chloe_louise
October 24th, 2013, 02:53 PM
When one of my closest friends died when I was in school, it was one of the hardest things to deal with. She died of what's called sudden death syndrome or in babies/toddlers cot death.
She just died.
That was the hardest fact to deal with.
There were no medical facts/evidence to say why she had died.
She died in 2010.
Three years later when I thought I was dealing with the death well, I have some what of a break down.
Living away at college I had no family member to talk to, no friends to talk to who knew her and being over 18 I was separated from the friends who had to stay in under 18 accommodation.
I felt alone, isolated, all I wanted was to have my friend back.
I spoke to my tutor who organised for me to talk to a counsellor.
At first I was apprehensive about going, but throughout the sessions, the counsellor helped me to come to terms with the grief.
She told me that there are different stages of grief:
1.Denial & isolation
2.Anger
3.Bargaining
4.Depression
5.Acceptance
Even though I felt that I had gone through the stages and had accepted her death, really I was just stuck in a loop constantly going back round through the stages.
At first I was embarrassed to admit that I was going to counselling, however it has turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life so far.
Just because I have accepted her death doesn't mean I have forgotten her. She will forever and always be in my heart and my mind.
There is no shame in going to counselling.
Crying doesn't make us weak, it makes us human.
Chloe xxx
She just died.
That was the hardest fact to deal with.
There were no medical facts/evidence to say why she had died.
She died in 2010.
Three years later when I thought I was dealing with the death well, I have some what of a break down.
Living away at college I had no family member to talk to, no friends to talk to who knew her and being over 18 I was separated from the friends who had to stay in under 18 accommodation.
I felt alone, isolated, all I wanted was to have my friend back.
I spoke to my tutor who organised for me to talk to a counsellor.
At first I was apprehensive about going, but throughout the sessions, the counsellor helped me to come to terms with the grief.
She told me that there are different stages of grief:
1.Denial & isolation
2.Anger
3.Bargaining
4.Depression
5.Acceptance
Even though I felt that I had gone through the stages and had accepted her death, really I was just stuck in a loop constantly going back round through the stages.
At first I was embarrassed to admit that I was going to counselling, however it has turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life so far.
Just because I have accepted her death doesn't mean I have forgotten her. She will forever and always be in my heart and my mind.
There is no shame in going to counselling.
Crying doesn't make us weak, it makes us human.
Chloe xxx