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Hallie
October 17th, 2013, 09:08 PM
I know my parents don't care about anything but my grades, so they're already out of the question. Every conversation ends with "Try harder in school," even though I'm trying my best. When I cry (which is a lot because I always feel tired and frustrated and hopeless and useless), they just tell me to shut up. They say things like "How can you be such an idiot all the time?" And it really hurts me because I already have low self esteem.
I have never had a true friend, which I didn't realize until last year, because I had never had a real friend, so I never knew what it was like to have one. Every friend I ever had either betrayed my trust, said hateful things behind my back, and/or put me down to make themselves feel better.
As of now, the pain of loneliness is starting to be too much for me to handle. I cut myself for the first time about a year ago and I'm still cutting because feeling physical pain makes my emotional pain seem not as bad if only for a few moments. tried my best to keep it a secret, but deep down I really wanted someone to notice and hug me tight without saying a word. Two people know, and not because I told them, because they are also self harmers and they figured it out. I've convinced one of them that I'm not cutting anymore and the other won't help me. He tells me he loves me very much and that he cares, but when I was about to self harm last weekend I texted him urgently saying: Help me. Talk to me. I don't want to hurt myself again.
He never responded. He never responds to any of my texts. at school, he avoided me. That night, I cut myself just because of him, because I thought he actually cared about me. I'm so stupid! Why am I such an idiot! My parents are so right! I'm just not worthy of love. And all of those people who say "hey, there is always someone who cares," Well I think that's BULLSHIT. No one gives a damn about me, and no one ever will, so why do I even try?

Sometimes, I fantasize about killing myself and I imagine peoples' reactions. They will all be sorry when I'm gone. They will be sorry that they didn't do anything to stop me.

Katiya
October 17th, 2013, 09:41 PM
Ive been through the same thing. YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE!!!! People are just shitty and won't give it. Idk why but some of us live in the wrong place or something. Idk what makes people so mean. I trusted someone once to care about me, I told them everything and they would hug me and that person just turned one day and stabbed me in the back. I was completely fucked up for months after that. I stillam in some ways, I ccan't trust anyone anymore.

I know exactly the feeling of wanting a hug! Believe me if I could I'd give you one. That's all I've ever wantedeither, just a kind hug from someone with no words. Some people see but don't know how to give a hug or if they should. You can always say "I just need a hug" if you come across the right person.

I know how it feels. I'm in the same place. But us here care, we aren't from the same town or even country some times but everyone here will listen and support you. Always! If anything just know your not alone. Come here and talk. You can message me, I don't always have an internet connection but I'll respond soon as I can. I'm happy to just listen if that would help, sometimes that's all I want.

Castle of Glass
October 17th, 2013, 09:58 PM
no. you are worth every single breath you take. I know how hard it is to have parents who don't care and not to have friends. Put down the blades. get rid of them. You will make it. you can do it. the other response also works. Please take a look at this thread (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=194011).
you are worth everything. Please don't kill yourself.

asbel_garcia123
October 19th, 2013, 07:57 AM
Hallie let me tell you something. People are idiots. Often times they're stuck in their own little world and don't see how much they're hurting you. I also have this problem with people, but thank God I have my boyfriend to help me make it through the tough days. Have you tried telling people how you feel when they say or do these things to you? Maybe they don't even know how much they're hurting you. If that doesn't work, just know that all of us care about you and will always be here for you. Never forget that.

Derryck
October 19th, 2013, 08:09 AM
This should not happen to anybody :furious:!! VM me asap. I want to talk about this.

Throwaway24
October 28th, 2013, 06:36 PM
U know someone cares when they always want to know what's up and try everything they can to cheer u up. People who care are people who no matter how much u push them away they always come back. The more they care the more they will come back but don't keep pushing away u need to give up before them or u both get hurt. I know how u feel

Imaustinigeuss
November 4th, 2013, 08:05 PM
1st I care if u need to talk in pvt feel free and just read them like u can tell if they do