So many people are self harming

[jayyy-lmao]

It seems like right now I can't swing a towel without hitting someone who is self harming that I care about. Between me, my friend A, and Em, who's boyfriend dumper her because she self harms, it's seems like everyone around me is falling apart, and I am too. I've been drawing on my wrist, loads of lines in black or red pen, to stop me from using my ruler's sharp edge. Then when I go to wash it off it makes my hand sting like a b*tch cos it's so hard to get off. My friends do notice. A scratches her wrist when she's worrying, and Em cuts for a reason I don't know. It's so difficult to be there for everyone with all of this happening. It's really weighing me down.

[Derryck]

You ever think that you might be hanging out with the wrong group?

[jayyy-lmao]

You ever think that you might be hanging out with the wrong group?

It's not their fault, They aren't attention seekers. They're wonderful people and I love them. I'm not like Em's ex, I don't leave once the going gets tough. I want to stand by them. They just need help. I just don't know how to help.

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I only know a handful who did it, thank god, and they stopped. You should try to help them stop.

[Derryck]

It's not their fault, They aren't attention seekers. They're wonderful people and I love them. I'm not like Em's ex, I don't leave once the going gets tough. I want to stand by them. They just need help. I just don't know how to help.

I'm just having trouble understanding why 9/11.5 of them seem to self harm.

[Katiya]

Just be there for them as much as they are for you. Sometimes its the beat support group BC everyone understand.

[Mynick]

Just be there for them really, try to listten if they choose to talk with you.

You ever think that you might be hanging out with the wrong group?
Please explain why people that self harm are the wrong group...

[xXl0sth0peXx]

It's a shame, honestly. I found out the other day that a member of my family is doing it also. I've had/have friends who do it, and it sucks. Sometimes, these people've been doing it for a long time, and other times it's a new thing. Don't leave your friends over this. Support them and be there for them. It's when they need you most probably, just like you need someone.

I absolutely agree with you though, you're seeing it more and more, and it's a sad thing. Stay strong. :hug3:

[Weird123]

It seems like right now I can't swing a towel without hitting someone who is self harming that I care about. Between me, my friend A, and Em, who's boyfriend dumper her because she self harms, it's seems like everyone around me is falling apart, and I am too. I've been drawing on my wrist, loads of lines in black or red pen, to stop me from using my ruler's sharp edge. Then when I go to wash it off it makes my hand sting like a b*tch cos it's so hard to get off. My friends do notice. A scratches her wrist when she's worrying, and Em cuts for a reason I don't know. It's so difficult to be there for everyone with all of this happening. It's really weighing me down.
I've been hospitalized multiple times for cutting, almost died twice. :/

[Derryck]

Just be there for them really, try to listten if they choose to talk with you.


Please explain why people that self harm are the wrong group...

I'm saying that it's hard for me to believe that more than half of his friends self harm.

[Desuetude]

My best friend self harms but that's down to her psychosis, the voices tell her to and she hates it. I know around 5/6 people probably a few more that self harm as well, they used to be my friends but most of them are assholes now for reasons that are too long to explain.

I think you've got to accept that it's become somewhat normal in our society and shouldn't take it upon yourself to help every single person you know that self harms. In some cases it's better to be there for them and be that shoulder to lean on but in other cases they might not want your help and advice and with that you can do nothing more.

I mean the person that scratches her wrist when she worries, it's more of a nervous habit than self harm. She probably isn't intentionally doing it, it's just a compulsion that happens when she's worried. Like biting your nails, I do that subcounsiously and sometimes I end up ripping half my nail off and get blood everywhere but I don't count it as self harm because it's not intentional. I think you're reading way too much into things than you should and therefore putting a lot more pressure on yourself than there actually is for you to help your friends.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

I'm saying that it's hard for me to believe that more than half of his friends self harm.

I'm confused as to where this was said, as I don't see this anywhere.


And to be honest, even if it was the case that whatever number of friends did self harm, even if it was large, I don't know how it's hard to believe. You can't go and look at someone and say 'they self harm' and 'they don't' without actually knowing. Because so often, you don't know. Most people wouldn't think I did unless they saw the carefully hidden scars. People who self harm most often don't go around showing, so you don't know. You don't know how many friends of the OPs do or don't self harm, and you'd be surprised overall how many people do self harm. Don't make assumptions on what you don't know about people.

[UnknownError]

There was a point that like half the people in my year were openly self harming. Infact I was so embarrassed about it that it helped motivate me to stop, because I thought "if people found out about me I'd be lumped into this group that is giving self harm a bad reputation". There's a reason everyone at my school thinks it's attention seeking and it's thanks to them.

Wasn't really about your OP, just my own little story. But yeah you just need to support your friends and let them know that if they want to talk to you, they can. There's nothing major you can do. You can't force someone not to cut, it's a personal battle.