Feeling Objectified

[LolWall]

A girl who's around 15 years old has a mad crush on me.

Whenever I try to talk solemnly with her, she often interrupts and just says "it's okay, handsome/cutie." I've also caught her stalking my facebook and weird enough, I've already seen signs of sexual attraction.

I am flattered, yes, but she makes me feel like a piece of meat. I feel like she objectifies me, even in front of my face.

Also, I feel like she'd be a good first relationship, but I'm not sure if it's worth it if she just likes me because of my looks.

What should I do? Even when I'm with my guy friends she sometimes interrupts just to pinch my cheeks. My guy friends also taunt me about this.

This is very awkward for me and uncomfortable too. I'm the boy and it's more common for us to be the objectifiers, but it's really awkward when the boy is the one being objectified. It's also awkward because I'm actually older and more mature-looking (& thus taller).

I don't know what to tell her. Pleasse help. The examples I gave are only a tip of the icebergs of how she treats me.

[Living For Love]

Forget her, if she acts in such a strange and unconfrotable way towards you, then she just doesn't deserve your friendship.

[Harley Quinn]

First of all you need to think, is someone who treats me like this and makes me feel uncomfortable, worth being in a relationship with?

Tell her what she makes you feel like because if she doesn't know, how is she meant to improve or change her behaviour towards you? Just because she has a crush on you doesn't mean she should be treating you like that. You're a human not a piece of meat and she needs to realise that. Don't put up with it just because you think she'd be a good first relationship, because, to be honest it sounds like she wouldn't actually be good for you in a relationship anyway.

[drew6]

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[LolWall]

She once asked me to go to her house and wear over-the-knee socks so she could take pictures of me wearing them. I said no, even if she offered to treat me out to McDonald's.

Such fetishism... :O

[Elysium]

It'd be awkward for anyone to be objectified, regardless of gender...

If you feel the least bit awkward, unsure, or uncomfortable with this girl, I wouldn't do anything with her. Politely ask her to tone it down a bit, maybe.

[badthoughts]

She once asked me to go to her house and wear over-the-knee socks so she could take pictures of me wearing them. I said no, even if she offered to treat me out to McDonald's.
Is it just me, or is that one of the funniest things ever? What I would do for a Big Mac....

I am flattered, yes, but she makes me feel like a piece of meat.
You're not just any piece of meat, you're a Prime Rib. Grade A, top choice. Say it with me...

Seriously though, as others have said, I'd ditch the broad. Maybe get McFlurry first. She sounds kinda cray cray though, so watch out. Good luck.

[Luminous]

I don't think she would be a good partner for you. Tell her that you want her to back off and she is making you uncomfortable. Then ignore her. Don't be extremely rude about it, but don't act like you might want to be in a relationship with her. Unfriend her on Facebook and turn your privacy settings on, et cetera.

[LolWall]

You're not just any piece of meat, you're a Prime Rib. Grade A, top choice. Say it with me...

Seriously though, as others have said, I'd ditch the broad. Maybe get McFlurry first. She sounds kinda cray cray though, so watch out. Good luck.

You just made grateful that she's not a vorephile... :P

[martogogo]

you are lucky :)))))))))))

[Mob Boss]

She once asked me to go to her house and wear over-the-knee socks so she could take pictures of me wearing them. I said no, even if she offered to treat me out to McDonald's.

Such fetishism... :O

Just over-the-knees? Not even super thigh-high ones nor a maid's outfit? http://i.imgur.com/ToCzo.gif
She's already gone wrong in so many places. I'm not sure I can teach that which can't be taught.


I don't blame you for contemplating it even for a millisecond. If someone offered to treat me to some Mickey D's French fries.... I might let them grab my ass and call me Big Blue while wearing a ski mask and a unitard. They are just the perfect fusion of potato and grease.
Is it just me, or is that one of the funniest things ever?
Definitely not just you. Once the McDonalds barter started being discussed I actually broke a rib from laughing and had to take some pain pills.

you are lucky :)))))))))))
http://www.snarksquad.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/8674a-wait_what.gif

....lucky she doesn't have access to an abandoned warehouse, powertools and 50 feet of rope.




