Is it so bad of me?

[Sandra Main]

Is is so bad of me to love my brothers.
My friends and my mom tell me I'm spoiling them
just because i love to spend time with them
and love and enjoy takeing care of them.
When they were born mom taught me how to
care for them,like changing diapers, feeding them,
bathing them. I enjoyed taking care of them
and still love to play and bath them and
take them to the park to play. Now mom
says I'm spending to much time careing for them
that she will bath them and put them to bed at night.
She trying to push me into spending time with my
friends is what she's trying to do.But when I'm
away i just can't wait to get back home to see
them again. Am I wrong for feeling the way i feel?
Is mom right?
Am i so bad as a sister to feel this way?

[Sandra Main]

Mabe i could be wrong.

[Living For Love]

There's nothing wrong about it, you just love your brothers and want to take care of them as they were your own children. That's really sweet, you know? I would be really happy if I were their age and had an older sister like you. Of course, although you like them a lot, you also need to take care of yourslef, have your own friends, study, etc..., but I suggest you should never stop treating your brothers that way. Remember, they're going to grow up someday, and then you won't be able to take care of them as they were little children, so enjoy it while you can! They will be thankful in future, and your also helping your mum, so tell her she shouldn't worry about it so much. Good luck!

[deregisterme]

It's so sweet that you care for your younger siblings like that, you are no where near a bad person for thinking that - please don't believe that. Your mum is just trying to make sure that you enjoy your own childhood too. With your caring attitude, I'm sure you will some day make a loving mother too. Enjoy your childhood, but never stop loving your brothers :-)

[Mynick]

There's nothing wrong about it, you just love your brothers and want to take care of them as they were your own children. That's really sweet, you know? I would be really happy if I were their age and had an older sister like you. Of course, although you like them a lot, you also need to take care of yourslef, have your own friends, study, etc..., but I suggest you should never stop treating your brothers that way. Remember, they're going to grow up someday, and then you won't be able to take care of them as they were little children, so enjoy it while you can! They will be thankful in future, and your also helping your mum, so tell her she shouldn't worry about it so much. Good luck!
100% this, plus your mom should be really proud, for instance you could envy them since they are getting all the attention.

[Sandra Main]

100% this, plus your mom should be really proud, for instance you could envy them since they are getting all the attention.

I desire no attention for they deserve all the family can give.
Therefor there in no envy

[Mynick]

I desire no attention for they deserve all the family can give.
Therefor there in no envy
And that's great :)

[Katiya]

That's really sweet. Your brothers are luckey to have such a nice sis. That's A LOT better than I could everdo.

[Abyssal Echo]

There's nothing wrong about it, you just love your brothers and want to take care of them as they were your own children. That's really sweet, you know? I would be really happy if I were their age and had an older sister like you. Of course, although you like them a lot, you also need to take care of yourslef, have your own friends, study, etc..., but I suggest you should never stop treating your brothers that way. Remember, they're going to grow up someday, and then you won't be able to take care of them as they were little children, so enjoy it while you can! They will be thankful in future, and your also helping your mum, so tell her she shouldn't worry about it so much. Good luck!

I have to agree with Ryanair theres nothing wrong with what you are doing. I wish I had a big sis like you.

[Sandra Main]

That's really sweet. Your brothers are luckey to have such a nice sis. That's A LOT better than I could everdo.

Thank only if i can get my mom to understand.
She tells me I'm being tied down to much with them.
I don't feel that way.

[Loner_97]

Well it's just AMAZING that you love them so much. Really is. But life is all about separations. There is a time when you have to part ways right?
This the time you have to make friends and enjoy and have memories. That is your mom's point of view.
But I say follow your heart. If you want to have memories of you and your brothers... then be with them. Just make sure you don't regret it later that you didn't spend enough time doing other things.

[Sandra Main]

You have opened my eyes and now i can see what everybody is
saying. But a big part of me is torn when i leave them.
Mom says they aren't themselfs when i leave..
I guess i may have wraped my life around them to much.
You and all that posted and gave me advice shed some
light.And for that i thank ya all.This is why i love VT

[Sandra Main]

Well it's just AMAZING that you love them so much. Really is. But life is all about separations. There is a time when you have to part ways right?
This the time you have to make friends and enjoy and have memories. That is your mom's point of view.
But I say follow your heart. If you want to have memories of you and your brothers... then be with them. Just make sure you don't regret it later that you didn't spend enough time doing other things.

Thank you for your help

[Miserabilia]

that's just brotherly/sisterly love and it's a great thing

[Sandra Main]

that's just brotherly/sisterly love and it's a great thing

Yes my brothers and I have always been close.
My family is very tight knit and alot of love.
I'm proud but we do have our battles as all family's do I'm sure.

[Blood]

Is is so bad of me to love my brothers.
My friends and my mom tell me I'm spoiling them
just because i love to spend time with them
and love and enjoy takeing care of them.
When they were born mom taught me how to
care for them,like changing diapers, feeding them,
bathing them. I enjoyed taking care of them
and still love to play and bath them and
take them to the park to play. Now mom
says I'm spending to much time careing for them
that she will bath them and put them to bed at night.
She trying to push me into spending time with my
friends is what she's trying to do.But when I'm
away i just can't wait to get back home to see
them again. Am I wrong for feeling the way i feel?
Is mom right?
Am i so bad as a sister to feel this way?



