Shud I tell my prents?

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[Underground_Network]

I'd say talk to her before telling your parents. See if you can get her to tell you why she's doing this to herself and then just try to comfort her. Some people do it to escape while others strangely do it for pleasure. Find out why she's cutting herself and talk to her before you do anything else. If you really fear for her safety and can't through to her, you may want to tell your parents, though its really up to you. :/

[byee]

Tell her you're very upset about what she's doing, and tell her you want her to go with you to your parents and tell them. Be there to support her, but let her know that cutting is very dangerous and you care about her and want her to get some help so she can manage whatever is causing her to do this better and find other ways of expressing herself. if she refuses to go with you to your parents, go tell them yourself. This is very serious.

[NextToNormal]

first, i would talk to your sister and see whats going on, like why she feels the need to do this. then i would try and convince her to get help.
i understand how you feel...my sister found out about me by snooping through my stuff. she was going to go straight to my mom but came to me first. luckily, my mom already knew so there was nothing to tell.
i know you dont want her to hurt herself, so for now the next thing is to try and get her mind away from it and get her into something else before she seriously hurts herself. even though she already has done some damage, you want to try and stop her before the situation gets way out of hand.

[byee]

You know, a lot of very thoughtful advice. However, when it comes to cutting (or anything potentially life threatening) the ONLY choice is to tell your folks. There's just too much risk in not doing it, or even waiting. Sure, you can talk with her about how to tell them, but immediately after that, you have to tell them! You can't take the responsibility (or risk) of 'handling this' yourself.

Besides, FWIW, I really believe that people tell others about this stuff because they're frightened and they really don't know what to do, they want help but aren;t quite sure how to do it and need someone else. That's what's called a 'cry for help'. Heed the calll!

[Maverick]

Tell her you're very upset about what she's doing, and tell her you want her to go with you to your parents and tell them
I don't think you should say that you're upset with what she is doing. That is a very harsh way of putting it and I don't think that will make her feel any better but that you're there for her . It would make me feel worst if someone told me they were upset with what I'm doing and less likely to want to tell my parents.

You should try to convince her to tell the parents. You shouldn't go behind her back and immediately tell them. You don't want to break that trust because she might not trust you with info again. Lead her in the right direction but don't just tell her and blackmail her about it.

[chicken_fingers]

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[byee]

Thanks for the insight here, Anthony. You remind me that the words we use are crucial to the message we want to send, and the result we're trying to achieve. For many people, telling them you're 'upset' is synonymous with 'angry'. Being rather emotional myself, as well as fairly precise with my words, I use 'upset' to convey a sense of worry or concern. So, in the interest of precision, the word should be 'worry' or 'concern', not something ambigious like 'upset'. I appreciate the perspective!

Anyways, I think that if you're really worried about your sis (as you should be here), you should work quickly with her to tell your folks. If need be, i wouldn't go behind her back, I'd tell her that I was concerned enough that I was going to tell them myself. Remember, we're talking about something that could be self injurious, or worse.

[chicken_fingers]

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[byee]

Good for you! FWIW from a complete stranger here, i am proud of you, you did the right thing! No guilt, you hear?

Now, your sister will get the evaluation she needs by trained professionals and they'll determine what the best treatment is. And bravo for your parents for taking her. Obviously, they felt the situation was serious enough to warrant it. This confirms your choice to tell them!

Think about what you'll say when they/she returns. You'll need to be very supportive, don't be apologetic or guilty, talk about your concerns, and (hopefully) the relief you feel that she's OK and getting good treatment. Ask them if there's anything you can do to help.

Wow, good for you, I'm really impressed!

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[electric7rocker]

shell prolly also go to a mental ward, and probably stay there for at least one night. thats what happened to me....

[BlueStar]

That's good that you told them because now she'll get help she needs. It's better than them finding her unconcious or worse, dead.

[derekrocks]

Tell her you're very upset about what she's doing, and tell her you want her to go with you to your parents and tell them.:yes:

[Natoja12]

may i ask how old she is? and how old you may be?

[Axellance]

to be honest i think that telling your pearents is the last thing you should do, the last thing she needs right now is to have her brouther betray her trust. i think what she needs is someone to help her, witch is probably why she told you. What i think you should do is help her and moneter the situation (cuts) to make shure its not to out of controll,and tell only if they get so bad you are worried for her life.