Op, that sound extremely unhealthy, in every sense. Tell her, "hey, I'm not interested and stop grabbing my ass." No one should be objectified like that nor humiliated. I ain't gonna judge the girl, I'm just gonna say you should probably stay within a hundred yards away from her at all time. It doesn't make you a bad person to tell her she, or the things she does, makes you uncomfortable and that you'd appreciate it if you stop. If you call her out on it -- and when you do, make sure it's just you and her and no one else around so you don't embarrass her -- i have a feeling she'll stop or move on to another guy.

[LolWall]

Op, that sound extremely unhealthy, in every sense. Tell her, "hey, I'm not interested and stop grabbing my ass." No one should be objectified like that nor humiliated. I ain't gonna judge the girl, I'm just gonna say you should probably stay within a hundred yards away from her at all time. It doesn't make you a bad person to tell her she, or the things she does, makes you uncomfortable and that you'd appreciate it if you stop. If you call her out on it -- and when you do, make sure it's just you and her and no one else around so you don't embarrass her -- i have a feeling she'll stop or move on to another guy.

Just called her up. I feel very much harrassed now. She told me that the only way for her to stop would be for me to let her have sex with me or give me a blowjob. I am really on the brink of shouting "GTFO" at her already...

And no, I will not succumb to her requests.

[Mob Boss]

Just called her up. I feel very much harassed now. She told me that the only way for her to stop would be for me to let her have sex with me or give me a blowjob. I am really on the brink of shouting "GTFO" at her already...

And no, I will not succumb to her requests

Wow, she's upped her game to coercion tactics, I see. If she sees you yield to her demands she'll continue forcing you into things under the pretense that she'll leave you be. I'm at the point where I'm even saying GTFO. Don't consent to any of that. You seem like a really nice guy that she thinks she can take advantage of. You can be stern without being malicious. It isn't fair for you to have to be submitted to that because she is being vindictive and desperate. I think, though others will probably disagree as they might find it offensive, but I think it's to the point that you have to be forceful. Defend yourself and don't let her walk all over you. Tell her you're not doing any of that, no matter what she threatens, and that she has no business treating you like that. Tell her you're not interested and will likely never be, especially with the way she treats you. Maybe she'll see that as a "I should stop and maybe someday we'll be together".

[Fallen_Eagle]

She once asked me to go to her house and wear over-the-knee socks so she could take pictures of me wearing them. I said no, even if she offered to treat me out to McDonald's.

Such fetishism... :O

Zettai ryouiki is God's most wonderful gift to the world.

So uhh OP, if you're not interested you'd best let her know about it. I still can't believe that she demands sexual contact! I'd be really careful if I were you, this girl sounds a bit wacky O_O And besides that, it would be a good deed to reject her without hurting her feelings. Especially because her crush seems to be severely obsessive and not very healthy. If you'd just tell her to fuck off, she'll probably get on the verge of total nutso land. I'd mention you in my prayers if I actually did that kind of stuff but err... gl:)

[badthoughts]

Hm, this situation has escalated to the point where I don't even have a snarky comment or a sarcastic image to post. It's time to be 'not nice' with this girl. The gloves need to come off, roll up your sleeves, and throw the ol' one-two-duck-one-two-dive combo then come in with the uppercut. I mean that figuratively, of course. Please don't hit anyone.

But yeah, as the Mrs. said a couple of posts above, you need to be more forceful. No more Mr. Nice Guy. Speaking of, here's no more Mr. Nice Guy himself, parading around in a lovely room of whips and chains and other various pain and torture devices. You didn't really think I could resist not putting some kind of image in a post, did you?

http://24.media.tumblr.com/552add546aa16cff347e3319017fbbe0/tumblr_ms90y0o2F61sn36amo1_400.gif

[LolWall]

I let her make out with me (I was very hesitant) and she said she'll let me off for a month...

She always claims to be my girlfriend in front of other people... Even my ex-gf (when we were still together) got mad at me because she thought we had an affair, so I had to explain, but even if my ex would let me off the hook, she'd always become more suspicious. But she (the objectifier) would often go face-to-face with my ex and say "Back off. B*tch; He's MINE!!!". That was one of the MAJOR obstacles of my previous relationship. I'd often shout "NO!", but she'd usually just say "Haha, that's funny, cutie" and kiss me lips-to-lips forcibly.

You know now that it's not only how she treats me, but it's also how she's ruining my social life. Even when she's outta my sight, some things are bound to happen that I don't like.

Luckily, prom's coming soon and if I get to kiss any girl, I'll make sure to do it in front of her face. That's just as forceful I cou.d go without looking like a jerk.