Straight, Bi, or Gay?

[elmoc]

I am new to the forum, and see so many posts from guys who are wondering which category they fit into. I am probably totally out of place as a newbie, but I think we are often too young to make these decisions at our age. Yes, I believe there are some buys that KNOW they Gay or straight, but I also think that sex is so new & exciting to us, that we are willing to experiment with almost anyone, in order to try to experience the wonderful feeling that puberty brings to us.

I think guys experimenting with guys is totally normal, as we try to get through puberty/adolescence & decide about our sexuality. Many of us, when jackin with other guys, are looking at pictures of women, or talking about sex with women. To me, all that means is that we have both discovered these wonderful new feelings in our penis, & want to explore them with others. At 13, I was much too shy to talk to girls about sex or masturbation, but my best friend was also going through puberty, so we did masturbate together. If he had been a girl, I honestly wouldn't have known what to do, & definitely would not have known how to make sex good for her!

Just my opinion!

ElmoC

[Berad]

Most kids here don't like to wait and find things out for themselves. They're impatient and jump to silly conclusions out of confusion.

[ksdnfkfr]

elmoc, I think you are 100% spot on, hit the nail on the head, correct.

[Alex_3869]

What you said is true, but in pretty sure im gay. By pretty sure I mean 110%

[Miri]

Welcome to the forums, and what a great post. I agree with you completely. I am fairly certain of my sexuality, but I agree that if there is any confusion at all, just to let life take its course and to not rush to conclusions, and indeed experimentation is completely normal.

[mikemidas63]

That post is a very accurate point. i am fully aware that i am bi and i have friends that seek my helin finding out their sexuality.
I have a couple of gay friends who come to me for help and advice mainly about guys and the same goes for my bi friends

[ATOMICskittles]

I would like to say I agree with you, but I also disagree. Yes there are some who are confused and just jump to conclusions about themselves and haven't really questioned themselves. But there are also people, including me, who know. I've known I'm gay since like second grade and there are just people, like me, who know themselves.

[Avenida105]

There are other people who do it just to be "cool", as weird as it sounds, some people find it in to be gay, bi, or whatever. The majority of younger kids are still finding out what they are, but once you hit 16 I think you are pretty sure of what you are.

[darthearth]

I would like to say I agree with you, but I also disagree. Yes there are some who are confused and just jump to conclusions about themselves and haven't really questioned themselves. But there are also people, including me, who know. I've known I'm gay since like second grade and there are just people, like me, who know themselves.

Same here. I knew since 2nd grade, I would go around church teasing and saying "I'm gay.", then when people questioned me I said "Gay means happy!", but I knew exactly what I was saying. When I talked to my mom about things some time ago I mentioned my teasing back then and told her I actually did know what I was saying, I was saying it in sole response to me realizing what I was.

[From Chris]

I am new to the forum, and see so many posts from guys who are wondering which category they fit into. I am probably totally out of place as a newbie, but I think we are often too young to make these decisions at our age. Yes, I believe there are some buys that KNOW they Gay or straight, but I also think that sex is so new & exciting to us, that we are willing to experiment with almost anyone, in order to try to experience the wonderful feeling that puberty brings to us.

I think guys experimenting with guys is totally normal, as we try to get through puberty/adolescence & decide about our sexuality. Many of us, when jackin with other guys, are looking at pictures of women, or talking about sex with women. To me, all that means is that we have both discovered these wonderful new feelings in our penis, & want to explore them with others. At 13, I was much too shy to talk to girls about sex or masturbation, but my best friend was also going through puberty, so we did masturbate together. If he had been a girl, I honestly wouldn't have known what to do, & definitely would not have known how to make sex good for her!

Just my opinion!

ElmoC

I'm gay :) I'm 15 and i definitely know i am gay~

-From Chris

[elmoc]

I'm gay :) I'm 15 and i definitely know i am gay~

-From Chris

Point taken, & I apologize if my answer seemed to suggest that you can't be certain about your sexual preference at an early age. I completely respect your sexuality, & did not mean to insinuate otherwise. But, I think that a 12 year old boy that claims to be bisexual could simply be inexperienced.

I don't believe that being gay is a "choice." I do think a "bisexual" 12 year old may just need more sexual opportunities before they know their preference.

[MortimerB]

You hear that sound? Yup, it's the sound of applause. Well done post, mate. :)

[Mob Boss]

I am new to the forum, and see so many posts from guys who are wondering which category they fit into. I am probably totally out of place as a newbie, but I think we are often too young to make these decisions at our age. Yes, I believe there are some buys that KNOW they Gay or straight, but I also think that sex is so new & exciting to us, that we are willing to experiment with almost anyone, in order to try to experience the wonderful feeling that puberty brings to us.

I think guys experimenting with guys is totally normal, as we try to get through puberty/adolescence & decide about our sexuality. Many of us, when jackin with other guys, are looking at pictures of women, or talking about sex with women. To me, all that means is that we have both discovered these wonderful new feelings in our penis, & want to explore them with others. At 13, I was much too shy to talk to girls about sex or masturbation, but my best friend was also going through puberty, so we did masturbate together. If he had been a girl, I honestly wouldn't have known what to do, & definitely would not have known how to make sex good for her!

Just my opinion!

ElmoC

I agree to some extent. I'm 19, guys. The big 1....9. I'm probably going to have to sign up for AARP next month, but I still didn't know what it was that I was until recently. I thought I was straight then a lesbian and then months ago I came to this realization that I am bi. I say realization because it was exactly that -- I never went on a scavenger hunt for it, but I somehow found it along the way. When I was 14, 15, 16 even, I didn't have the ability to label myself anything because I honestly did not know. However, I did try to put checkboxes next to me to figure it out. In the end all that overthinking was moot because it was just a realization that helped me discover myself. I am not going to sit here and say there is a age limitation on labeling one's sexuality because there isn't. Different people have different life experiences, social experiences, relationship experiences at various ages. A 13 year old can be completely sure and confident in their sexuality just as a 40 year old can. The vital difference here is the hormones aren't intoxicating your every thought at 40, but they are at 13. Hormones fuel a lot. Not just that, but attraction is nearly in a constant state of change, to a degree -- not so much gender-wise, but the type of person it is you want will meaning gender may not matter if you find that person. So, while labeling is beneficial to a degree, it isn't the MOST important thing. Let yourself go exactly where it is life takes you, whether that is in the arms of a guy or girl.

[AlexOnToast]

I don't believe that being gay is a "choice." I do think a "bisexual" 12 year old may just need more sexual opportunities before they know their preference.

I agree with you here, but I'd just like to throw in my few cents and say that there are people, like me, who were fairly sure "what side" they are on from a young age.

[Luminous]

I think this is true for many people on this forum, but as you read more posts and get to know more people I think you'll see that it's not all on the sexual side of things. I'm 14 and I've been positive I was gay since I was 12, and known I didn't like boys my entire life. Not because I haven't had sex with enough penises but because I'm simply not attracted to guys.