AmericanCossack
November 2nd, 2013, 07:20 PM
Here's the situation. Two of my very best friends- both female- where until a few days ago dating. I'll call them friend S and friend T for the sake of their anonymity. Friend S and friend T broke up. Now, they still consider themselves friends but they're both a bit depressed- S much more so, even though she was the one who broke it off. Now, the thing is, I've always had a crush on T. She knows it quite well, but neither of us would have done anything while she was with S- and beforehand, I think she was a bit hesitant and waiting for me to make the first move. T is going through some home troubles currently, to further complicate matters. I think the time to ask T on a date might be here... However, I don't want to do anything too early, or upset S more then she already is. Now, this relationship of theirs only lasted a month- almost to the day- but it was their second go in the past 2 years. The first breakup was very amiable, and I think mutual- in contrast to this one. Note also that S did this simply because of their disparate interests and schedules, not because of outside pressure. In fact, a host of people tried to keep her from going through with it, myself in their ranks...
Now, for the actual reasons behind this post. I'm definitely going to ask T out at some point, but... I'm not sure how long I should wait, or if I should ask in person... Asking in person has some difficulty, as the only time we are together is during school and someone out of our mutual group of friends always seem to be right there. Her familial difficulties and the distance between our houses mean that I can't visit and we can't go on an outing- for a few months, at least. However, asking via Skype would make me seem cowardly, and let's just say that phones aren't an option at all. Again, I don't want to hurt S any more then absolutely necessary, and I don't want to scare T by asking at an inopportune time. Thoughts?
Now, for the actual reasons behind this post. I'm definitely going to ask T out at some point, but... I'm not sure how long I should wait, or if I should ask in person... Asking in person has some difficulty, as the only time we are together is during school and someone out of our mutual group of friends always seem to be right there. Her familial difficulties and the distance between our houses mean that I can't visit and we can't go on an outing- for a few months, at least. However, asking via Skype would make me seem cowardly, and let's just say that phones aren't an option at all. Again, I don't want to hurt S any more then absolutely necessary, and I don't want to scare T by asking at an inopportune time. Thoughts?