My Mom's Problem..

[Melodic]

My mom has been drinking, smoking, and using drugs (mostly weed) for about a year now. When she started a year ago, she had a hard time with my dad's abuse (another story), all her friends and family neglecting her, and she had somewhat of a boyfriend who brought weed over all the time. She always spends her money first on cigarettes and used her spare money on Alcohol. She literally neglected me til around April of this year. This was because she had nothing apparently, and I caught her with a pill bottle and I had a family friend take her to the hospital. Then her boyfriend had nothing to do with her, and she had to move, we ended up literally homeless a couple times, I had to go out of state for a second time that summer, while she was suicidal and not working. Then the last month has been her birthday month and every weekend, she comes home either drunk, throwing up, or tipsy. And then last night was when she saw the guy again at her party. So she spent all the money on beer and cigarettes even though we had no food in the house. It came to the point where she was spending MY money to get us food. And it's starting to go back to us fighting all the time and her neglecting me not even caring if I exist anymore. And I obviously can't go to my dad's because he's abusive and It'd be like I'd dropped off the earth after that. What do I do?


Edit: So ended up talking to her anyways, and we had a misunderstanding of everything. But if anything continues I'll update

[Lofiel]

Is there anyone outside of your family you can ask for help?

[Anton]

I'd say if it really comes down to it, try to move in with a friend for a while.

[Moth]

While I agree with the previous post, I cannot say the same for whether it's top on your list on how to deal with the situation, getting away is good but doesn't solve the issue.
Luckily you're at an advantage... You're her daughter. If she will listen to anyone it will be her child. I would recommend really talking to her, and try to get under her skin and get her to re-evaluate herself... Let her know how damaging she is being to both your lives.
I suppose what you say exactly will be up to you, but try to link to examples of those times she has drank and smoked all the money and you have not been able to eat? She really needs an eye opening.
If you can't bring yourself to saying it to her face, you could try writing her a letter and letting out your whole opinion and everything you have to say in one go without her interrupting you? (avoids erupting a huge argument too - which gets both of you nowhere but upset)
I know how difficult it is, I've been in a similar situation for quite a long time in my life until I did the same thing and that family member is well into his recovery.
I wish you luck, sweet. :D

[othees]

Prepare a plan for the future if it doesn't work out