I kissed my best friend and now he's avoiding me! Help?

[Readerkid]

So I have a bit of a predicament.
My best friend is Andrew. (He's a guy, I'm a girl). We've known each other since Kindergarten, and we are really close. He's also a really sweet and genuinely good person. We share lots of the same interests, and we're both very introverted it's a great friendship.

Within the past couple months or so, however, I began to realize that I have a crush on him. Not just a little crush, either. It's more like a I'd marry-you-if-we-were-older type crush. For a while, I just kept it to myself.

Last Wednesday evening, Andrew and I were shooting hoops at a school by where we live. When we were done, we sat down on a bench and talked for a while about a school project. I don't know what came over me to do it, but right in the middle of our conversation, I just leaned in and kissed him on the lips.

He pulled away quickly and then we just stared at each other for the longest time. Then he just said "I can't do this" and got up and ran off.

Andrew has been avoiding me as much as possible at school, and we haven't talked since then. I feel terrible, and I really have no idea what's going on with him. I'm not sure whether he doesn't feel the same way about me, or what. I'm really not sure what to do...now I don't have a best friend or a boyfriend!

How can I fix this? Any advice would be appreciated.

[TheStyleGuy]

honestly theres no real way to fix the situation to go back as it was before, but theres a chance to try to talk to him and see how he feels and you two can talk abotu what you want to happen. He may try to avoid you now btu he cant avoid you forever and if your really as close as you said soon or later he will want to talk to.

[kylem1229]

Just walk up and talk to him, explain what happend, why it happend, and the current situation. He might have not been that "in" to you, or wasnt ready for that step.

[Waleedbt]

Yeah talk to him, its pretty hard for him, i mean you know him since KG, so most likely he thinks of you as a sister....maybe?

[Living For Love]

Have it ever occured to you that he might not be 100% straight? Generally, long male-female friendships tend to evolve, eventually, into real relationships. I know many cases in which that happened. It's either that or he's just not ready to start a relationship with you. He might think that his parents wouldn't approve for some reason, or he wouldn't have time to really commit to the relationship, or he wouldn't be the type of boyfriend he thought you would deserve, or he just doesn't like you the same way, or he might even be interested in someone else.

It can be lots of things, so it's better if you just approach him privately and ask him to tell you what's going on. First of all, apologize, say that you didn't know what came over you to do it, and then ask him to be completely honest you. You two know eachother since Kindergarten, you really should trust eachother a lot, so it shouldn't be that difficult.

[Amazerful]

Just walk up and talk to him, explain what happend, why it happend, and the current situation. He might have not been that "in" to you, or wasnt ready for that step.

I agree with this

[Melodic]

Honestly it seems like he doesn't want to ruin things or add pressure to it. I'd suggest talking to him like the rest of them. Also, just let things happen. Don't rush it or it will get weird real fast.

[Readerkid]

Thanks everybody for your responses. I think I know what I'm going to do. I'm gonna text him, it'll probably be easier. I'll apoligize for just kissing him out of the blue like that, and kind of just say "Why are you avoiding me?" I'll tell him I do have a crush on him, but if he doesn't feel the same way I understand and we can just go back to being best friends. I'll see if he decides to respond. How does that sound?

honestly theres no real way to fix the situation to go back as it was before, but theres a chance to try to talk to him and see how he feels and you two can talk abotu what you want to happen. He may try to avoid you now btu he cant avoid you forever and if your really as close as you said soon or later he will want to talk to.

Just walk up and talk to him, explain what happend, why it happend, and the current situation. He might have not been that "in" to you, or wasnt ready for that step.

Yeah talk to him, its pretty hard for him, i mean you know him since KG, so most likely he thinks of you as a sister....maybe?

Have it ever occured to you that he might not be 100% straight? Generally, long male-female friendships tend to evolve, eventually, into real relationships. I know many cases in which that happened. It's either that or he's just not ready to start a relationship with you. He might think that his parents wouldn't approve for some reason, or he wouldn't have time to really commit to the relationship, or he wouldn't be the type of boyfriend he thought you would deserve, or he just doesn't like you the same way, or he might even be interested in someone else.

It can be lots of things, so it's better if you just approach him privately and ask him to tell you what's going on. First of all, apologize, say that you didn't know what came over you to do it, and then ask him to be completely honest you. You two know eachother since Kindergarten, you really should trust eachother a lot, so it shouldn't be that difficult.

