I need major help :(

[mymainman]

(sorry for the long read) So ive been dating my girlfriend for about three weeks now and we have known each other for about a year. She told me she liked me when we first met and i really had no interest, 10 months pass and i really find traits in this girl that i like and i ask her out and she says yes. Its all good up to now and i tell my mom i have a girlfriend and shes says if your happy im happy. But my mom never asks about my girlfriend. Then one day i change my relationship status on facebook to in a relationship and my mom flips (she is also a single mom.) she goes on how when we break up there is gunna be all this drama and that she just wants me because im popular and that she is putting stress on me when my mom has never even met the girl. I then figure out i left my facebook logged in on her computer and she went through my messages so thats why she is saying these things about her. I then proceed to say if your gunna say all these things then you should get to know her and she goes on saying damn you ive been asked out by men and ive turned it down for this family and how i was being so selfish and always ask to go over and how im not thinking of my family. I really need some advice because i tried talking to her about our argument on the topic and she just turnt me down. I hangout with my girlfriend one max twice and week and my mom is being anything but supportive. I REALLY NEED HELP :(

[mymainman]

legit if anyone could help ive been feeling depressed ever since i had this huge argument with my mom and i dont know what to do or say to fix my problem

[tundravortex]

some mothers are like that they just dont want to have drama start with your family and her family and have an all out war between you too and maybe your mother been hurt to many times and cant handle a relationship anymore so anything is possible

[mymainman]

thanks man that actually makes sense and i havnt really thought of that

[Living For Love]

My mum's sister got divorced some years ago, it gaves all our family a lot of problems, and since then my mom feels really scared whenever someone mentions something like this to her: "Oh, when your kids marry and have children..." and then she just starts to say: "Oh, no, I wish they'll be single forever", she just can't imagine me or my brother in a relationship with anyone because then she just thinks about her sister and how me, her and my brother could get affected if our relationships also went wrong.

Your mum might also have some kind of "trauma", she's affraid and she only wants to protect you, I guess, although she might not be doing that in the wisest way. Just give her some time, you need to show her that you are responsible and that the relationship you have with your girlfriend is a healthy one.

[sqishy]

My mum's sister got divorced some years ago, it gaves all our family a lot of problems, and since then my mom feels really scared whenever someone mentions something like this to her: "Oh, when your kids marry and have children..." and then she just starts to say: "Oh, no, I wish they'll be single forever", she just can't imagine me or my brother in a relationship with anyone because then she just thinks about her sister and how me, her and my brother could get affected if our relationships also went wrong.

Your mum might also have some kind of "trauma", she's affraid and she only wants to protect you, I guess, although she might not be doing that in the wisest way. Just give her some time, you need to show her that you are responsible and that the relationship you have with your girlfriend is a healthy one.

Yes. Prove to your mom that she can trust you in this situation.