Does he actually love me?

[Nikki9]

All my boyfriend ever wants to talk about is sex. He just keeps bringing up that topic randomly all the time when that's not even what we were talking about.
I'm worried this means he doesn't actually love me :( He might just be after my looks or something... What do you think? Is this a bad sign?

[Octo22]

He's being a guy, you've got to give an example. Does he change interesting topics? Or is it just when it's dull and boring because most guys tend to do that :P

[Nikki9]

Yeah, he does make references to sex when there's a silence... in fact, that's when he most often does it. I think you're probably right. Since there were plenty of silences today, he said these types of things a lot.

And otherwise, it's stuff like this really:

Him: I used to suck my thumb when I was a little kid.
Me: Aww really? Yeah, so did I. =3
Him: Forget the thumb. Suck on my penis instead!

Me: Pizza should be ready in 9 minutes.
Him: I guess I'll have one or two slices.
Me: Good, I'm not eating it all myself.
Him: Hey Nicole? Can I ask you something? (Sudden change of subject)
Me: Yeah?
Him: Which of your fantasies do you wanna do first, later? =P
Me: Surprise me.
Him: Alright, let me tell you this: I'm saving the best til last =P *hugs* You're not still angry now are you? (I was angry earlier)

Me: I'm so hungry, Danny. But it's not lunch time yet :(
Him: Eat something then. Hey! I know what you can have before lunch!
Me: What?
Him: Milkshake!! Remember, Nicole: I will force you hard when I rape you =P (By 'milkshake' he was referring to cum)

That's normal for a guy to keep saying things like that all the time? I'm sure he really loves me, but I was just finding this weird. Thinking about it, he's always on the verge of tears when I'm angry with him... it breaks his heart, I can tell :(

Maybe it's something to do with the fact this is his first relationship :\ I guess I'm just being paranoid about losing him... I love him more than anything in the world.

[goin to work]

yess alll guys rly think about is sex trust me i piss my gf off all the time

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Yes, it's totally normal, my boyfriend's like that too. If it really bothers you, try telling him? I told my guy that it was really starting to annoy me when all he seemed to say was "I'm horny", and now he tries to think if it's appropriate to the situation before he says it. He still says "I'm horny" a lot when I'm not really in the mood to hear it, but it's not as often.

[Gumleaf]

i think they say that guys think about sex once every 10 seconds on average, or something like that. i can say that this is normal.

[thesphinx]

Well if you don't want to have sex there shouldn't be any pressure from him, make it clear what you want.

[Antares]

Wow. To be quite honest I do not like guys like him him because I dont think that that is the kind of person that someone should be with. But that is now what I am recommending to you. People like your bf are stereotypical guy! Very sex driven. All they think about is sex. That is part of a males puberty too but I think he just needs to release. So he probably loves you. Its for you to decide. Do I want to be with him or do I know he loves me he just thinks about sex alot! :-P! Good luck.

[ScotsGirl]

Have you talked to him about how you feel Nikki9?
It might be an idea, because there could be a number of reasons why he talks the way he does. But the only person who knows for sure is him.
As the others have said though, it can just be that he has a high sex drive/sex on his mind a lot.
I hope everything is alright! :)

xxx

Ps. Its not just guys who are like that... :P LOL!

[Nikki9]

Thanks everyone :) I'm glad I got that off my chest.
Yeah, he's just being a guy I guess. I know he really loves me and we are a perfect match. He's really sweet to me :wub:

[Gumleaf]

Thanks everyone :) I'm glad I got that off my chest.
Yeah, he's just being a guy I guess. I know he really loves me and we are a perfect match. He's really sweet to me :wub:


thats great to hear nikki, if he really cares about you he won't push you into any sexual situation anyways.

[jay92]

umm i wouldnt say thats completely normal.
but guys ask about sex in random situations, thats just cos we are curious to know when we are going to get laid.

have u done nefin with him? cos if you have thats probably why he is saying it allot.

but a guy wouldnt dump you after you have sex, cos once you have sex you want more, and unless your some kind of pimp there is really no other way (im not saying these are his reasons (or mine)) but yer if thats what your worried about i wouldnt be

[byee]

Wait a second! It is NOT 'normal' for guys to be lewd! Thinking about sex, wanting sex, is A LOT different than constantly talking about it, especially in a rather crude, lewd, demeaning kind of way! Private thoughts are waaaay different than public statements! Where'd you all get the idea that it's 'OK' for guys to be out of control with their sexual urges?!

Your guy needs to do something more appropriate (And private!) with his urges. They seem a tad out of control.

[Evie14]

I think It might be normal, but then again you should ask him why he keeps bringing it up.

[BornActor]

IDK i hardly ever talk about sex. Maybe if I'm kidding but I dont think it's right to suggest that you have sex. It'll happen when it happens. Besides, I don't plan on losing my virginity til I am married. There is just too much at risk. But I am kind of a "girly" guy.

ALSO I WOULD NEVER USE SUGGEST RAPE TO MY GIRLFRIEND UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.