I am ugly please can you help me improve my appearance.

[ToriFey89723]

I hate being Black girl…it’s a curse. Black girls are deemed the least desirable and least attractive race. Mixed, White, Asian, Latina and Indian girls are usually prettier than Black girls since they have lighter colored skin, nicer facial features and better more manageable hair. I would have been happy if I was born any other race or was at least mixed so I could have had a better chance at looking decent. Black female features are considered unfeminine many people even say that their faces look mannish. I always hear people say that, “It’s hard to find a pretty Black girl…she usually has to be mixed to be pretty”. I am so jealous of those Mixed, White, Asian, Latina and Indian girls cause of their better looks and better hair. But since I have to live in this body I want to make myself look as less Black as possible. I have full lips (that are not huge), medium sized nose, brown skin, and coarse/kinky hair – overall I can only fix 2 out of the 4 problems. I plan to lighten my skin and get a weave. I want to lighten my skin simply because it is too dark…well it’s brown but I consider it dark. Dark skin is considered a masculine trait which is why both dark and light skin guys are desired. I know that White girls like to tan to get darker but their goal is to get nice light brown skin nobody wants dark brown skin. Also I want to get a weave because as you all know being Black my hair is coarse/kinky and a nightmare to look at and deal with. Full Black hair is a big turn off to people they always prefer mixed Black hair.

In this world light skin is prettier than dark skin, delicate facial features are prettier than huge/broad facial features, and straight/curly hair is prettier than coarse/kinky hair – that’s just the way it is. Of course not everybody thinks this way but a vast majority of people do. This is why guys, even a majority of the Black guys, usually prefer lighter skinned girls. The majority of light skinned girls love to date Black guys but the majority of light skinned guys do not like to date Black girls they always say that they have a “different preference”. There are only few guys that actually like Black girls and those guys are hard to find. I really wish I was one of those pretty light skinned girls so damn bad. I am horrified and hurt that I was born this way but with all the skin lightening creams, hair treatments, and cosmetics out there I am will hopefully look better. People have always told me to “love myself as I am” which drives me crazy especially when the person who says it is some other race. Maybe it’s easy for them to love themselves but they have no idea how it feels to live being Black. I was bullied all through elementary, middle and high school because of my hair and looks. Also any guy I liked made it perfectly clear that they only wanted the light skinned girls not me. Because of this I developed depression and anxiety issues. This transformation might just be the best thing for me so I can look average and feel better about myself. Do you know any good safe skin lightening creams? Do you know any other ideas on how I can improve my appearance?
Please do not preach saying that “no one is ugly everyone is beautiful in their own way”, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, “what matters is what’s on the inside”, etc. They are nice comments but don’t help in the actual world.

[Stryker125]

wow. I don't even know what to say to this. just, wow.

[conniption]

I don't know what kind of people you've been hanging around with because these are hugely false assumptions. I have plenty of black friends that are freakin gorgeous and are not mixed in any way, so being black does not mean your ugly. Why are you letting other people's likes and dislikes affect how you look at yourself? You can lighten your skin, paint yourself white, or wish upon a star, but you'll always be black and nobody will think you're anymore attractive or unattractive simply because of your skin color. If the guys you've liked rejected you because of your skin color, then that's not the type of guys you want to be around. Your personality is much more attractive than something as superficial as the color of your skin.

[dsi411]

How old are you? This will help me better respond.

[Luminous]

Honey that's absolutely not true. You are gorgeous, who cares what people say? I have never preferred a white or mixed girl over a black girl, it 90% is based on personality. This is a world full of diversity. Some people don't appreciate that and clearly you're hanging out with those people. But think about, for example, a mixed child. They have to have a light father and dark mother or vice versa. That means that the father doesn't think the mother is ugly if he married her and had her child! And there are so many mixed races nowadays that think about it, very few people consider dark-skinned people ugly. Because you're not! You are beautiful!

[dsi411]

Honey that's absolutely not true. You are gorgeous, who cares what people say? I have never preferred a white or mixed girl over a black girl, it 90% is based on personality. This is a world full of diversity. Some people don't appreciate that and clearly you're hanging out with those people. But think about, for example, a mixed child. They have to have a light father and dark mother or vice versa. That means that the father doesn't think the mother is ugly if he married her and had her child! And there are so many mixed races nowadays that think about it, very few people consider dark-skinned people ugly. Because you're not! You are beautiful!

Very good point. Listen to this girl!

[Katiya]

Shoot! You really think your ugly BC ur black? Whoooha, hold on a minute. I know a lot of black girls that I think are gorgeous! Actually I really have never met a black girl I thought was ugly but I have found white/mixed/Latino/ext... That I have found not so pretty. I see a lot of white girls that don't look very good to me. I can't see you but I doubt your ugly. I honestly like to look at black people because it is pretty to have veryy dark or brown skin. Diversity is what makes the world interesting.

I'm a very very pale white Russian blonde. Many people think I'm too light skinned and I do not tan well. Just burn lol. There's dislikers on both sides of the fence.

Any how if you want to look prettyer. Try eye makeup. Liner and shadow. It makes ugly models look pretty and a normal person looks fabulous with it. I like it for my self BC it makes my eyes stand out and balances my face. Try that. It makes you look totally different :)

[Amazerful]

As a black person myself, what you say completely shocks me. It seems as if you are only looking skin deep, like as if a persons color defines whether or not they are attractive and to be honest, I've seen people of all skin colors look fucking ugly. A lot of people who identify themselves as ugly aren't even ugly, social media makes people think they must look like a super model to be beautiful or they must be a certain skin tone to be attractive when thats not even true. A majority of the world is made up of average looking people and the person who decides whether or not you are actually beautiful or pretty is you. If you call yourself pretty and you think that you are pretty then thats what you are and nobody can change that, but by you calling yourself ugly and not being confident in the way you look just makes you seem ugly to other people. Your attitude also affects how you look, sometimes it even compensates for what you lack, you should most definitely change yours.
Another thing I wanted to say it that I've never felt ugly because I'm black. I have dated guys who where black, mixed, latino, and white and most of them actually prefer black girls so don't just let one guys preference for another skin tone ruin your self image.

[Luminous]

Very good point. Listen to this girl!
Thank you!
As a black person myself, what you say completely shocks me. It seems as if you are only looking skin deep, like as if a persons color defines whether or not they are attractive and to be honest, I've seen people of all skin colors look fucking ugly. A lot of people who identify themselves as ugly aren't even ugly, social media makes people think they must look like a super model to be beautiful or they must be a certain skin tone to be attractive when thats not even true. A majority of the world is made up of average looking people and the person who decides whether or not you are actually beautiful or pretty is you. If you call yourself pretty and you think that you are pretty then thats what you are and nobody can change that, but by you calling yourself ugly and not being confident in the way you look just makes you seem ugly to other people. Your attitude also affects how you look, sometimes it even compensates for what you lack, you should most definitely change yours.
Another thing I wanted to say it that I've never felt ugly because I'm black. I have dated guys who where black, mixed, latino, and white and most of them actually prefer black girls so don't just let one guys preference for another skin tone ruin your self image.
^^^Fact.

[Baby-Kitten]

Oh honey your beautiful NO MATTER WHAT!! Were all the same on the inside. But looks really don't matter. Please feel better about your self it make ne happy!!