relationship problems HELP!!

[Jungle]

I know I haven't posted here in a long time, I just wanted some outside opinion..!

Well I'm bi, i've totally got that now :) However, there's this guy I really like ( he's also gay, and knows I like him). When we're alone, he's nice, but when we're with other people, he's only mean to me, and since I told him, he's just been getting more hostile to me. Like I said, when we're alone he's really nice.

Anyone know what's going on? Does he dislike me or playing hard-to-get or what?!?!

[Dennis Chaney]

I know I haven't posted here in a long time, I just wanted some outside opinion..!

Well I'm bi, i've totally got that now :) However, there's this guy I really like ( he's also gay, and knows I like him). When we're alone, he's nice, but when we're with other people, he's only mean to me, and since I told him, he's just been getting more hostile to me. Like I said, when we're alone he's really nice.

Anyone know what's going on? Does he dislike me or playing hard-to-get or what?!?!

Seeing as I've had this happen to me a many of time (by girls) I have to say that its because he doesn't want other people knowing he likes you or is embarrased to show that he likes you infront of others. I'm sorry to say that man..

[Jungle]

"Seeing as I've had this happen to me a many of time (by girls) I have to say that its because he doesn't want other people knowing he likes you or is embarrassed to show that he likes you infront of others. I'm sorry to say that man.."

Sorry, I don't know how to quote on here.. No need to apologise, it's refreshing to hear some outside voices..! And besides, I'd rather he liked me and didn't show it, than he didnt like me, and did show it..!

Thanks :)

[1_21Guns]

"Seeing as I've had this happen to me a many of time (by girls) I have to say that its because he doesn't want other people knowing he likes you or is embarrassed to show that he likes you infront of others. I'm sorry to say that man.."

Sorry, I don't know how to quote on here.. No need to apologise, it's refreshing to hear some outside voices..! And besides, I'd rather he liked me and didn't show it, than he didnt like me, and did show it..!

Thanks :)

the quote button on the bottom right of the post :P

but yeah I agree, just be straight with him about how he's treating you because that's not fair on you, get to the bottom of it before it turns really nasty :)

[Cece14]

He probally dosnt want anyone to know aha

[Jordyy]

Well if his friends don't know that hes gay then he'll be like that.

[Jungle]

Well if his friends don't know that hes gay then he'll be like that.

Uuh, well I have a small group of friends, and they all know I'm bi, and they all know he's gay. And yet he still acts like this. I recently sent him a message asking if we were still friends, his repkly being:
" I don't care."

I don't get what I did wrong..

[Jordyy]

Uuh, well I have a small group of friends, and they all know I'm bi, and they all know he's gay. And yet he still acts like this. I recently sent him a message asking if we were still friends, his repkly being:
" I don't care."

I don't get what I did wrong..

Well, I can't really comment with guys, As they're completely different than girls when it comes down to relationships/friendships.


Sometimes people play hard to get like that, But sometimes they might not just be interested.


Why dont you try invite him over to your house? Then if you're private in person then he might have different feelings.

[Jungle]

Sometimes people play hard to get like that, But sometimes they might not just be interested.


Why dont you try invite him over to your house? Then if you're private in person then he might have different feelings.

You seem to know me..! I did invite them round about a month ago, and they were really nice!Even admitting they liked me mroe than they show! But recently, they seem to hate me.. And not in a sort of " I'm hiding my feelings" sort of way.. But I don't know. I appreciate the message, thanks :)

[kylem1229]

He probably just doesnt want people to know he's bi, or that he likes you.

[Amazerful]

He is probably confused with his feelings but doesn't want to show it around other people

[ksdnfkfr]

"Seeing as I've had this happen to me a many of time (by girls) I have to say that its because he doesn't want other people knowing he likes you or is embarrassed to show that he likes you infront of others. I'm sorry to say that man.."

Sorry, I don't know how to quote on here.. No need to apologise, it's refreshing to hear some outside voices..! And besides, I'd rather he liked me and didn't show it, than he didnt like me, and did show it..!
Thanks :)

I'm agreeing with Theseus on this because the same thought occurred to me. It's like he's afraid acknowledging you as a friend in public is going to hurt his reputation or whatever. My friend could have done that to me too, but instead decided to defend his friendship with me to his other friends.

[Questionsanswered]

I am also having similar problems. I just got friend-zoned by my gf (and we haven't been out for a week) and now she is crushing on one of my friends. I understand the situation, but am unsure what to do:
She spends more time with him (which is why she left me) because he is more of a social person and lives a lot closer to her than i do.
He takes things fast
She likes things fast.
I am slower, however I am more intelligent than both of them (no doubt there, i know them well) but have not been relying on it recently.
Ultimately, I would have to say that I am on a breaking point of in danger and screwed for good. However, I do believe i can get her back if i get more active and somehow sabotage him..
And that's where the doubts start:
What if i get caught sabotaging? He will know that i like her, and she will think i am just desperate. I am worried that i am.

What should I do? Give up or keep fighting? Both options seem impossible to me, plus the fact that I want to find another option but cannot because i fear many things in this situation.
I could help you guys with just about any other problem, besides dating
I will help you if you help me. I love her, yet i do not know if she does, or ever has, or ever will.

[Jungle]

I am also having similar problems. I just got friend-zoned by my gf (and we haven't been out for a week) and now she is crushing on one of my friends. I understand the situation, but am unsure what to do:
She spends more time with him (which is why she left me) because he is more of a social person and lives a lot closer to her than i do.
He takes things fast
She likes things fast.
I am slower, however I am more intelligent than both of them (no doubt there, i know them well) but have not been relying on it recently.
Ultimately, I would have to say that I am on a breaking point of in danger and screwed for good. However, I do believe i can get her back if i get more active and somehow sabotage him..
And that's where the doubts start:
What if i get caught sabotaging? He will know that i like her, and she will think i am just desperate. I am worried that i am.

What should I do? Give up or keep fighting? Both options seem impossible to me, plus the fact that I want to find another option but cannot because i fear many things in this situation.
I could help you guys with just about any other problem, besides dating
I will help you if you help me. I love her, yet i do not know if she does, or ever has, or ever will.


Woah, sorry for the late reply, I didn't see you had sent this ( damned notifications..!)

Well, she obviously thought you good enough to go out with in the first place, so she knew you well enough to like you enough, to decide to go out with you (mouth full..) but maybe she thought you weren't going fast enough ( as you said) and wanted something a little more fast paced. So, I'd try it again with her, and this time, don't be afraid to kick it up a notch! Likelyhood is she's only hitting on this other guy because she's looking for something a little faster, not because she actually likes him. Yeah, I know what it's like when the other one is a little stupider :L I'm kind of in the same situation. I really love him, and he likes me as a friend, but he loves this other guy ( who is straight..) The guy I love has been kinda flirty with me, many times even, and I don't know if they're subtle messages or not. I know ( from past experience) going straight in there and saying " I love you, go out with me!" does not work. FYI he knows how much I like him, as in.. This isn't like a childish fancying thing, I would very, very willing take a bullet in the heart for him. I just don't know what to do, I love him so, I feel I need to be with him, but I have doubts as to how far he wants to be with me. Is my problem at the moment :L