School counselor?

[Hallie]

I was thinking about going to talk to my school counselor about my self harm, but he really seems to like me and I feel like that will change. I am very ashamed about my self harming.
The bigger issue here is the fact that as a school counselor, he might be obligated to tell my parents and/or anyone else, and that CAN'T happen--not now. You have to understand that it would only make things worse. I have a therapist and I really want to tell her but I can't because after my mom found out about it (she doesn't know I still do it) she made me tell my therapist and my therapist made a safety contract with me stating that if I ever cut myself again, I would be obligated to tell my mom, which I can't do. She CAN'T find out, she just CAN'T!!! I can already see the hurt disappointment in her eyes.
Anyway, I know that if I'm suicidal that the school counselors are obligated to tell my parents, but I'm not sure about self harm. Does anyone know? And any advice on who I should tell or what I should do would be greatly appreciated.

[EpicTaco]

I was thinking about going to talk to my school counselor about my self harm, but he really seems to like me and I feel like that will change. I am very ashamed about my self harming.
The bigger issue here is the fact that as a school counselor, he might be obligated to tell my parents and/or anyone else, and that CAN'T happen--not now. You have to understand that it would only make things worse. I have a therapist and I really want to tell her but I can't because after my mom found out about it (she doesn't know I still do it) she made me tell my therapist and my therapist made a safety contract with me stating that if I ever cut myself again, I would be obligated to tell my mom, which I can't do. She CAN'T find out, she just CAN'T!!! I can already see the hurt disappointment in her eyes.
Anyway, I know that if I'm suicidal that the school counselors are obligated to tell my parents, but I'm not sure about self harm. Does anyone know? And any advice on who I should tell or what I should do would be greatly appreciated.

First let me say that the therapist incident is why I don't trust therapists. Second, if the school counselor really does take a liking to you, then you should talk to him/her about your feelings before you bring up your SH. If you are looking for a 'therapist' with personal experience, you can add me on Skype and we can talk it out :)

[skittles_was_here]

school counselors are obligated to tell your parents if they hear about suicide or self harm. i don't think he will hate you if you told him, but he would have to tell your parents

[ksdnfkfr]

My school counselor made it clear that what
we talked about stayed in that room. I do not
know how it works in all schools but usually unless
your life or someone elses life is in imminent danger
the counselor maintains confidentiality. You could just
ask straight out about that before getting started.
If your counselor starts showing dislike towards you
for confiding in him about this then he is no good.
Even my therepist did not go into details to my parents
about what we talked about. They are not stupid they know
that if they rat you out it is over with and you will have nothing
to do with them. In school not being able to trust the counselor
would spread like wildfire no one would see him and he would
be out of a job.

Do not come up with reasons/excuses to not get help.
There is a part of you that wants the self harm to continue
and is trying to talk you out of this. I am about 75 days free
of self harm because of my time with a school counselor and a therapist.

[Katiya]

Well. I know a lot of screwy counselors. So I've devised my plan when talking to anyone. They make a verbal recorded contract with me that they will absolutely not do these certain things nor have anyone else do them or disclose my info. If they don't agree to this I get up and leave. I will NEVER be sent to a mental unit again. I know the tricks they play now, (try and get me to refernce suicide and then stick me with a recording i didnt know about and send me to the unit based on lies and interigation. Well two can play that game.) the dumb asses never realize they only keep making me smarter the more they try to trick me and I refuse to speak with any now. Some are rotten apples.

I don'tthink you need to go this over the top. My situation is extream and i live in a very unfriendly area. but just have him promise not to tell before you speak with him. ;)

[1_21Guns]

You need to talk to them and see what the policy on talking to your parents is. The one I was taught and the most common one was if you are in immediate danger to yourself or others. The policy may change from place to place and a persons discretion on what immediate danger is might change also. Frankly just ask them, you don't have to tell them anything there and then and while you've only asked if they'd tell your parents they have nothing to tell them, it's just a question.

[ksdnfkfr]

I did not even have to tell mine anything.
After he made it clear that everything would
be kept in confidence he just started by asking
me questions. On about the fourth visit he said
something like "you've been inflicting injures on
yourself haven't you?" in a very clam way. He could
just tell from experience from counseling other students.