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dsi411
October 14th, 2013, 10:47 PM
Just wondering

Selective Mutism
From Selective Mutism Center (http://www.selectivemutismcenter.org/aboutus/WhatisSelectiveMutism)
Excerpt
Selective Mutism is a complex childhood anxiety disorder characterized by a childs inability to speak and communicate effectively in select social settings, such as school. These children are able to speak and communicate in settings where they are comfortable, secure, and relaxed.

More than 90% of children with Selective Mutism also have social phobia or social anxiety.This disorder is quite debilitating and painful to the child. Children and adolescents with Selective Mutism have an actual FEAR of speaking and of social interactions where there is an expectation to speak and communicate. Many children with Selective Mutism have great difficulty responding or initiating communication in a nonverbal manner; therefore social engagement may be compromised in many children when confronted by others or in an overwhelming setting where they sense a feeling of expectation.

Not all children manifest their anxiety in the same way. Some may be completely mute and unable to speak or communicate to anyone in a social setting, others may be able to speak to a select few or perhaps whisper. Some children may stand motionless with fear as they are confronted with specific social settings. They may freeze, be expressionless, unemotional and may be socially isolated. Less severely affected children may look relaxed and carefree, and are able to socialize with one or a few children but are unable to speak and effectively communicate to teachers or most/all peers.

When compared to the typically shy and timid child, most children with Selective Mutism are at the extreme end of the spectrum for timidity and shyness.

ksdnfkfr
October 14th, 2013, 11:08 PM
I had it for a long time because of my autism.
I did not talk at all until I was three, and then up until I was 6, there were very few people I would say a single word to. Even still I clam up especially when I'm dragged off to something like a wedding. Grown ups who know my parents will come up to me and ask me if I remember them and stuff, and I can't get a word out. That's probably why I "talk" so much on the forums.

conniption
October 14th, 2013, 11:16 PM
Sounds like a horrible thing for a kid to have. Yikes.

dsi411
October 14th, 2013, 11:48 PM
I had it for a long time because of my autism.
I did not talk at all until I was three, and then up until I was 6, there were very few people I would say a single word to. Even still I clam up especially when I'm dragged off to something like a wedding. Grown ups who know my parents will come up to me and ask me if I remember them and stuff, and I can't get a word out. That's probably why I "talk" so much on the forums.

Hmm, I wonder if it is related to autism since my brother has autism and I have this.

ksdnfkfr
October 15th, 2013, 12:18 AM
Hmm, I wonder if it is related to autism since my brother has autism and I have this.

If the selective mutism is due to neurological wiring, I would think they could be said to be in the same family.

Melodic
October 15th, 2013, 08:31 PM
Yeah I also have it, guess I would see why since I have really bad anxiety and Autism. I didn't even talk to any of my friends or most family til 2nd grade. And I still can't talk to many people who aren't close to me.

Elysium
October 15th, 2013, 08:35 PM
I've heard of this. I did community service for an elementary school last year, and the coordinator I worked with had to work with a girl with selective mutism. She would only speak if the two of them were alone, and even then, only in whispers.

dsi411
October 15th, 2013, 10:23 PM
Yeah I also have it, guess I would see why since I have really bad anxiety and Autism. I didn't even talk to any of my friends or most family til 2nd grade. And I still can't talk to many people who aren't close to me.

You have friends even though you have selective mutism? Wow, how did you get them? They must've come to you, right?

Luminous
October 15th, 2013, 10:30 PM
Surprisingly yes I have heard of it. I have no personal experiences with selective mutism, and I've never personally met anyone who has. It sounds very sad and stressful and of course my deepest sympathies to anyone who does experience it. In a way it reminds me of my brain. I talk freely and always have, I open up the first few pages of my book, the exposition, but we never get to the rising action or the climax. I keep away from other people. And they don't know.

Just read that. WTF?

Melodic
October 16th, 2013, 05:35 AM
You have friends even though you have selective mutism? Wow, how did you get them? They must've come to you, right?

Yeah pretty much. One friend came up to me and I ended meeting all his friends and we all became friends. It's usually how it goes for me. Plus I learned a lot because my mom and therapist helped me with it so it's not as bad now.

dsi411
October 16th, 2013, 05:35 PM
Yeah pretty much. One friend came up to me and I ended meeting all his friends and we all became friends. It's usually how it goes for me. Plus I learned a lot because my mom and therapist helped me with it so it's not as bad now.

Well that's good. I go to therapy too.

JamesSuperBoy
October 17th, 2013, 10:25 AM
I know a boy who has this - or very similar.

Katiya
October 18th, 2013, 12:10 AM
No but I've heard of the symptoms but I did not know there was a name. Just extremely shy.

ksdnfkfr
October 18th, 2013, 01:28 AM
Yeah pretty much. One friend came up to me and I ended meeting all his friends and we all became friends. It's usually how it goes for me. Plus I learned a lot because my mom and therapist helped me with it so it's not as bad now.

Yep, it was the same way for me too. One person who took and interest in me and then included me with his group of friends. Outside of my parents and my cousin, he is the only person I'm able to have any kind of a regular conversation with.