Girlfriend Confusion

[ashdyn]

I'd just like to start off by saying it's great to be back on here...it's been way too long.

I'm 17 now and I've done a lot of growing up. I've had too many pointless relationships and hook ups than I care to remember. Finally, I think I found a girl I can see myself with for a while. We've been dating for a couple of months now and she's great. Sex isn't the primary motivator for once (:eek: I am growing up). We've done some stuff though and we match each other perfectly, I love that she's so honest and open when it comes to the physical stuff we do.

Anyway, this past weekend she was giving me a bj after a quick swim when she surprised me and started exploring a little lower...then lower until she got to the back door. I'm not scared of it (I've had my fare share of exploring with guy friends when I was younger) but it just caught me off guard. We can't do stories on here so I'll skip to the end...a finger and tongue were involved and it was great. The problem is I haven't really done anything anal since I was younger and it seemed to bring back some memories. I'm not like turning gay or anything but it kinda brought back some of the urges I had when I was younger. She's brought it up a few times and wants to try more now.

I felt really vulnerable on my back with my legs spread out like that...and I feel even more vulnerable now that she wants to do more.
Is this a slippery slope? Should I tell her about my experiences when I was younger? Should I let her explore more? Should I tell her about my confused feelings?

Sorry it was so long...but I think hearing other opinions and points of view would help. I don't really have anyone to talk about this too that wouldn't completely freak out :(

[kylem1229]

I'd say just let her. If you really think its uncomfortable, you can tell her. But you and her, it sounds like are going good, everythings working out. I have a feeling marriage may be involved if it keeps going well. But I really dont see an issue, but I dont have any past urges or experience like you've had, so I really cant say what to do.

[ashdyn]

I'm way too young for marriage to be in the picture lol but yeah we're doing really good.

I just don't want her thinking I'm going to go gay on her if she finds out I like it that much. It feels so amazing I wouldn't mind her doing it a lot but I don't want to take it too far. Like is there a line that I could cross that I won't be able to come back from?

[sqishy]

I'm way too young for marriage to be in the picture lol but yeah we're doing really good.

I just don't want her thinking I'm going to go gay on her if she finds out I like it that much. It feels so amazing I wouldn't mind her doing it a lot but I don't want to take it too far. Like is there a line that I could cross that I won't be able to come back from?

Say you are straight and curious and see where things go from there. If it's uncomfortable tell her. If anything it'll make you trust each other more.