My Guy "Bestfriend"

[Amazerful]

Well you should all know, I talk too much and I'm a very social person. So on the first day of school I talked to all the new kids and met a nice guy, lets call him 'Z'. He seemed to be a nice guy and we easily became friends, then best friends.

So about an hour ago one of our usual conversations somehow drifted towards sex, in this conversation he admitted:

• That he wants to have sex with me
• He has masturbated while thinking of me
• He has looked down my shirt on multiple occasions
• That he has had conversations with other guys about me

Now he keeps begging me to have sex with him while still trying to say he is my best friend, I dont even consider him a friend anymore, he basically just said he got close to me because he eventually wanted to have sex.

How do I handle this? I haven't responded, even though I talk so much I honestly don't.know what to say at this point

[Paladino]

Seems to me like the poor guy tried to escape the friend zone, and at a rapid speed! Just tell him you don't feel that way about him and you want to be friends and if he doesn't understand that tell him where to go ..

[Hollywood]

You have to be honest with him and tell him that his actions hurt/offended you. Otherwise he'll never get the message. You can't let there be any confusions or misconceptions.

Honestly, I do indeed think he was trying to take advantage of you, and it's kind of good that you discovered this sooner rather than later.

[Amazerful]

Seems to me like the poor guy tried to escape the friend zone, and at a rapid speed! Just tell him you don't feel that way about him and you want to be friends and if he doesn't understand that tell him where to go ..

I don't even want to be friends anymore

[Paladino]

Well you need to make him aware of this before it becomes a very uncomfortable situation for you.

[Amazerful]

You have to be honest with him and tell him that his actions hurt/offended you. Otherwise he'll never get the message. You can't let there be any confusions or misconceptions.

Honestly, I do indeed think he was trying to take advantage of you, and it's kind of good that you discovered this sooner rather than later.

I'm so mad right now, I think I should calm down before I respond, Im fighting the urge to respond with "go away you dirty bitch"

This is the first time anything like this has ever happened to me

[Hollywood]

I'm so mad right now, I think I should calm down before I respond, Im fighting the urge to respond with "go away you dirty bitch"

This is the first time anything like this has ever happened to me

Maybe, but you have every right to be angry. That guy's an idiot if he thought you discovering something like this WOULDN'T make you mad. Do what you feel is best, but either way you need to tell him how you really feel about all of this.

[Living For Love]

If he just got close to you so that he could have sex with you, treating you like you were his personal sex toy, then I don't think he deserves your friendship. Tell him to apologize and to back off for a while.
There it is one of the disadvantages of being a social person: you can either attract nice people and also selfish scumbags. You need to be careful when choosing your new friends next time.

[sqishy]

I'm so mad right now, I think I should calm down before I respond, Im fighting the urge to respond with "go away you dirty bitch"

This is the first time anything like this has ever happened to me

Say that it is he has gone too far and that the your friendship will break if it he gets this close.

[Asherdoodle]

I think it's usually best not to respond in anger, so maybe take some time to cool off. After that I would just tell him that you have no sexual interest in him, never will and that you don't appreciate him misleading you about your friendship initially or making sexual comments to and about you.

[Camazotz]

If he just got close to you so that he could have sex with you, treating you like you were his personal sex toy, then I don't think he deserves your friendship. Tell him to apologize and to back off for a while.


Nobody deserves to be treated like that, especially by a "friend." Tell him that being honest isn't always the right thing to do, and revealing that information really hurt your feelings.

[Shannon.]

Well, if you don't wanna be friends with him anymore, why not just tell him that? Or if you still wanna keep in touch, just let him know that what he said hurt you. You're a person, not a toy he can play with. If he doesn't show any remorse after that, he's a scumbag and he doesn't deserve your friendship.

[Amazerful]

Well you need to make him aware of this before it becomes a very uncomfortable situation for you.

the situation is already uncomfortable

[Amazerful]

Say that it is he has gone too far and that the your friendship will break if it he gets this close.

I don't care about a friendship with him anymore, I just want him to go away

[Amazerful]

I think it's usually best not to respond in anger, so maybe take some time to cool off. After that I would just tell him that you have no sexual interest in him, never will and that you don't appreciate him misleading you about your friendship initially or making sexual comments to and about you.

I'm done talking to him about it, he had no regrets

[Asherdoodle]

I'm done talking to him about it, he had no regrets


Well, if he has not regrets and doesn't care how you feel about it, I wouldn't waste anymore of your time or energy even thinking about him.