He's certainly straight. He has an uncle who is gay and he's always complaining about him kissing his boyfriends in public and its disgusting, etc.

I agree with this

Honestly it seems like he doesn't want to ruin things or add pressure to it. I'd suggest talking to him like the rest of them. Also, just let things happen. Don't rush it or it will get weird real fast.

Okay, will do.

[Luminous]

I think you should talk to him and just tell him you're sorry that you did that, and you want him to forgive you because you miss his friendship, and you understand he doesn't want a relationship with you.
He could be 100% not attracted to you. He could be gay. He could have a crush on another girl. He could be aromantic. He could have not been ready for a relationship. He could think it would ruin your friendship if you break up. There are so many things that could be going through his head, and you need to understand that, and let him know you understand that.

[Waleedbt]

Yeah , text him that.
I mean its not like you guys are not close enough to text and still make things up with each other :)

[tundravortex]

So I have a bit of a predicament.
My best friend is Andrew. (He's a guy, I'm a girl). We've known each other since Kindergarten, and we are really close. He's also a really sweet and genuinely good person. We share lots of the same interests, and we're both very introverted it's a great friendship.

Within the past couple months or so, however, I began to realize that I have a crush on him. Not just a little crush, either. It's more like a I'd marry-you-if-we-were-older type crush. For a while, I just kept it to myself.

Last Wednesday evening, Andrew and I were shooting hoops at a school by where we live. When we were done, we sat down on a bench and talked for a while about a school project. I don't know what came over me to do it, but right in the middle of our conversation, I just leaned in and kissed him on the lips.

He pulled away quickly and then we just stared at each other for the longest time. Then he just said "I can't do this" and got up and ran off.

Andrew has been avoiding me as much as possible at school, and we haven't talked since then. I feel terrible, and I really have no idea what's going on with him. I'm not sure whether he doesn't feel the same way about me, or what. I'm really not sure what to do...now I don't have a best friend or a boyfriend!

How can I fix this? Any advice would be appreciated.

i think u kinda took that a little to far there,you can try to talk to him but its not going fix it fully,might not at all but it dosnt hurt to try,he could be gay,he could be not attracked to you but only as friends and nothing else.....anything possible

[Synyster Shadows]

This guy sounds just like me (and whaddaya know - we have the same name) I agree with the others - talk to him. He might not have been ready, or any number of things. The only way to know is to ask. But don't pressure him too much. Back off if you see that he gets uncomfortable and give him time.

[highschool]

if he's your best friend then he'll end talk to you. I think he just needs some space and talking to him right now is too soon.

[Readerkid]

Okay so here's what happened.

Andrew told me that he had a crush on me, too. However, he's worried that if we get in a relationship, and odds are we'll eventually break up, we won't be able to go back to being best friends. I think he has a point, but honestly, not to sound clingy, but I really want him to be my boyfriend. What do you guys think, would it be worth the risk to get jnto this relationship?

[Living For Love]

Okay so here's what happened.

Andrew told me that he had a crush on me, too. However, he's worried that if we get in a relationship, and odds are we'll eventually break up, we won't be able to go back to being best friends. I think he has a point, but honestly, not to sound clingy, but I really want him to be my boyfriend. What do you guys think, would it be worth the risk to get jnto this relationship?

If you two love eachother, I don't see why can't you be in a relationship with him. His worries are understandable, and perhaps he still feels a bit insecure about his feelings for you. Give him some time to clear his mind, it might be his first relationship and he really doesn't know how to deal with it.

[Cece14]

Try to talk to him

[Azmate]

Okay so here's what happened.

Andrew told me that he had a crush on me, too. However, he's worried that if we get in a relationship, and odds are we'll eventually break up, we won't be able to go back to being best friends. I think he has a point, but honestly, not to sound clingy, but I really want him to be my boyfriend. What do you guys think, would it be worth the risk to get jnto this relationship?

Something to consider is if the two of you aren't together but you know you both like each other then that could possibly also cause problems for the friendship. Best of luck to you both!

[ksdnfkfr]

Yes it is worth the risk.
You two can not pretend to be just friends with
the way you feel about each other so that will probably fail.
Just take it really really slow.