this friend of mine....

[electric7rocker]

my friend stopped cutting about 4 months ago and hes done really good... but now hes depressed all the time and he keeps talking about how funny itd be if he just went and died. and i dont know what to tell him anymore... he wont talk to therapist, barely even me... and he doesnt know whats making him so sad except that a bunch of people hate him.
any idea what i can say to help him?

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

"...except that a bunch of people hate him." Well that can't be doing wonders for his self-esteem. My advice is to assure your friend that even though some people may not like him, other people do. Let him know you're one of those people and that you want to help him out the best you can. When he talks about how "funny" it'd be if he died, let him know you'd really miss him and that death is not a funny thing. I think that part of the reason people say things like "No would would miss me anyways" is because whether they realize it or not, they have doubts that people really do care about them and want to hear it from someone. Assure him you're there for him, but don't pressure him to divulge his deepest darkest secrets. He'll talk to you about his depression if/when he's ready. Right now he just needs to know that he's got people who are about him and are there for him.

[thesphinx]

I agree with Teeny make sure he knows you care about him, I highly suggest you go to an adult who can help him better because a lot of the time when people act like that its a cry for help and usually they will not ask for help and it will be too late! please talk to someone!

[byee]

My advice is short and to the point: Tell either your parents or his. Or both.

Someone who has a history of cutting/self injury is in need of serious help, and when they have this history AND they're talking about death, this is not something to either take lightly, or try to address yourself. A good friend recognizes both what their bud needs, as well as their own limitations in providing this. Tell him he needs to talk with the responsible adults in his life, and work on an immediate (As in 'Let's go now') plan to go to them, with your presence and support.

[Hyper]

Yeah I agree you need to tell his parents if they are the kind of people who can be considered parents :P ( I am guessing they are but since you're post isn't informative at all.. )

Anyway I've got nothing to add here but better tell his parents since he sounds like a very emotional guy who could do it out of the blind one night.