What's the point?

[Extreme586]

I'm tired of being gay. I hate looking at the guy I love so much and have cared about for years and years with some girl in a picture having a good time. Maybe I'm being selfish and not looking at it in the right light. I want him to be happy, but I can't shake the pain in my head. Like I have literal head aches right now from even thinking about him.

I just want the pain to stop. The sad thing is he's not the only problem either. I am a loser at school and nobody wants me there. Honestly I'm just going through feelings right now that I can't even put into words. What should I do?

[Alex_3869]

You will find love. You just may not be looking in the right direction. Being gay can suck sometimes. But knowing what you truly love can outweigh all of that. Just be yourself and find a dude who loves you for you. And you love him for him.

[sqishy]

You will find love. You just may not be looking in the right direction. Being gay can suck sometimes. But knowing what you truly love can outweigh all of that. Just be yourself and find a dude who loves you for you. And you love him for him.

Yes, this.

[steellord321]

You should talk to an adult about it, maybe a therapist. Your problems aren't necessarily from being gay. If it were some girl you wanted and she's taken, same thing. The point is there are certain ways to look at it that's more constructive.

If you have social issues that's easier to work on than changing your sexuality. In fact, "tired of being gay" is like tired of life because there's no escaping it. It's your identity. You gotta figure out a way to embrace it and focus on making friends or a guy who can love you back, or at least find some way to make life more tolerable.

Do you really know none of the others want you around? Let me tell you, being in the closet will make everything fake. You can't get close to anyone like that and that alone can make you hate your sexuality. So before you despair, think of making some changes and getting help.

[Mynick]

You need to forget him, start talking with other guys, you really need to forget him. It sucks right now but i'm sure you can manage and you will be happy.

People care about you, they may not show it but they do. Don't let school screw you, you fail at maths (for eg.) so what? Thas it means you are a loser? NO.

[Wyatt 13]

Dude, don't call yourself a loser, ever.

[Tarannosaurus]

You're not a loser. There are people who care about you. It seems really hard now but you will get over him. Try not to think about it too much and find a distraction.

[Extreme586]

You're not a loser. There are people who care about you. It seems really hard now but you will get over him. Try not to think about it too much and find a distraction.

My whole school life since I moved here has been full of distractions. I played WoW all through middle school and up to like a month ago in high school. I ignored my problems and lost touch with reality and any friendships that I still could have had now.

You should talk to an adult about it, maybe a therapist. Your problems aren't necessarily from being gay. If it were some girl you wanted and she's taken, same thing. The point is there are certain ways to look at it that's more constructive.

If you have social issues that's easier to work on than changing your sexuality. In fact, "tired of being gay" is like tired of life because there's no escaping it. It's your identity. You gotta figure out a way to embrace it and focus on making friends or a guy who can love you back, or at least find some way to make life more tolerable.

Do you really know none of the others want you around? Let me tell you, being in the closet will make everything fake. You can't get close to anyone like that and that alone can make you hate your sexuality. So before you despair, think of making some changes and getting help.

I don't think it would be the same simply because a lot of my depression and social anxiety comes from the fact that I can't be real with people because I'm not straight. If I were straight it would be so much easier to relate to other guys and have friends that I can be honest with. I have been hiding my true feelings from guys and its part of the reason I act so weird around them and can't be friends with any of them.

It's so stupid, why should I HAVE to embrace something that I didn't get to chose and something that will alienate every straight guy from looking at me the same way. Guys treat you differently when they know your gay.

Idk I guess I just need other help. It won't fix my high school social life with the time I have left but maybe I can just get some piece of mind until it's over.

[steellord321]

I don't think it would be the same simply because a lot of my depression and social anxiety comes from the fact that I can't be real with people because I'm not straight. If I were straight it would be so much easier to relate to other guys and have friends that I can be honest with. I have been hiding my true feelings from guys and its part of the reason I act so weird around them and can't be friends with any of them.

It's so stupid, why should I HAVE to embrace something that I didn't get to chose and something that will alienate every straight guy from looking at me the same way. Guys treat you differently when they know your gay.

Idk I guess I just need other help. It won't fix my high school social life with the time I have left but maybe I can just get some piece of mind until it's over.

Wait...so you haven't told any guys at all and it's tearing you up? Dude that is exactly why you need to STOP hiding it. I thought maybe you have autism or something but the closet is why your not close to anyone? Unless it's seriously unsafe, you gotta come out or you're gonna continue to be miserable.

Again i hope you turn to some adult as a 1st step, maybe a therapist, a teacher, even your parents.

[Extreme586]

Autism...what? And telling people sounds awful.

[ksdnfkfr]

What should I do?

Hang in there until college.
From what I hear life pretty
much starts new in college.

[oneDay]

Aww, what you said in the beginning really reminds me of myself. I graduated earlier this year and I had my first real crush on a straight friend when I was a senior. He was a freshman, 15 yrs. old, and was the most adorable boy in my school. We knew each other the whole year but we drifted apart after I finished school. It was a little heartbreaking but I knew we couldn't be together, for obvious reasons.
I think you should should come out to someone you can trust so you could get all this off your chest. I never came out to anybody in school and this is the first time I've shared this story. It can feel pretty lonely and hopeless when there is no one to share your thoughts and feelings with, but even if it doesn't determine the outcome, it can help you mature and move on. So if I were you I'd talk to a close relative, friend, or even the guy you love and share your experience with them. If you really trust them enough then don't be afraid to confide in them. Give yourself a chance and you'll see everything will be alright. :)

[Azalez070]

Well i've never had a girlfriend until a few years ago. You get to think that you'll never will but you just have to wait..

Just a simple question, have you tried with a girl?

[steellord321]

Well if you want to be miserable it's your choice. Open up about it or don't, your decision. But why is it awful? You act like it's the worst thing ever but unless you give them a chance to accept it that's just assumption on your part.

[From Chris]

I'm tired of being gay. I hate looking at the guy I love so much and have cared about for years and years with some girl in a picture having a good time. Maybe I'm being selfish and not looking at it in the right light. I want him to be happy, but I can't shake the pain in my head. Like I have literal head aches right now from even thinking about him.

I just want the pain to stop. The sad thing is he's not the only problem either. I am a loser at school and nobody wants me there. Honestly I'm just going through feelings right now that I can't even put into words. What should I do?

Hi there! As a fellow gay person, i understand the pain you are going through having to see your straight friend have a girlfriend and not being able to be with him. It's perfectly normal too! You shouldn't have to hate being gay because it's who you are! It took me a long time to realize that for myself and i live happier and better each day because i can myself. There are plenty of straight guys that i wish would just turn and want to date me, but the chances of that are so rare i don't like the think about it~ About the school part, it's just a horrid part of life unfortunately. I was bullied for being very feminine in school, and today i do online school because of it. I hope you can live it through and show those people that don't want you there that you are staying for good and if they don't want you there then they need to leave! I think you should just take a couple minutes, and relax, and know that being gay is not bad and certainly not a reason to hate yourself! You should embrace it, and if people don't agree with it then it's their fault unfortunately. In the society we live in where some people look down on homosexuals it's hard for us to be who we are and enjoy life to the fullest~ Don't let people like that drag you down and think positive! There are plenty of guys out there that you will come to love! :) Embrace it and be who you are and if being around that friend that pains you to think about then i think it's time to cut the feelings for him, even though that can be very hard or nearly impossible with people and move on. If not, then you might want to try telling him your feelings so he can understand what you're going through and hopefully help. :)

-From Chris