainly consists of time on the internet, wishing I had some friends I could go spend some time with. And to make things worse, I am feeling progressively disconnected from my parents and I dont know why ;( I dont feel the same love that I did when I get a hug from mum and Im getting vibes that make me feel like they dont care anymore.

I'm not an antisocial personality. No one understands me.

Can you help me?

[Living For Love]

I also don't understand how some people can make real friends so easily. There's a new guy on my class that came to live in my city, and when he arrived here he knew absolutely no one. Now, he's totally integrated in the class and has already made a lot of friends, and he's not really attractive at all, but he has a really good personality, very kind and humble, and he's not arrogant as other guys in the class are.

You're just like me, then. You don't imagine how much I miss having someone I could trust on and understand me, and help me when I was feeling a bit down. But I try not to think too much about it and focus on other and more important things. You should do the same. If you've already tried to talk to a lot of people and think they just don't care that much about you, so just try to entertain yourself alone.

[Wyatt 13]

Dude, I feel the same sometimes. Try some sport or teen groups in your church that helped to me.

[NeuroTiger]

Shake hands or wave on meeting someone you've seen before in your class.
Try to open good conversation.
Be a gentleman,in short.
Gradually,it will come.

[alvin]

you can join a club to make a friend in same interest

[Steve Jobs]

Man, I can completely relate to that. I wouldn't say I'm the third wing, but in many situations, I find myself being the one going out to meet plenty of people, though very few of them stay to become good friends.

I can probably count on my hand the people I've sat down and had a somewhat meaningful conversation with this past year - and even fewer I could still do it with right now. It takes time to build up trust and you simply have to be in the right place at the right time to do so.

As for your parents - I very much get the same. I'm fortunate my parents have been there to support me most of the way, but they were absent in my early childhood and we've never made that kind of intimate connection on a personal level. There's so much in my life too that I wish I could share, but it would only make things worse. But your parents brought you into this world for a reason, and even if they don't seem to care, they almost definitely do. Parents are humans too, just like us, and sometimes their method of "caring" doesn't translate very well, or we don't fully appreciate it until it's completely removed from our lives.

[lassi]

This post really touched me. I can relate to you in so many ways. In fact, you kinda remind me of myself. I personally found myself looking for a best friend in the wrong place. Maybe you can find someone who is not part of a social group who is also feeling the way you do. As for feeling left out in your current group, speak up! Let them know that you would like to be more involved in what ever they are doing. Maybe you could hang out with each person individually to see which one you have things more in common with.
As for your family, try doing some family activities more often. Even spending more quality time with each parent. Let them know what's going on in your life. You never know they might have some helpful advice!:)

[Body odah Man]

Hi, this is my first thread on VT and I have something I'd like to share...

I have been feeling really lonely all year. I'm not sure where to start. I've never been the most popular kid on the block, but I've always had family and one or two great friends in primary school to help me get through. I am and always have been a smart, geeky kid and I have no interest in sports, so at school I usually find myself amongst the like. When I made the transition into a new high school in 7th grade, I didn't seem to fit in as easy as I did in Primary. On the first day I found myself alone while others were already beginning to form their social groups to last them the next 6 years...

I never actually found myself in any of these groups of people and I found there was a limited number of people that weren't asshole jocks or complete idiots. These days, i sort of hang around with a with a great group of people but to this day I have never really had a best friend or connected with anyone. I always feel unwelcome and get third-wheeled.

My free time mainly consists of time on the internet, wishing I had some friends I could go spend some time with. And to make things worse, I am feeling progressively disconnected from my parents and I dont know why ;( I dont feel the same love that I did when I get a hug from mum and Im getting vibes that make me feel like they dont care anymore.

I'm not an antisocial personality. No one understands me.

Can you help me?


Brother!! I have exactly the same thing sadly-it sucks SO MUCH :(
I hope someone manages to help you-wish I could. GL man-ur not alone.

[Were]

i guess am this kind of guy that makes friends so fast in new schools and other places(not bragging) .
you should be yourself,do not be what people want you to be and never force yourself into someones life because you will get dissappointments,let people have space for you in their lives.
friends will come automatically if you are yourself and they will be the right ones for you