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LolWall
November 3rd, 2013, 02:51 PM
One of the most annoying things about my school life is the majority of my classmates.

Sure, I have a bunch of friends, but generally, the class loves to use me as sort of a punching bag. I'm not the "douchebag whom everyone just laughs at". I'm actually one of the nicer ones and somewhat silent. The quiet ones in my society are usually the ones whom people are nicest to (because they're innocent), but they're the ones who don't usually hang out with people. The louder people, on the other hand, are being joked around normally. However, in my case, I'm stuck in between quiet and loud that people don't really hang out with me much, but love to make fun of me because I also don't fit in the "quiet" category.

To elaborate further, I've done my classmates so many favors and I am still getting very little respect from them. I've helped them fix their lockers and tables and I'm still getting the same insults. I am flattered by the fact that people refer to me as the "jack of all trades" of the class, but it's annoying to carry such a title when they're only so nice to me when they need my help and then become total douchebags to me during regular times.

I am also known to be the guy who is slow to anger. I thought that would be a likeable trait, but in my case, it's very much abused. I think that is actually precisely why they feel okay treating me this way, because I won't give a violent reaction. They've abused my kindess and patience and I already don't want to waste it on them anymore. I'm really not one to display emotion, though.

At one point, I've even secretly sabotaged our class such as secretly ruining parts of the bulletin board during a bulletin board contest.

That's the thing about me - I am most comfortable around people my age, and yet they're the hardest for me to make friends with. Majority of my friends are teachers and young kids. I still have, though, a great number of friends my age.

What do you think should I do, though?

Miserabilia
November 3rd, 2013, 02:57 PM
If you don't like what they do.. get angry with them and show them.

LolWall
November 3rd, 2013, 03:01 PM
If you don't like what they do.. get angry with them and show them.

I can't execute anger properly, because I never have. I know someone from my class who often displays anger in an awkward manner and isn't backed up by anyone else. Because of this, everyone tries to toy around with him just for laughs to make him angry. I don't want to experience the same stuff as him.

Miserabilia
November 3rd, 2013, 03:03 PM
I can't execute anger properly, because I never have. I know someone from my class who often displays anger in an awkward manner and isn't backed up by anyone else. Because of this, everyone tries to toy around with him just for laughs to make him angry. I don't want to experience the same stuff as him.

You shouldn't keep in your anger; it will come out at bad times, later. You should find some way to let it out

LolWall
November 3rd, 2013, 03:08 PM
You shouldn't keep in your anger; it will come out at bad times, later. You should find some way to let it out

Does venting on VT count? :confused:

Miserabilia
November 3rd, 2013, 03:13 PM
Does venting on VT count? :confused:

I don't think so because you're not directly taking it out on them. I mean, stuff like sabotaging their stuff could work, like you did, just subtle stuff that makes you feel like your having revenge? It's a bit cruel but it's always better then not doing anything and collapse later

deregisterme
November 3rd, 2013, 04:58 PM
Does venting on VT count? :confused:

This is a good forum to let your anger out, without embarrassing yourself in front of people that you see often. If there are people that are p155ing you off, then expecting your help when they need it, don't help them. Friends help each other in times of need, and don't make fun of you.

Mynick
November 3rd, 2013, 05:11 PM
You need to show them you are not OK with the way they threat you.
Sure vent helps but it won't change anything.