I'm the exact same way with me brothers. I've been caring for them since they were infants; the two youngest ones called me mommy for about a year. They were (and still are, in some aspects) my life. I can completely relate to what you're going through, and no, it's not wrong to feel this way. You just love your brothers in a very strong way.

However, you need to realize that you're still a teen, and you're supposed to be focusing on your life, too. It's not bad to love them and care for them, but you DO need to give yourself a break and get away to hang out with your friends and do things that you like. Get a hobby that doesn't involve your brothers and dedicate at least one day out of the week to this hobby.

[Azalez070]

Wow i wish i had a sister like you, i've never had a sister, until a few weeks ago that i found out, but she's younger. Any way, is great that you love your brothers that way, but yeah, you also need to spend time with your friends...

[Luminous]

No, I think it is so wonderful that you care about your brothers that way. Maybe your mom is jealous!!

[kylem1229]

They're your brothers, its great that you're doing that much. Some sister/brothers absolutely hate eachother.

[Sandra Main]

I'm the exact same way with me brothers. I've been caring for them since they were infants; the two youngest ones called me mommy for about a year. They were (and still are, in some aspects) my life. I can completely relate to what you're going through, and no, it's not wrong to feel this way. You just love your brothers in a very strong way.

However, you need to realize that you're still a teen, and you're supposed to be focusing on your life, too. It's not bad to love them and care for them, but you DO need to give yourself a break and get away to hang out with your friends and do things that you like. Get a hobby that doesn't involve your brothers and dedicate at least one day out of the week to this hobby.

You have very good advice.
I'm glad I'm not alone feeling this way.
I took your advice and went with friends tonight.
I was very hard and tore me apart for awhile but got to thinking you are right
They never called me mom only sissy.
But any way thanks for advice .It helped me.

[Blood]

You have very good advice.
I'm glad I'm not alone feeling this way.
I took your advice and went with friends tonight.
I was very hard and tore me apart for awhile but got to thinking you are right
They never called me mom only sissy.
But any way thanks for advice .It helped me.

No problem at all. I'm glad it helped you. :)

[Wyatt 13]

I want a sister like you.

[kitten13]

i love my brother to. we talk about every thing and i mean every thing. but you still need your friends to.

kim

[Sandra Main]

I have taken everybody's advice and spending time out with friends more than i use to.
It was hard at first and tore me apart inside.
But it got a little easier each time i went out untill
My oldest brother asked me last night why i never play with them anymore .
I went to my room and cried.After about a hour i tried to explain it to him
that sissy still loved them both and that i had friends
to spend time with. My greatest fear that they will feel that i abandoned them and make themfeel unloved.

[Sandra Main]

Does anybody know does it get any easier?
If it does get easier please tell me how to make it easy on them?

[Living For Love]

I think you're worrying too much about this. If taking care of your little brothers, and being with them, and playing with them, and acting like a mother to them makes you happy, so just do it. I think you can conciliate both things, having friends and hanging out with them and taking care of your little brothers also.

[Fanta_Lover44]

Its not wrong, if my brothers were nice I would of done that and its nice to know that someone cares for them. You're mum is only concerned due the fact you're in your teens and need to focus on your school friends and life. Its perfectly fine too go do something else instead of give the attention. Don't feel bad about it. Just try and get out a bit more.

[Body odah Man]

Is is so bad of me to love my brothers.
My friends and my mom tell me I'm spoiling them
just because i love to spend time with them
and love and enjoy takeing care of them.
When they were born mom taught me how to
care for them,like changing diapers, feeding them,
bathing them. I enjoyed taking care of them
and still love to play and bath them and
take them to the park to play. Now mom
says I'm spending to much time careing for them
that she will bath them and put them to bed at night.
She trying to push me into spending time with my
friends is what she's trying to do.But when I'm
away i just can't wait to get back home to see
them again. Am I wrong for feeling the way i feel?
Is mom right?
Am i so bad as a sister to feel this way?

Wow-this post made me cry. I really feel sorry for you and, at the same time, proud of ya. You sound like an awesome older sister and ur brothers must be really lucky to have you. Only thing I can blame you about is that you make them bathe so much (sucks for guys that) but I don't think it's a sin to love your brothers-there's a bunch of people that torture their siblings for crying out loud! You're fine the way you are and don't let ur mom make you think differently. Ur not a bad sister and it's not wrong

[tedheath]

You sound like the best sister ever

[Sandra Main]

You sound like the best sister ever

Thanks i always try to do my best when
it comes to my baby brothers.

[gliderman]

Your brothers must be very lucky to have a sister like that!! It is great, and hopefully something they will remember 'till their death!

[Sandra Main]

Thanks everyone for you help and your kindness .
It has helped in my time of need and when i was feeling low.

[chieko]

You're a very wonderful and great sister. Your brothers must be really lucky, happy and proud to be your sister. It's really adorable that you are so loving and caring for your siblings, you deserve to cared in the same way. Your mom might just be worrying about your social life that's why she says that but you're not bad. It's more than okay to love and care for your brothers as long as there is no bad effects of it in your life.