Dawn01
October 17th, 2013, 09:29 PM
So, I no longer talk to my "ex" (he almost became my boyfriend so I call him "ex"), I'm single... And there's this one guy that went out with me and a couple of friends in the begining of September. He was always talking to me at facebook chat and he asked me out, but at this time I was still in a confusing situation with my "ex", so I kinda ignored his moves. One of my best friends was there and said that I was crazy for being ignoring such a nice guy, and yeah, he is a real gentleman and I do find him very attractive, but I didn't want to try something with him and them have to leave him to stay with my "ex". I kinda regretted that day after my "ex" said that we should stay away from each other for a period time.
I met this guy in a friend’s house, said sorry about "ignoring" his attempts and told him what happened, but he was acting diferent from what he was acting that day we went out, he said he has been through lots of trouble and that maybe he shouldn't take me to his troubled life. I talked to the friend of mine who introduced him to me (he is the best friend of this friend's boyfriend) and she confirmed that he sometimes would be depressed and wouldn't even hang out with his friends because of his mood. She told me that it seens to be something related to his parents, but she is not sure, and she said that altought he was one of the nicest guys she ever met, he could be a problem for me because I already suffered to much with my “ex”, who is probabily the most complicated and bipolar person EVER!
I kept talking to him and last Thursday (10/10), when I came back from college, I texted him to meet me in a fast food near my home. He came, and he was acting just like that day we went out in the beging of September! While I was ordering my food, me put his hands around my waist and I thought I was going to melt :whoops: After we finish eating, we walked holding hands by the streets of my neighborhood until we find some place to sit. We talked for a while, and suddenly, he kissed me. I told him “so that’s what you wanted to do when we went out that day?” and he said “Well, you were avoiding me...”; I asked him “who gave you this ideia... Did Isabelle (the friend who introduced us) told you something?” *I told Isabelle when I met him that he was cute * and he said “when we met, I felt attracted to you and told Isabelle that I wanted to know you better, and she said you were single... Didn’t know that you were in a confused relationship”. We started kissing like crazy, we spent some really good time kissing, he even started shaking and I was like “OH MY GOD, I’M GOING TO FINISH HIM ONLY BY KISSING” , it was soooooooooooooooo good :wub: Then we walked (we kissed more in the way) to the bus station, he kissed me goodbye and went his way home.
We kept talking and he said that he liked to kiss me, but then he seemed somewhat sad in our facebook talks. This Tuesday, I met him again with some other friends, we were hanging out in the neighborhood. When I came close to the group, he gave me a hug and told me that he wanted to talk to me. I asked him what happened and he took my hand and took me to a quieter place. He told me he is not doing very well and that it’s maybe not the time to have a relationship, but it’s nothing related to me, he said that he needs to have some time alone until things get better. I tried to make him change ideia, but he said that now is the best thing to do because he feels like he is not acting like his normal self, he feels really stressed by his problems. He gave me a hug and we walked back to our friends holding our hands (?). We talked to the group like normal, making jokes about people we know, and he offered himself to help me with math when I said it was the only thing I disliked about my graduation (he is in the 5th semestre of Physics at college, I’m in the first semestre of Medical Biology).
Well... Why he seemed fine when kissed me and then, only 5 days later, he says that this is not a good time for starting a relationship?! Do you think he could be telling the truth? What should I do about him, should I move on or should I give him time and then insist again? Again, I just came from ending a terrible relationship, and I was insanely head over heels for my “ex” ...Do you think that I should give myself some time too?
I met this guy in a friend’s house, said sorry about "ignoring" his attempts and told him what happened, but he was acting diferent from what he was acting that day we went out, he said he has been through lots of trouble and that maybe he shouldn't take me to his troubled life. I talked to the friend of mine who introduced him to me (he is the best friend of this friend's boyfriend) and she confirmed that he sometimes would be depressed and wouldn't even hang out with his friends because of his mood. She told me that it seens to be something related to his parents, but she is not sure, and she said that altought he was one of the nicest guys she ever met, he could be a problem for me because I already suffered to much with my “ex”, who is probabily the most complicated and bipolar person EVER!
I kept talking to him and last Thursday (10/10), when I came back from college, I texted him to meet me in a fast food near my home. He came, and he was acting just like that day we went out in the beging of September! While I was ordering my food, me put his hands around my waist and I thought I was going to melt :whoops: After we finish eating, we walked holding hands by the streets of my neighborhood until we find some place to sit. We talked for a while, and suddenly, he kissed me. I told him “so that’s what you wanted to do when we went out that day?” and he said “Well, you were avoiding me...”; I asked him “who gave you this ideia... Did Isabelle (the friend who introduced us) told you something?” *I told Isabelle when I met him that he was cute * and he said “when we met, I felt attracted to you and told Isabelle that I wanted to know you better, and she said you were single... Didn’t know that you were in a confused relationship”. We started kissing like crazy, we spent some really good time kissing, he even started shaking and I was like “OH MY GOD, I’M GOING TO FINISH HIM ONLY BY KISSING” , it was soooooooooooooooo good :wub: Then we walked (we kissed more in the way) to the bus station, he kissed me goodbye and went his way home.
We kept talking and he said that he liked to kiss me, but then he seemed somewhat sad in our facebook talks. This Tuesday, I met him again with some other friends, we were hanging out in the neighborhood. When I came close to the group, he gave me a hug and told me that he wanted to talk to me. I asked him what happened and he took my hand and took me to a quieter place. He told me he is not doing very well and that it’s maybe not the time to have a relationship, but it’s nothing related to me, he said that he needs to have some time alone until things get better. I tried to make him change ideia, but he said that now is the best thing to do because he feels like he is not acting like his normal self, he feels really stressed by his problems. He gave me a hug and we walked back to our friends holding our hands (?). We talked to the group like normal, making jokes about people we know, and he offered himself to help me with math when I said it was the only thing I disliked about my graduation (he is in the 5th semestre of Physics at college, I’m in the first semestre of Medical Biology).
Well... Why he seemed fine when kissed me and then, only 5 days later, he says that this is not a good time for starting a relationship?! Do you think he could be telling the truth? What should I do about him, should I move on or should I give him time and then insist again? Again, I just came from ending a terrible relationship, and I was insanely head over heels for my “ex” ...Do you think that I should give myself some time too?