Can it ever be a phase?

[Dunce]

Hey guys, I can't believe I'm here again, I used to always post here and I almost feel like I'm spamming.
Anyway, I'm having trouble understanding how I'm meant to look at sexuality in a certain respect, and how I'm meant to identify myself.
I came on these forums like 3 years ago, worried that I was gay. I was worried because deep down I knew I was, I could feel it. It had nothing to do with fitting stereotypes, I just really liked girls and I didn't like boys. It was way more than being bi-curious, I wasn't curious, I knew. I had liked boys for years up until a few years before I came to the internet for help, so I was confused as to why I didn't always like girls.
Anyway, last year I started college, I told myself I would have an open mind to guys but not to force myself, and I told myself to prepare to still like girls. Only, I started liking guys.
I'm kind of identifying with bisexual now, because of my adolescence, but right now I feel straight. I feel like if I didn't have that gay "phase" then I would identify as straight. I feel like by saying I'm bisexual I'm trying to be more open, because it's hard to let go of something I had so much difficulty accepting in the first place.
Anyway, I know most people have at least one same sex crush, or everyone goes through a curious phase, but it was different for me. Even as late as this time last year I had loads of girl crushes and had trouble coming up with guy crushes. Now it's the other way around.
I'm just wondering, and I know that it's up to me to choose how to label (even though I don't have to, but not labeling is kind of still labeling), does this qualify as bisexual? I've never seen any forums about "phases" like this before, it wasn't "just a phase" but then again it is over now. I've heard that bisexuality can be fluctuations rather than always liking both, like sexual fluidity, and this is probably what that is. but what if it's not?
Sometimes I have "gay days" but it's nothing serious or anything. And a lot of the time I just feel like I'm not bothered at all about relationships or sex, like dry patches.

[sqishy]

Sexuality is not constant, it changes for everyone. For most it changes little, others more. So you are probably right, and it is good to not be locked with a certain label, as that can change.
I personally know that my sexuality could change, as I did have a crush on a girl when I was 10, but since I have been attracted to the same gender since I was 12 so much, I see myself as gay. But I am also bi-curious, because I have had my rare and fleeting attractions to girls.
Be open to change, I guess. But be comfortable with what you are now.

[Hallie]

I was outed as a lesbian by my former best friend, and although I hated everything at the time, I think in the long run, it helped me :) If she hadn't told everyone last year, I wouldn't have been out now, and it would be yet another heavy burden I'd have to carry.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Hey guys, I can't believe I'm here again, I used to always post here and I almost feel like I'm spamming.
Anyway, I'm having trouble understanding how I'm meant to look at sexuality in a certain respect, and how I'm meant to identify myself.
I came on these forums like 3 years ago, worried that I was gay. I was worried because deep down I knew I was, I could feel it. It had nothing to do with fitting stereotypes, I just really liked girls and I didn't like boys. It was way more than being bi-curious, I wasn't curious, I knew. I had liked boys for years up until a few years before I came to the internet for help, so I was confused as to why I didn't always like girls.
Anyway, last year I started college, I told myself I would have an open mind to guys but not to force myself, and I told myself to prepare to still like girls. Only, I started liking guys.
I'm kind of identifying with bisexual now, because of my adolescence, but right now I feel straight. I feel like if I didn't have that gay "phase" then I would identify as straight. I feel like by saying I'm bisexual I'm trying to be more open, because it's hard to let go of something I had so much difficulty accepting in the first place.
Anyway, I know most people have at least one same sex crush, or everyone goes through a curious phase, but it was different for me. Even as late as this time last year I had loads of girl crushes and had trouble coming up with guy crushes. Now it's the other way around.
I'm just wondering, and I know that it's up to me to choose how to label (even though I don't have to, but not labeling is kind of still labeling), does this qualify as bisexual? I've never seen any forums about "phases" like this before, it wasn't "just a phase" but then again it is over now. I've heard that bisexuality can be fluctuations rather than always liking both, like sexual fluidity, and this is probably what that is. but what if it's not?
Sometimes I have "gay days" but it's nothing serious or anything. And a lot of the time I just feel like I'm not bothered at all about relationships or sex, like dry patches.


Maybe some of how you feel is due to the guys you now know and how you respond to them as opposed to the boys at school.

You sound concerned about how you feel

fluctuations rather than always liking both, like sexual fluidity, and this is probably what that is. but what if it's not?

and its ok to feel as you do - days when you are not bothered - days when you feel gay whatever

Is life good are you happy -

[teen.jpg]

I don't think it can be a phase. The way I see it is that "choosing" a label is somewhat of a guessing game. Sometimes you're just wrong.

[AbyssalLight7]

You are what you are, it could have been a sorta extreme curiosity/trying to figure it out thing, if you feel that you are strait then say you're strait.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Occasionally fluctuation will occur, even if you know your sexuality, and know it well.