Gender and sexuality confusion

[jayyy-lmao]

So I started questioning my gender and it ain't fun hunny bun. Some mornings I get up and I'm okay with my body, but others days I hate it because boobs and hips and hair make me seem feminine and I don;t like that at all. Most of my dysphoria seems to stem from other people's view of me, that they all see me as a girl and I don;t want them to. I don;t know if I should talk to my counsellor in school about it, and if I should ask her to call me Jay instead of Jenny.

Up until recently I was sure of my sexuality. But then I went out with a guy and we kissed and I really did not like that and I didn;t like being his girl and I'm not sure if that was a gender thing or a sexuality thing and I still have a crush on the same girl I used to like and it's very frustrating and yeah this is more of a rant.

Does anyone have any tips?

[sqishy]

I can't help with experience I have had, because I accepted my sexuality after years of liking boys, and my sexuality never really changed in that time.

If you feel that you don't fit well into being either female or male, then be somewhere in the middle. Just as there are bisexuals who don't see themselves as either gay or straight, there are intergenders, who identify as part-female-part-male. I personally think that there is female and male in all of us (I am effeminate in that I can be emotionally effusive), like how I think that we are all bisexuals, just most being almost fully at the 'straight end' and most of the others being on the 'gay end'. We don't have to think to be totally one gender or the other. Be both if you want.

On your sexuality, it looks like you are bisexual. Again, there's nothing wrong with refusing to go either way, towards gay or straight.
Hope this helps! :) (Always here to help anyways).

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genderqueer

[Syvelocin]

Sounds similar to me. I don't feel really strongly but some days I just feel more yang and some days I feel more yin. I've done a little research on fluidity and neutrality and that's how I identify. Don't feel the need to figure out which you are; just be who you are that day. Sometimes I'm a dress person, sometimes I'm a suit and tie person. I've got a sports bra and a padded bra just for those days. I just do what makes me happy. And if you find out you're one or the other, then great. But until then you can spare yourself the stress.