It's been a while...

[MangoLoop]

It's been over a year since I have been here last.
I guess it's because i'm still upset.
I took the advice I got on here and called the police on my abusive father.
I was told, "They won't separate you and your little brother! Don't worry."
Well, they did.
Right before Thanksgiving me and my little brother were sent back to a group home.
I don't know what happened. Why Maria and Kevin couldn't keep us anymore, but we went back.
At the home, I got told off for being "Too involved" in taking care of Jay.
I'm not even sure what that means.
Our Case Worker came on December 2nd and took Jay.
His birthday was on the 30th of November.
She said that he would have a better chance of finding a family.

I miss him so much.
I feel like i'm missing my arm.
For so long I felt like I was only living for him, he was the only reason I woke up some mornings.
And now he's gone.
I've tried to end my life twice.
I want to try and find him, but I don't know how or where to start.

[1_21Guns]

Hello Laura, welcome back to VT.
Unfortunately sometimes siblings can be separated but he's not gone, he's still alive, he's still walking around and you should be able to talk to your case worker to get information on his whereabouts because he's your brother. Keep living for him because you'll be reunited one day, this isn't the end, you will see him again. Keep going for him because he'll need you to be strong right now, stay strong for him so you can see him again :hug3:

[Katiya]

I'd have pitched the biggest fit you ever saw if someone did that to me and I had a brother. That just SUCKS! Majorly SUCKS! I'm so sorry they took him!

Gosh, I can't even believe what they said. Your too involved. He'd have a better chance without you? WTF?!? Is this a diss on the sister game? Sorry but that just ticks me off!

But that's the life of foster care...all is good until it turns shitty. I had a friend when I was youg that was in foster care and she had a sucky life and got ripped from her brother too. That left an impression on me that no mater how bad it got I would never tell so I wouldn't end up there like her. It just pisses me off how workers can inflict so much more pain on people who are already dealing with so much.
I feel for you. I really really do! :(

Stay strong my friend! You shall find your brother one day! I mean it you guys will look for each other in the future at some point. I'd ask if you guys could talk on the phone or something. Vosit now and then, anything to maintain contact, even writing letters! Ask!

[Derryck]

I'd have pitched the biggest fit you ever saw if someone did that to me and I had a brother. That just SUCKS! Majorly SUCKS! I'm so sorry they took him!

Gosh, I can't even believe what they said. Your too involved. He'd have a better chance without you? WTF?!? Is this a diss on the sister game? Sorry but that just ticks me off!

But that's the life of foster care...all is good until it turns shitty. I had a friend when I was youg that was in foster care and she had a sucky life and got ripped from her brother too. That left an impression on me that no mater how bad it got I would never tell so I wouldn't end up there like her. It just pisses me off how workers can inflict so much more pain on people who are already dealing with so much.
I feel for you. I really really do! :(

Stay strong my friend! You shall find your brother one day! I mean it you guys will look for each other in the future at some point. I'd ask if you guys could talk on the phone or something. Vosit now and then, anything to maintain contact, even writing letters! Ask!
Holy shit! I never would have guessed that you possessed the genetic predisposition to actually lose it! :eek:
It's been over a year since I have been here last.
I guess it's because i'm still upset.
I took the advice I got on here and called the police on my abusive father.
I was told, "They won't separate you and your little brother! Don't worry."
Well, they did.
Right before Thanksgiving me and my little brother were sent back to a group home.
I don't know what happened. Why Maria and Kevin couldn't keep us anymore, but we went back.
At the home, I got told off for being "Too involved" in taking care of Jay.
I'm not even sure what that means.
Our Case Worker came on December 2nd and took Jay.
His birthday was on the 30th of November.
She said that he would have a better chance of finding a family.

I miss him so much.
I feel like i'm missing my arm.
For so long I felt like I was only living for him, he was the only reason I woke up some mornings.
And now he's gone.
I've tried to end my life twice.
I want to try and find him, but I don't know how or where to start.

I don't really understand why any of this happened. :confused: I'm sorry that I couldn't say more but I'm just....... speechless.

[Katiya]

Holy shit! I never would have guessed that you possessed the genetic predisposition to actually lose it :eek:

Oh yes its all too easy for me. I believe the reason I do is genetics. My dad is very angry and aggressive and so was his dad and siblings. I figure I've got those same genetics that make me prone to aggressiveness. 99% of the time I have to direct the feelings onto my self to avoid causing more problems for my self. I get very angry at my self too it's not just others.

[MangoLoop]

I'd have pitched the biggest fit you ever saw if someone did that to me and I had a brother. That just SUCKS! Majorly SUCKS! I'm so sorry they took him!

Gosh, I can't even believe what they said. Your too involved. He'd have a better chance without you? WTF?!? Is this a diss on the sister game? Sorry but that just ticks me off!

But that's the life of foster care...all is good until it turns shitty. I had a friend when I was youg that was in foster care and she had a sucky life and got ripped from her brother too. That left an impression on me that no mater how bad it got I would never tell so I wouldn't end up there like her. It just pisses me off how workers can inflict so much more pain on people who are already dealing with so much.
I feel for you. I really really do! :(

Stay strong my friend! You shall find your brother one day! I mean it you guys will look for each other in the future at some point. I'd ask if you guys could talk on the phone or something. Vosit now and then, anything to maintain contact, even writing letters! Ask!

I did throw a fit. I screamed, cried, yelled... I did everything I could. But they still took him.
I guess I was naive, because I never saw this coming.
But now that I know that this is something that happens, you can be damn sure that I will never give anyone the advice to call the police again.

I do, however, get to talk to my caseworker tomorrow. I plan to ask her about getting to visit my brother or talking to him on the phone.
After some intensive googling, I found a thing that had the "bill of rights" for foster kids. One of the points was:
I have the right to visit and have regular contact with my family, including my brothers and sisters (unless a court order or case plan doesn't allow it) and to have my worker explain any restrictions to me and write them in my record.
My caseworker never told me that my plan said I couldn't talk to him or visit him. Maybe we can work something out so that I can see him sometimes. I just want to know how he is doing. I can't let him forget me.

[Katiya]

I did throw a fit. I screamed, cried, yelled... I did everything I could. But they still took him.
I guess I was naive, because I never saw this coming.
But now that I know that this is something that happens, you can be damn sure that I will never give anyone the advice to call the police again.

I do, however, get to talk to my caseworker tomorrow. I plan to ask her about getting to visit my brother or talking to him on the phone.
After some intensive googling, I found a thing that had the "bill of rights" for foster kids. One of the points was:

My caseworker never told me that my plan said I couldn't talk to him or visit him. Maybe we can work something out so that I can see him sometimes. I just want to know how he is doing. I can't let him forget me.

Yes go for it! You should be able to get something done. Fight for it, I think it will take much complaining. And yeah sometimes even the biggest tantrum does nothing but at least you let them know you aren't content with it. Once your 18 you will have Far more rights so there's that to look forward to if they don't listen now. Perhaps you may be able to provide a home for your brother when your 18 or older. Long as you can maintain adiqate housing and food you aught to be good I think.