his ex is repeatedly disrespecting us, should i leave

[wonderingmind]

My boyfriend ex has been disrespecting our relationship for a year. She text and call everyday telling him she love him. Well today they talked on the phone 8 times and he called her back. This has been going on for a year now. I stay with him. He refuse to change his number and he barely mentions me to her. He filed a complaint because I wanted him to. He refuse to move forward with that. He always show me what she wrote in a text. we been together for a year and still deal with this. He told me his ex was just a one night stand to him. he said he been trying to get rid of her for 4 years now. He tells me she is crazy and won't leave him alone. His ex and him was together for 5 years. I don't know what was said on the phone. He won't take me over her house to speak to her nor will he tell me where she stay at. Should I leave? theres a reason why she still may be in contact with him. She change her phone number a lot. They always argue and block each other. I'm still hearing about they drama. He tells me he gonna change his number he never do it. It's like he always protect her. last night she called his phone at 11 and he answered it. she called 3 times. he took me to the homecoming game yesterday and little did i know she was there. we left right after the game but we was going back and forth. i did not know his ex girlfriend was there but he did. he talk about her all the time whether its in a bad way or not. he barely responds to her texts but answer alot of her phone calls. i live with him shouldn't this count as something? i been living and dating him almost a year. he keep telling me his ex was just a f*ck to him. OK she is still calling and texting him. some days she just piss him off on purpose. I asked him all the time to get rid of her if she is crazy and insane to him like he always tells me. so its like his ex knows when I am around him. she call and he pass the phone to me when he be talking to her at work. I be the one arguing with the ex girlfriend. I don't care if they Haven't seen each other in a year, she's still calling and texting him. he always pas sthe phone to me when I'm around. this has been going on throughout our whole relationship. he always say one thing but does another. I'm always in the middle of the drama because he pass me the phone to answer. he blocked her but as I hear they always block each other. he refuse to even tell me where she stay at. he even knows where she stay at. SHOULD I LEAVE?
i gotten to the point now where i dont answer the phone. we take pictures but im the only one who post them online. its like im dating myself. she calls all the time, he answer. i talked to him about it. he said he is just a f*ck to him and shes crazy and wont leave him alone and that shes obsessed with his d*ck.

[Soulless]

MAKE THE DECISION YOURSELF.


YOU know what YOU want a hundred times more than any of us.


Think about it.
SLEEP on it.
Think about it.

ACT ON IT.

Take your time.

[Derryck]

Why would you leave him? It's not his fault.

[wonderingmind]

whats not his fault? im starting to think he still love her

[Derryck]

whats not his fault? im starting to think he still love her

Do you even know what they talk about on the phone?

[wonderingmind]

idk...she calls he answers. she called last night at 11pm and he answered. last time she called at 2am and he answered. the last time i answered the phone, it was like i was single. its like they both know something i dont know. he said he been telling her to leave him alone for over 4 years now. everything he say he gone do, he go back on. when i ask where she stay he say he dont know. but later i found out he do know because he been over there. something just not adding up and i dont wanna be wrong for leaving him

[wonderingmind]

and when he show me text messages its like they are responses from her about their phone call. so some messages are deleted.

[wonderingmind]

its like he fully protect her

[Derryck]

idk...she calls he answers. she called last night at 11pm and he answered. last time she called at 2am and he answered. the last time i answered the phone, it was like i was single. its like they both know something i dont know. he said he been telling her to leave him alone for over 4 years now. everything he say he gone do, he go back on. when i ask where she stay he say he dont know. but later i found out he do know because he been over there. something just not adding up and i dont wanna be wrong for leaving him

This is where I think you should be a little more aggressive in finding the truth. You should start DEMANDING answers from your bf.

[Cygnus]

whats not his fault? im starting to think he still love her

Or you could think she is absolutely obsessed with him and that he answers her calls and stuff because of common courtesy or not wanting to make her feel sad.

[Camazotz]

Why would you leave him? It's not his fault.

To this I respond...

His ex and him was together for 5 years.

He told me his ex was just a one night stand to him. he said he been trying to get rid of her for 4 years now...They always argue and block each other. I'm still hearing about they drama. He tells me he gonna change his number he never do it... he talk about her all the time whether its in a bad way or not. he barely responds to her texts but answer alot of her phone calls. i live with him shouldn't this count as something? i been living and dating him almost a year. he keep telling me his ex was just a f*ck to him. ...he said he is just a f*ck to him and shes crazy and wont leave him alone and that shes obsessed with his d*ck.

That's not normal. Your boyfriend has problems and his ex-girlfriend has problems. Assuming none of your story is fabricated (I'm sure a good bit is exaggerated), this has been going on for a looooong time (they were together for 5 years and he's been avoiding her for 4 years). You don't date someone for five years and say that she was "just a fuck." Besides, adding up those years makes absolutely zero sense.

Or you could think she is absolutely obsessed with him and that he answers her calls and stuff because of common courtesy or not wanting to make her feel sad.

If someone is that crazy/obsessed, you don't answer them. That's just feeding their desires. You tell them straight up how you feel, that you never want to talk to them again, and cut all ties- change phone numbers, change address if necessary, file for a restraining order, etc. By answering your phone at 2 AM, the boyfriend is giving an impression toward the ex that it's okay to still talk, when it's not.

OP, tell your boyfriend that if he doesn't get rid of her, you can't deal with the broken relationship that you have. It's not worth it to put up with her and him constantly talking.

[wonderingmind]

when we take pictures, im the only one posting the pictures online. i mean its completely like im single. she call him all the time and they have these conversations. like the other day, he and her pretended to meet with each other to fight. he repeatedly kept answering her.

[Amazerful]

when we take pictures, im the only one posting the pictures online. i mean its completely like im single. she call him all the time and they have these conversations. like the other day, he and her pretended to meet with each other to fight. he repeatedly kept answering her.

I think you need to have a serious conversation about the future of your relationship with him, is it actually worth it?