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XNonsensicalX
October 27th, 2013, 04:44 AM
I lost a close friend in a car accident 7 years ago. She was a passenger in the car. She was a large inspiration to myself and a lot of other people and the loss was a tremendous hit on the whole community.
Though it has been so long and I have done so much since then, I can't get over the event.
I get scared at the prospect of driving, even at age 18. I am being pressured by a lot of people to get my permit, but I know that will lead to them trying to get me to drive and I just can't even think about driving without thinking of her and the immense loss that driving can bring. I'm totally fine being a passenger in the car, and I'm not nearly as devastated at the idea of dying in a crash as I would be with killing someone else in a crash. I can't handle guilt, or the idea of causing the same amount of anguish that was felt for my friend by family and community members.
I get snappy and easily bothered whenever someone tries to get me to learn how to drive, and I know its ridiculous to worry to this extent, but I can't shake the awful feeling that I get.

turtlescantwrite
October 27th, 2013, 01:57 PM
This was a very strong thing you did, to talk about this. Its amazing how the things we create hurt more than they help. Stay strong, and get your license when you want. cars are only a way of transportation, not oxygen.