Coming out.

[jff16190]

I am a guy, actually into alot of masculine activities, not one bit feminine. i want to come out, but i dont know how or where to start.

[Azalez070]

What do you mean to come out? sorry for me being stupid... :S

[jff16190]

im gay,its just nobody knows, coming out is telling ppl that ur gay.

[Azalez070]

Oh, coming out of the closet some people call it.. Sorry i didn't understand.

Well.. that way, people might respect you when you are surrounded by friends, right now they make jokes maybe, but if you come out, they might stop doing that... any way, why are you so sure you are gay brother?

[Abyssal Echo]

Start by telling a close friend or maybe a relative. Someone you feel close to or comfortable talking to. The first person I told was my cousin she was really cool about it.

[Luminous]

Make sure you are 110% positive before coming out. If you end up actually bi or something like that you'll regret coming out as gay. Start by telling someone you really trust and slowly keep doing that, until you feel more confident with it and with yourself so it's not a big deal.

[jff16190]

Oh, coming out of the closet some people call it.. Sorry i didn't understand.

Well.. that way, people might respect you when you are surrounded by friends, right now they make jokes maybe, but if you come out, they might stop doing that... any way, why are you so sure you are gay brother?


I just feel it, and I have no interest in girls, but plenty in guys

[jff16190]

And thank you everybody for yo advice!

[Azalez070]

No problem. That's why cyber friends are for, right... :)

[Thomas01]

Just tell people little by littke. They might spread it around so be ready. But otherwise, just tell a few, you don't need to tell everyone. Just be yourself and eventually others will hear and just know. If they ask, you can just confirm it

[Jakie23]

I told my best friend first. Hecwas totally cool about it. It was lesson 4 out of 5 just before lunch when I told him. I trusted him, but by the end of lunch everyone knew. I dunno if he told people or what...

[From Chris]

I am a guy, actually into alot of masculine activities, not one bit feminine. i want to come out, but i dont know how or where to start.

Hey there jff, i just want to start out with you shouldn't have to worry about what people think about who you are! Being gay, does not necessarily mean you are feminine! I think that's more of a stereotype than truth. I know a lot of gay guys that if you talked to, you would have no idea they are gay; which isn't a bad thing! :) When i came out, I looked towards my friends first because they are people i trust and i know i can tell them anything! I would find someone who you know doesn't mind homosexuals, because like me, i have some homophobic friends. I would say that you have an important thing to say and tell them you are gay! They should accept you and nothing should change because friends should accept you for who you are! :) As for people like your family, personally i sent my mom a video made by a widely known gay youtuber that explains to the viewer that their child is gay and they look for your support. It worked perfectly! My mom and along with the rest of my family, they accepted me for who i was without any problems. However if you have the utmost courage to tell your parents to their face then go ahead! :) They should love as they always have and give you their full support.

-From Chris

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Sorry but I have to ask ... what does you being masculine have anything to do with coming out of the closet?

But yeah, I pretty much agree with what's been said above.

[Joey.]

Me, Myself is struggling with this as well..
But as a few has told me,
don't rush it, you'll know when it's time to come out.
If you know your gay, and you have accepted it..then great, that's the first step.
Tell the people who actually matters in your life,
Because at the end of the day... it's them that will be there for you.