Miserable Dad

[Soulless]

Just wanted to hear your opinions on this, hopefully you people will have a better idea of options for coping than my dumb ass.


My Dad is always miserable, literally, always. Last time I got into trouble at school was 2 years ago, and that wasn't even trouble because I had red mist and beat a guy who was bullying me for a while.
Before that some other kid was bullying me, and my parents NEVER took my side until the last instance, and even had me carpool with the dick.
Basically one of the first things my Dad does when he gets home is come up and have a go at me for something, like not doing enough. I work nonstop when I'm at school and do volunteering at an old folks home every two weeks.
He never stops lecturing me about how shit I am, and has told me he'd prefer if I was another kid (one of the ones who bullied me). The dickhead never stops judging people. He looks down on people who watch East Enders or shit like that.

I have depression, I've been to the doctors, and he thinks I'm a pussy, I know he does I can tell. He never lets up even then. Miserable cunt.
Even if he has done good things for me, I'd trade them all back just to not hear him constantly putting me down or that moany fucking voice. The only thing he ever talks to me about is my school work and what I need to do from now on.
I get decent grades.
He has small man syndrome and he doesn't even realise it.
And my mum, every time I get depression, she says I act that way because I hate her, and that I lack empathy.

I LACK EMPATHY?
I FUCKING LACK EMPATHY?

COMING FROM THE ONE THAT SAID IT WAS LIKE HER FUCKING BABY HAD DIED WHEN I CAME OUT!?!?!?

[Miserabilia]

Damn, that's terrible. Don't you have anyone else to share your thoughts/feelings with?
Isn't there anyway you can get to the good side of your parents, etc.
/:
hope you can put up with them

[Abyssal Echo]

I agree with Cheesee thats terrible. I was in a similar situation but thankfully it ended before I turned 6 when my parents got divorced. I am wondering since you have depression if you have a School counselor, Psych or a mental health counselor, or maybe a good friend that you can talk to.

[Living For Love]

Why don't you tell him that? Tell him you always do everything to please him and he's still always putting you down. Do it so it has an impact on him. Make him realise that he has to change his atittude.

[1_21Guns]

That's awful, my dad worked in something of a similar fashion. Moaned about how screwed the world was while he sat on his ass and blamed everyone but himself for the fact his life was a crumbling wreck, but anyway. The only way I escaped it was by my parents splitting up which obviously isn't a particularly viable option for others. Like others have said if he'll listen to reason talk to him, tell him straight what he's doing and that it's wrong.

[Soulless]

I can't talk to him, if I try to reason he just raises his voice.

[Living For Love]

I can't talk to him, if I try to reason he just raises his voice.

Well, I guess you just need to live with it. Try talking with your mother, tell her you really need her help, and don't focus too much about it, he can eventually realise you don't give a damn to his opinion and change his attitude a bit.

[Katiya]

Sorry dude, that really sucks. Your not the only one, solo many family are like that. We just have to live with it unfortunately:(