RawkNinja95
November 1st, 2013, 11:54 AM
Hi guys first time posting in these forums!
But I am seeing a guy whom I've been friends with for over a year now He's a very nice, smart, funny, caring and independent guy who's a bit socially awkward, but he's quite shy (so am I!).
My problem is that I think I've scared him off by coming on too strong
We've been seeing each other for over a month now, we went out on a date a few weeks ago, we had a great time and I asked if he wanted to do it again, he agreed.
Before any of this, we were talking a lot online throughout the summer, bonding on Xbox online together etc. Once we returned to college, I noticed hints that he liked me, he stared when I wasn't looking, looks deep into my eyes, or sometimes avoided contact, would show off in front of friends, make me laugh, be all smiley etc. Online, I decided to ask him if he was attracted to me, he said that he found me "perfectly attractive" with a "lovely personality". To which I then told him that I've had feelings for him for about half a year. We agreed to take it slow with one another for a potential relationship in the future. He's stopped / avoided talking to me online altogether (have no idea why, perhaps it was because he expressed how we rely on internet talk more?)
Everything is rolling great at college, he greets me, we chat, we laugh I've checked twice with him if he's still ok with this, he said that it's fine; "going with the flow" and "coping".
But before half term, our college break, I decided to say bye to him privately by getting off at the same station as him. We hugged goodbye, he squeezed me tight a little, I expressed that I won't see him for nearly 2 weeks. He said that we could probably meet up during break anyway. This surprised me since I've always asked to meet up, but I was happy anyway.
I left him alone for a few days, I messaged him asking when he wants to meet up. He 'saw' the message, didn't respond for about 20 mins. I asked nicely if he could reply soon, to which he did reply with a "If you insist xD" (he's got a playful approach to things). So I was surprised and said that I thought he would never message back, so we joked about it. I asked again if he could give a day that we could go, he then replied saying that he was "thinking". This confused me. I went a bit mad and sorta bombarded him with messages. Initially, I thought to myself, what if he's doing this intentionally? So I nicely asked if he would like to just date already (contradictory to what I said about taking it slow, I know! >.<) He saw the message, never responded. This all happened Tuesday night. I sent him a last message yesterday saying that I am gonna step back.
I'm now a bit worried that I've frightened him so much! He's interested in me but I just don't understand how he feels about this. We return to college on Monday, I was thinking about apologising to him since it was a rash decision.
Any advice? (Sorry for the long explanation!)
But I am seeing a guy whom I've been friends with for over a year now He's a very nice, smart, funny, caring and independent guy who's a bit socially awkward, but he's quite shy (so am I!).
My problem is that I think I've scared him off by coming on too strong
We've been seeing each other for over a month now, we went out on a date a few weeks ago, we had a great time and I asked if he wanted to do it again, he agreed.
Before any of this, we were talking a lot online throughout the summer, bonding on Xbox online together etc. Once we returned to college, I noticed hints that he liked me, he stared when I wasn't looking, looks deep into my eyes, or sometimes avoided contact, would show off in front of friends, make me laugh, be all smiley etc. Online, I decided to ask him if he was attracted to me, he said that he found me "perfectly attractive" with a "lovely personality". To which I then told him that I've had feelings for him for about half a year. We agreed to take it slow with one another for a potential relationship in the future. He's stopped / avoided talking to me online altogether (have no idea why, perhaps it was because he expressed how we rely on internet talk more?)
Everything is rolling great at college, he greets me, we chat, we laugh I've checked twice with him if he's still ok with this, he said that it's fine; "going with the flow" and "coping".
But before half term, our college break, I decided to say bye to him privately by getting off at the same station as him. We hugged goodbye, he squeezed me tight a little, I expressed that I won't see him for nearly 2 weeks. He said that we could probably meet up during break anyway. This surprised me since I've always asked to meet up, but I was happy anyway.
I left him alone for a few days, I messaged him asking when he wants to meet up. He 'saw' the message, didn't respond for about 20 mins. I asked nicely if he could reply soon, to which he did reply with a "If you insist xD" (he's got a playful approach to things). So I was surprised and said that I thought he would never message back, so we joked about it. I asked again if he could give a day that we could go, he then replied saying that he was "thinking". This confused me. I went a bit mad and sorta bombarded him with messages. Initially, I thought to myself, what if he's doing this intentionally? So I nicely asked if he would like to just date already (contradictory to what I said about taking it slow, I know! >.<) He saw the message, never responded. This all happened Tuesday night. I sent him a last message yesterday saying that I am gonna step back.
I'm now a bit worried that I've frightened him so much! He's interested in me but I just don't understand how he feels about this. We return to college on Monday, I was thinking about apologising to him since it was a rash decision.
Any advice? (Sorry for the long explanation!)