Never thought it would ever come to this

[IceColdLemon]

I never understood why people want to take something ad precious as life from themselves especially when they're so young and have so much life ahead of them ... Now I'm thinking of ending my life ... But still , can't get my head around why people do.

So my friend is pregnant .. not even my girlfriend . My worst nightmare and whenever I though of getting someone pregnant at my age (17), I always said to myself if she keeps the baby I'm gonna have to take my life. I think that I'm still a kid , and that I can't give life at this stage so in order for it to work out best , I'll have to sacrifice my life; I've got great future prospects, I'm smart , quite academic with good grades looking to go uni but I can't let a baby ruin it. I can't provide for it .... :/ school is already too much let alone looking after a baby.. it sounds harsh I know but I just couldnt . I can't imagine what my parents will do and think of me if the baby comes to the world and they find out it's mine .. I'm scared , is rather die than find out to be honest ...

The girl is still deciding what to do with it , I had a talk with her that it's best if we abort it for the good of both of us , she has a good chance for acting and she is soon gettin an agent and a baby would surely ruin it for her too but she says she's in a difficult situation and that I will never understand how she feels ... But the pregnancy wasn't planed , it wasn't meant to be , so there should be any feelings or doubts about it .. me and her don't even love each other so How can we have a baby together ?! I understand if this happened when I was older , 24 lets say .. where I'm after my education , can get a good job and provide for the baby, then abortion would never be an option .. but in this situation it is .

I love my life and I don't want to get rid of it .. I'm too scared too but I'm also scared of the future which babies at this age throw at you .. I don't want to experience it , I don't want to live it at all if it happens .... Idk how or when I'd have to kill myself how would my family take it oh gosh :(((((

[Katiya]

Use protection next time -.-

Yes your right at your ages you should abort it. There are a ton of complications that could happen to her having a baby at such a young age as well. But it is her choice to keep it or not. All you can do is inform her for the best decision for her life and yours. But no you can not understand it because you will never be pregnant.

[Elysium]

I think your family, first and foremost, definitely has a right to know what's going on and what your thoughts are on it. They can help and support you individually without worrying about her.

Since you're the guy, you've given your opinion on what she should do and that's all you can do. If you're unable to completely support a baby as its father, make that very clear to her before she comes to a decision; she should be aware of all involved factors before doing anything. If you've made no commitment to her and she's aware that you can't be involved and still chooses to have the baby, then that's that. If you still want to be a father to the baby, work it out with her. I don't see it ruining your life if she chooses to go through with the pregnancy.

[numbness]

Wear a condom maybe?

[Phlyarologist]

Saying you'll kill yourself if she decides to have the child is pretty self-centered. It's time to man up and take responsibility. You contributed to the creation of said child, so you can't place all the burden on her. If she wants to have it then she will, and that's all there is to it.

Someone mentioned using condoms, so I'd like to mention that condoms are not a fail-safe method for pregnancy prevention. The only certain prevention is not partaking in intercourse, but good luck convincing anyone to take that route.

[kylem1229]

Remember to take responsibilty, wear a condom. Your should have been aware of the consequences. Taking your life wont solve anything, it just leaves her with more problems. If she keeps the baby, you will have to get a good job to support her, Especially since it was your fault.