Is he trying to use me?

[turtlescantwrite]

I dated this guy and really really liked him, he was the best bf I had. We were getting along (Ill be honest, we did some things pretty early too, but nothing horrible, no intercourse) and then all of a sudden he says we cant date- We go to two different schools by the way- and he ignores my texts asking him why he broke up with me for two days. I get over it and we dont talk for four months. He then texted me today saying he was sorry and I should go to his house. I told him no and that I didnt know what to say to him, and he says not to think and to come over. I told him we werent dating. Then he says "we can still be friends and do stuff". Ive never been in this situation and I dont know what to think. He seemed so much more intelligent and caring when we were dating. What the hecks going on?

[Luminous]

YES, it very much sounds like he is trying to use you! Follow your instinct.

[highschool]

"we can still be friends and do stuff"

sounds like he wants a friends with benefits relationship. I was in a "relationship" just like this, I feel your pain

[badthoughts]

Simply put, here's what's going on:
I'll be honest, we did some things
He wants to do those things again.

Good for you for having your suspicions and asking about this instead of blindly running back to a guy like that. However, because I like to interject my wisdom when it isn't asked for, and because I think you're still probably a bit naive about some things and I don't want you to get used like a Vegas hooker during the two-for-Tuesday special, I'm going to interpret what the following is all about:

then all of a sudden he says we cant date- We go to two different schools by the way- and he ignores my texts asking him why he broke up with me for two days. I get over it and we dont talk for four months

He found another girl to "do things" with. She was easier and/or more convenient than you, so he took the path more traveled (I'm alluding to a poem there, using it as a pun) and he used her for sex until whatever happened made her stop putting out. Naturally, he still wants someone to get him off and he suspects that the next easiest person is you which leads to this:

He then texted me today saying he was sorry and I should go to his house....he says not to think and to come over....he says "we can still be friends and do stuff"
"Stuff" is purely sexual.

He'll use you until he finds someone else more convenient, then you won't hear from him again until the girl he's with stops putting out, then you'll get the call to take up the slack. Is that what you want?

I'll assume your answer rhymes with "oh", so block his number, don't ever talk to him again, and forget about him. Good luck.

[schoolgirlz]

Don't fall for it, Relationship like these can break very badly dont respond to him if your too eager block his number and block any other social media the too of you a befriended on.

[turtlescantwrite]

Thanks much for the advice everyone.